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To be topless around the kids pool?

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WaitrosePigeon · 17/07/2018 16:23

Backstory...

On holiday at an all inclusive hotel with kids club etc. Got some tan lines from my bikini so this afternoon took the bikini top off to try and sort them out. DH comes over and says it is inappropriate near the kids pool. I said that he had his top off so why couldn’t I. He said because I was female.

I didn’t put the bikini top back on but is it inappropriate? It’s just boobs?

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LilMadAgain · 17/07/2018 16:38

User (whateverthefuckyournumberis) both men and women are asked to refrain from having exposed torsos in supermarkets, it's nothing to do with poor menses not controlling their titillation.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 17/07/2018 16:39

Yes op, please alter your behaviour as you are responsible for men getting erections Confused poor little lambs can't be responsible for themselves.

You do realise that erections are largely involuntary, don't you?

21jumpstreet · 17/07/2018 16:39

There is a difference between being offended and something being inappropriate.

Leesa65 · 17/07/2018 16:40

Don't know about in a poolside situation but years ago in Spain, and France, I went topless on beaches , as did most other women .
Wouldn't do it now, would be a ghastly sight to behold for others.

User183737 · 17/07/2018 16:40

Im not sure my 13 yo would be comfortable with that, bloody males need to get used to it but hes a kid and its awkward. He would be v embarrassed. Its just attention seeking and there is no need.

User183737 · 17/07/2018 16:42

Exactly hollow. She wouldnt. Same as parents are advised to stop nudity at home when children are uncomfortable with it.
And yes afaik erections are involuntary.

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WaitrosePigeon · 17/07/2018 16:43

The attention seeking comments interest me. Can people expand on that? What attention am I hoping for? Negative? Positive?

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ChipsAndKetchup · 17/07/2018 16:43

Oh for gods sake. Would you go round Sainsbury's with your boobs out if your husband did?

HollowTalk · 17/07/2018 16:44

We don't know, as we haven't seen your tits.

Shiftymake · 17/07/2018 16:44

User183737 What utter nonsense! The only reason there is a problem is because people make it a problem. When I was a kid I was subjected to both cultures and the one that caused most harm was the "oh no, cover up" brigade. The relaxed, no hassle, own your body repaired some of that damage.

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WaitrosePigeon · 17/07/2018 16:44

I sunbathe topless on holiday when I feel the need because I will never see these people again.

Ps, I wasn’t topless right beside the pool in full sight. I was at the back.

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Myotherusernameisbest · 17/07/2018 16:45

On the beach, whatever. Its a bit odd to go topless by a kids pool though. You would look like an attention seeker. Like it or not, as some other pp's have pointed out to you, boobs ARE sexualised and designed to appeal to the opposite sex aswell as feeding babies. And rightly or wrongly some pre teen and teen children will find this uncomfortable in their play area. So I think you are being a bit of a dick tbh.

21jumpstreet · 17/07/2018 16:45

You want people to look at you. I find the ignoring of whether or not you would do it in your garden in front of your kids friends interesting.

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WaitrosePigeon · 17/07/2018 16:45

What have how my tits look got to do with it?

Nobody is permitted to walk around the supermarket topless where we live so I can’t comment.

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shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 17/07/2018 16:46

What is inappropriate about it though 21jumpstreet?

The OP is in a holiday resort, presumably in a warm climate, by a pool

If she was in a supermarket or restaurant I agree it would be inappropriate but at the beach/pool, swimwear is normal and as long as genitals are covered then can't be described as inappropriate

Typhers · 17/07/2018 16:46

Is a children’s pool really the best place to get attention? You’d get more viewers on the beach.

User183737 · 17/07/2018 16:46

Youre getting off on the fact people are uncomfortable with it which they are more likely to be in a 'family' rather than 'couples' hotel.
Pathetic really.
I dont walk around topless in front of my own children so why would i want someone else to? And tbh i dislike male toplessness also, so not just about females. I feel the same about shorts which are too low exposing a bum crack or hair. I just think bodies should be covered because its respectful to others.

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WaitrosePigeon · 17/07/2018 16:46

You want people to look at you. I find the ignoring of whether or not you would do it in your garden in front of your kids friends interesting

Not ignoring, didn’t see the question. Smile

I don’t sunbathe at home. Never got enough unfortunately!

Why would I want people to look at me?

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bengalcat · 17/07/2018 16:46

Don't see the problem women have boobs don't see men being coy about their moobso

bengalcat · 17/07/2018 16:47

Moobs

GaryBarlowsTaxReturn · 17/07/2018 16:48

There are women with boobs out at beaches across Europe. It's not a big deal. I find objections to topless sunbathing really prudish tbh.

donajimena · 17/07/2018 16:48

It doesn't bother me the half naked form but topless sunbathing is about as fashionable as a shell suit imo.

thor86 · 17/07/2018 16:48

Some people find feet sexually exciting. Make sure you wear socks next time too.

Wherismymind · 17/07/2018 16:48

There is nothing wrong with sunbathing topless. It's not attention seeking or inappropriate. It's a normal thing to do. We went t beeches where people were nude when we were kids. It's not a big deal. The human body needs to he normalised more and not treated as a dirty secret.

Oh and young kids will be used to seeing there mums boobs. Older girls will be getting there own boobs and older boys will have seen worse on their phones.

User183737 · 17/07/2018 16:49

Moobs are equally as offensive imo. Dont want to see them.
So you wouldnt get them out if you knew people on holiday? Say if your colleagues or neighbours were around. Why not?

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