Anyone else have no friends?

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Not really an AIBU but just wondered if there's anyone else out there like me.

I have no friends, and I haven't since school. From what I've seen, most people's best friends were met when they were at school/university, and it's hard to meet close friends after this point anyway. I lost touch with my school friends a long time ago, and didn't really gel with anyone at university.

Ever since, the only people I've had any social contact with have been colleagues and that's a very different kind of relationship. We'd get on well and socialise at work events, but when I left the jobs that was it (as it should be). People move on, and colleagues aren't the same as friends.

Usually I am fine with being a loner, as I don't mind doing things alone. But sometimes I think maybe I am a bit weird. I don't have any friends I can call about problems or to gossip with, I don't have any girlfriends to meet for drinks, go on holiday with, go shopping with etc etc. I've accepted this as my normal but I can't think of anyone else like me IRL.

Anyone else the same?

I'm not keen on alot of people if I'm honest. Most people are users I find and I can't be arsed being invited to things every weekend!

If you think you shouldn’t keep in contact with people because you no longer work together, it’s no surprise you don’t have any friends. A very weird attitude to have.

Don’t you meet people through your hobbies and interests? Neighbours? Get chatting to people when you’re out? Patents of other kids (if you’re are parent)?

I had a few friends until I was in my mid 30s, then I went to live overseas. I never made any friends overseas and when I came back I had drifted away from the friends I had.

I don't have any friends now, I don't know how to make friends. Although I am friendly and liked in the workplace.

Me and DH are about to have our first DC, and relocate 3 hours away, mostly to be nearer old uni friends. I don't expect anyone here to keep in touch, and I'm not in touch with any school friends either.

I have one close ex-work colleague, and one from childhood brownies, and the small group of people from uni.

My plan is antenatal classes, craft groups, walking groups, a lot of meet up groups, and treating it basically like freshers week all over again - forced sociability, and accepting every invitation.

I have a couple of friends but I only see them now and then. I don’t have any close friends. I hang out with my husband or my sister and honestly it’s fine for me. My days are full and I like doing my own thing on my own schedule.

We are moving a couple of hundred miles north, so we will be more or less starting fresh with a circle of friends.
I dont make friends easily but my partner does. We are moving because she got a promotion. So ill be looking after our daughter. Think its going to be tough, as (not to sound sexist) it will mostly be women I will meet at the school and clubs. I hate the idea of starting up conversations in case ladies think im chatting them up, when I just want to make friends.

I have one bestie and 2 other people I see every month ish for dinner and drinks. But My bestie is so full on with constant texting , demands to see me, demands for a lot of my time, wanting me to accompany her to everything. I can't cope. I have 3 dc and a full time job and a dh. Sometimes I wish I had no friends so I had more time to do my stuff. As it is I have to juggle seeing bestie, doing my own interests, running the house and seeing enough of the dc/being there for them. Exhausting