Partner wants to go camping 6 days after dd2 is born

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He has been invited on a night out to go camping, about an hour away. He hasn't even told his friends that his partner is due another baby and so won't be able to go aibu?

I figure anyone choosing the name NotUmbongoUnchained as their username has to be a dick.

He would take them back to his dads

There seems to be a lot of threads lately, in which the man has been U, but then turns out to be abusive, who threatens, if we split, I'm taking the kids, when in reality he does fuck all with the kids. But still, the woman is saying, "But I love him."

You sound very, very young and like you are feeling very, very trapped when you say things like "he will take my daughters"

He cannot do that.

Start listening to your own mind....not the crap that comes out of this overgrown teenagers gob. No court in the land would let him "take your daughters". Just laugh in his stupid face when he comes out with crap like that.

I think you should be contacting Women's Aid to be put straight about how much power he actually has over you. Clue: what he says has no fucking value at all

My advice to you is to let it play out. Let him go camping with his precious mates. Quietly make your moves to end it in the meantime.

This ^^

Why does he think he can take your DDs rather than 50/50.

It doesnt sound like he has much respect for you.

Do you work? I do hope you're not financially dependent on him.

The more you say the worse he sounds and this is about way more than him camping.

Marrying a man who has no respect for you is not wise. He's essentially saying you aren't a good mum.

I know realistically he cannot take them but he'd give it his dam best shot.
I do seem to develop PND after giving birth and fear he'd use that against me.
When he first said that he'd take our daughter, I said total jokingly I'd phone the police then, his reply was simply "you'd be f-ing stupid to do that, biggest mistake you'd ever make"

I hate this man

I do work pt but haven't worked in a while as I'm quite unwell in this pregnancy and baby having a few problems.
So dependant on him atm

OP is the behaviour you're ashamed of something your partner is holding over you? It sort of sounds that way.

I don't think you should play the game of gushing on FB but perhaps you could plan ahead for the few days after the birth. Maybe that weekend could be the first time you have people round to introduce them to your new DD, or he will need to take your older DCs somewhere to give you time to rest - make sure his time is accounted for.

Is your boy from a previous relationship? I don’t think you will get as far as marriage as this man doesn’t seem to want to commit to you and by you’re own emission you say his ashamed.

There are going to be girls at this camping ? You're having a c-section ? If his toe nail reached to front door in spirit you call me. Like seriously.

Vv strange op. Suspect hes another life. Vvv strange behaviour

Actually this situation is sounding less and less strange

And more and more bogstandard abusive

One night away shouldn't be a huge problem if things are going OK and it's only one night and an hour away. But big red flag that his friends don't even know you are about to have a baby.

and you have other children ? There is something fishy Hun. You will have to tell him that NO. He can't go. He has to post his caveman Hut slash tent in the maternity hospital to protect his cave woman and baby from supernatural elements. This is pure primal experience that is going to define and unify his tribe, and most definitely give him the position of Great Shashem (in your Heart). And if he thinks that he can sleep under the stars (and moon) with other-women and other-men he might be exiled forever. I'm sleepy. It's time for my bedtime story. Sorry.

Woke up reading the thread backwards. Girl. This guy is socializing, just not with you. You are not part of his world (yet) and there is little chance that you will ever be. If he gets past the door, let him go, but go back to your parents. Do not stay, do not take him back after the baby comes. Say the truth, Do not cover up for him. He will make you suffer, and suffer and suffer more. Respect is the same currency as Love for men. If he does not respect you, he does not love you.

Is he in denial about being a father again? I would have the major hump and kicking up the biggest of fusses.

Camping with a bunch of teenagers???

Camping with a bunch of teenagers??? shock

This is what jumped out at me too. He's a man with a child, a stepchild and a baby on the way and he's planning a camping trip with a group of teenagers.

OP - you're worried he'll try to go while you're still in hospital? Surely he'll be at home looking after your other children??

I agree completely with AnyFucker !!! You are in an abusive relationship and your f has threatened you with taking your children from you and telling you you will be made to regret calling the police.

Is he verbally abusive? Is he controlling? Is this why you have no family around you? Has he isolated you from your family and friends? Does he hurt you? Please read the links I have posted and find support. I would be willing to bet that your misdemeanours are actually not serious, he has blown them out of proportion to make you feel small and control you with!

www.womensaid.org.uk/the-survivors-handbook/am-i-in-an-abusive-relationship/

www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

Manchild. I couldn't and wouldn't stand for his immature behaviour.

Also he is abusive. I would try to get support to get away from him. Good luck OPxx

@shumpalumpa where the fuck has that come from??

OP he’s clearly a prick. Have the baby and fuck him off. He’s not worth your energy.

The more you tell us about this man OP the worse he sounds.
As someone said upthread, you should not be marrying someone who is ashamed of you. He also threatens and abuses you. You seem quite vulnerable - do you have family nearby?