Partner wants to go camping 6 days after dd2 is born

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He has been invited on a night out to go camping, about an hour away. He hasn't even told his friends that his partner is due another baby and so won't be able to go aibu?

Why hasn’t he told his friends?!

Is he usually so stupidly thoughtless?

He actually lied and said that he did tell them he wouldn't be able to go but his messages say otherwise (and the fact they are still messaging him asking how he is going to get to the camp site!!)

Why dont his friends know? I'd be suspect you're the 2nd family if thats the case OP.

This does not sound good! Are you a secret OW?

What would he do if you hadnt given birth by then? with my ds I went into labour when 6 days late, he was finally born at 8 days late!!!

so either he should say he cant go as he doesnt know for certain when baby is goingto be born and does he really want to miss it, and it wouldnt be fair on you to go through labour alone because of a selfish camping trip.

or you know exactly when you are going to hae a baby as you are having a c section, in which case he cant go as you will still be healing then!!!

That's a no way then

Goodness no I'm not the OW, and certainly no other family!!
I am having a planned c section, not to mention we have other children at home anyway.
I honestly don't know why he just doesn't say that he can't go. Instead of waiting until the last minute and looking flaky. Unless he is going and thinks its a smashing idea to leave me at home alone, recovering with other kids

Is this a man with two lives? How odd. No, I don't think yabu, given the information above.

Is it 6 days after your due date? Because baby might not even be born by then! What if you go into labour when he's away? If your DD2 is born on time, he'll be leaving you on your own, less than a week after giving birth, tired, hormonal, looking after your DC1 and a newborn. To go camping?

Either scenario, if he's planning on going, YANBU to be angry. I'd be livid.

He's not told his friends your pregnant??

So he wants to go alone and leave you alone with a brand-new baby? That's if the baby's even here by then? what a thoughtless idiot! I'd email the friends myself, and explain its really not convenient.

Sorry, just read your PP about having a section - how can he think it's reasonable to go anywhere?! Does he realise that it's a major surgery that has a long recovery time?

Put your foot down OP. He can't go. Sometimes having DC gets in the way of fun things but that's the sacrifices that are made when you have a family.

Sorry should have said
The event is 6 days after my planned section sorry.
No his friends don't know, although this is probably the 4th time he's mentioned these particular friends in the 3yr we've been together. They don't live in our area and are only back because it's the friends boyfriends birthday

What has he said to you OP?

There'll be a reason that he hasn't told his friends you're almost ready to have his child . That's not remotely normal, and I can't think of a single good possible explanation for it, sadly.

He mentioned the friends coming back for a night out about a week ago, I said "oh that'll be nice for you to go" etc and he said "nah it's a few days after your section so won't be going"
After at least 10 messages coming through on his phone, I said "have you told them that" and he said "yeah" but they are still messaging him, asking how he is getting to the site, he replied a taxi. He's also asked about what drink to take with him
I did want to message the friend but as I don't know them I fear I'd look a bit nuts

He is defo planning on going and he's hoping you'll let him

He doesn't even own a tent 🤣
Is it drastic to think/say our relationship would be over if he did go? No way could anybody think this was a grand idea? And guarantee if the girls knew I was having another baby, they'd expect him to stay home

absolutely you can go camping take the other children with you!!!!

I can't think of a single good reason why they don't know that you're pregnant.

Very very strange for his “friends” not to know that you’re pregnant

mums Are you telling the op to go camping?!

Well there was a post from May on his Facebook about me expecting again but I guess they don't look at his page.
It took him a long time to even tell family

Why is he so reluctant to tell people?

Don't want to sound negative but does he have a sexual history with any of them? Just because it's a group of women going and he hasn't told them you're pregnant which is bizarre behaviour.