To think this parent was incredibly rude?

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Just got back from supermarket today as have friends and their children coming over later that we haven't seen for ages.

I was in the pudding section and picked up a selection box of patisserie cakes and was looking at something else to get so everyone could have a bit of choice! A girl aged around 8 was next to me and was very excited about all the cakes, she went over to her Mother (who was stood talking to another woman about 2 meters away) and asked if she could have the Victoria fresh cream sponge, her Mother then very loudly said "No go and put it back now is that what you want to look like when you're older?" At which point I looked up and over and all three were staring at me!...the girl put the cake back with her head down and went back to stand next to the trolley and looked away.

The two women kept looking at me exchanged sly grins and then carried on their conversation...now I know that I need to lose weight and I am doing so in my own time and happy with the amount I've lost so far my goal is a 14-16 (as that's the size I didn't feel so unfit) I'm currently a size 26-28...I've never felt so embarrassed and wanted the ground to open up...I've had much worse said but this really got to me the other thing that got to me was the girls face she looked incredibly sad when her Mum said that. I really don't understand the need for some people to comment on other people's size?

AIBU to think that parents need to be more careful about what they project onto their children and the Mother was incredibly rude?...I can see this little girl having a lifetime of food issues.

What a terrible and bitchy thing to do. I'm so sorry OP put them from your mind in the sure knowledge that happy, fulfilled people don't go around destroying the happiness and confidence of others for fun.

That wasn't rude, OP. It was bloody nasty!!!
I feel for you.
Plus the poor kid is going to have a huge complex about her weight and likely to be cruel to people of different sizes when she is older.

They were rude!!! And ignorant!!!

That is atrocious! What a dreadful example to give to a child, they should be ashamed of themselves. Whatever size you are, they are appallingly rude.

Oh that's awful, you poor thing. And her poor daughter for having a mother like that

Better to be overweight than rude and nasty

I suppose the old 'I can change how I look, you'll never change from being a horrible person' would have been appropriate. But I can never think at the time!

That is vile. Nasty bitches.

What a horrible example to set a child and what a horrible thing to say in it's own right. Those women are nasty cows.

That's horrible - the poor child will grow up thinking that it's more important to be slim than to consider other people's feelings. I feel sorry for her. I hope this hasn't spoiled your reunion with your friends, OP! Well done on your weight loss so far and good luck with reaching your target (in your own good time, I should add!).

What a bitch!
Seriously can't believe someone would say that. Poor you op, bloody bullies.
If she looked as ugly as her personality she would learn something about kindness. Try and forget about it. She must have a very sad little life.

Take comfort in the indisputable fact that those are two of the most rotten on the inside humans you’ll have the misfortune to cross paths with. Their nasty personalities are their punishment! Who would want to be like them.

Hugs OP. Yes that was incredibly rude, judgmental, and horrid.

Hope you're okay.

That's horrible. Much better to be losing a bit with pride and be nice than skinny and mean. They're probably so hungry they're incapable of minding their manners.

I'd have been tempted to ask them to repeat the comment to my face. It's usually enough to humiliate someone into silence.

Vile horrible person... Just remember this saying for again...

I am absolutely gobsmacked! I can’t believe someone could be so nasty! Poor child having someone like that as a mother. You are a beautiful person doing a lovely thing ( going and getting nice goodies for your friends/guests) - ignore the cowbag and have a lovely afternoon enjoying your treats in the sunshine with your friends. She can sit alone with bitchy negative thoughts to keep her company. I know who I would prefer to be.

OP. . Not again. Sorry didn't mean it to sound that like. I hope it never ever happens again. Sorry 💐

There was absolutely no need for that, but she went ahead and did it anyway. Why these creatures think they are so damned superior I will never know. Nasty.

That's just plain evil. "I can lose the weight love, you'll always be a nasty, vile,vindictive bitch". Is the response for such a vile comment.

Incredibly rude and I’d have politely told her so.

Not only is she possibly setting her dd up for food issues but more likely she’s setting her up for a life of being a nasty, bullying bitch who thinks it’s acceptable to put others down. She will see her mother talking about people and to people like that and do the same.

What a total bitch. Hold your head high in the knowledge that you are not a vile human being and you will always be better than people like that!

Thanks all I'm ok now...I was tempted to shove the cream doughnut thing in my mouth but decided it wasn't worth it and would be much more satisfying later when I'm around lovely people!

I was a bit stunned to be honest (that prevented me from a sharp come back ) as my youngest niece (aged 6) has been telling/showing me about the theme kindness in her school all month and it's been really lovely to hear all the nice things her and her classmates have been doing and going to be doing over the summer hols.

To hear that woman say that I nearly said well that's not very kind is it? But didn't instead shot straight to cotton wool bit and hid...it's the 2nd time in so many weeks I've heard stuff about women's sizes said so cruelly...a woman I worked with and now no longer work with (she left on fri) was obsessed about not being the 'fat' mum in the playground at pick up time (complete madness) her mum worked on the floor above and clearly projected her dieting obsession on the woman I worked with...both were obsessed about counting calories and not having snacks etc which made me think of the little girl today in so many years time!

Ah well I am looking forward to seeing my friends and cooking then a good old spag Bol, salad, garlic bread and for afters the fancy cream dessert selection thing and key lime pie

It was an incredibly rude thing to say. But I don’t see how not allowing a child unnecessary sugar and crap will set them up for having issues with food?

I'm really sorry OP, those women were horrible, nasty cunts. There's no other word for their behaviour.

I'm very sorry this happened to you OP. If I had been there I would have spoken up to tell the woman how rude she was being.