Mil keeps asking and asking

[Stormi12]

Mil has recently been begging to provide full time child care when I go back to work and even suggested she and fil take my 6 month old out by themselves. I do not like them. I do not want them around my child. Why on earth they think I’d let them take the baby out is beyond me.

Aibu to keep visits as a family as opposed to providing alone time?

Likewise some DILs would love to have their MILs completely out of their lives as they hate sharing their husband. It works both ways.

I read the OP's posts. I LOLed. (And then pitied her entire family.)

I am not a DIL hater who believe MILs can do no wrong. I am a DIL. I am not a MIL.

So you're not banging on then, karyarid?

Mil wants her hands on my baby 24/7. This weekend we were supposed to go away leaving Monday. Mil called my husband and asked him to leave Tuesday so we could be around for gmil and so mil could see the baby on Monday. Always guilting. Always manipulating. So frustrating that husband said yes. And this is why I don’t like them.

It sounds like anything short of you giving your baby up for adoption to her won't be good enough. Why can't GMIL change her plans to see you?

I hope your husband said no.

Leave Monday. If he wants to stay and see those two old witches, let him follow you on Tuesday.

My MIL died shortly after my first son was born. I think she would have been bossy, opinionated and on occasions, overbearing and annoying.

Not a day goes by that I am not sad that they didn't have her to spoil them and love them to prices even if we would have been at loggerheads now and then.

Count your blessings. You have someone who wants to be involved and love your offspring.

Giveitfive. I am not blessed in any way having mil in my life. She needs to back off, respect boundaries, and stop using guilt and manipulation to get my husband to do as she wishes. If only she knew what a thorn she was in our marriage. She is one of the very few things we argue about and I resent my husband every time he caves in to her demands.

Wow, you sound so bitter, OP, and actually it's very sad. Yes, your MIL sounds annoying and yes, your DH needs to find a backbone. I think that if he can establish proper boundaries with his DM, it might make the relationships between you all less fraught. Possibly seeing her less often but for a longer time might help, say once a month for several hours, so your MIL has 'quality time'.

I have fairly fraught relationships with both my DM and my MIL, but I'm happy to encourage the relationship they have with my DDs, and they do benefit from that. It's just easier when it's not so often as once a week.

Leave Monday. Don't change your plans.

It's really not on for your DH to make a different plan with his mum to the one you've agreed together. I wouldn't go along with that.

Thelcon what a charmer you are!

Omg is this thread still going on?

Why don't people get that this is a BABY. It belongs with the parents.

It's 100% up to OP when she feels ok to leave the child unsupervised, even if this was the best MIL in the world, the OP could have severe anxiety and not feel ok to leave them.
I'm sure there will come a time eventually but pushing it at 6 months old is RIDICULOUS!

I didn't leave my DS with anyone overnight until he was 3. I didn't want to be away from him. Simple.

OP I do think you need to talk very openly and honestly with your DH about this though. You don't want it to drive you apart.