To not split dds winnings.

[Damnivy]

So my dd just won £105.
We as a family did a world cup sweep stake. There are alot of us, and we put £5 per adult/child in each. We were mostly all present when teams were drawn from a hat. So all was fair. Obviously who ever drew the winning team got the money. Was just a bit of fun.
So my dd won, she had frace. Everything good, everyone happy.
Exept my dad just sent a text to our family group saying he had drawn the money out and it was at his ready to be collected. SIL replys in group chat asking how much the kids have each??? Mum and dad both replied with laughing emoji things thinking she was making a cheeky joke. But no, she then text to ask is it just the smaller children it will be split between or older ones too? To this my dad replys no it's not being split, it's my dds money, she won it fairly. Then SIL is not happy saying how it's not fair, all the children will be so disappointed, and that it would just be greedy to keep it to herself.
No iv not replied as iv just seen all the text, and quickly spoke to my dad, he says it's up to my dd but he and mum don't think it should be split at all.
Now I have 4dcs and the dd that won is my youngest, she's only 3. She has no care for money, and wouldn't understand if it was split, but still, I had no intention of splitting it between my own dcs so why should I split it between them all?
I never really thought about it, just see it as that's dds winnings.
So wwyd? Am I being unreasonable to just let dd keep it and risk a family row in an otherwise happy family, over £105.
I doubt very much that they would have split it if it had of been there child or them that had won! There has never been any mention of this at all until now!

She's being cheeky. Do not split it.
Just say DD won it and it's going in her bank account, like SIL would if it was one of her children.

If SIL had won, would she split her winnings? no she wouldn't.

Your DD won, bank it for her.

No, don’t split it with her children! But I would split it between your own DC by using it for a nice treat for them all. I wouldn’t let a 3 year old have £105 that realistically, she won’t spend.

I wouldn't split it, your DD won fair and square.
If any splitting were to be done this should have been discussed prior to the sweepstake.
My DS won our family sweepstake too and he is 3 :D
no one has expected it to be split between all the kids

I'd say, "Sorry, there has been some misunderstanding. It was a sweepstake, so there is one winner (France) and DD won it. Good luck next time!"

No keep it for your dd, she won it.

Makes it especially cheeky if you know your sister wouldn’t have split it had one of her kids won.

What an odd request.

It's a sweepstake. It is essentially a lottery and is down to pure chance. Did she not understand that there was a high chance that her children would not win?

Don't do it.
Maybe DD would like to buy her cousin a little gift of some sweets as a token. But don't split the cash. You definitely are not unreasonable

She's at it. Bet she wouldn't have been going on about splitting it if one of her kids had won it, cheeky mare. Just say it's going into your daughter's savings and wish her better luck in four years' time!

These types of things piss me off so much. How is it ‘fair’ to split it? So what if the kids are disappointed, thems the breaks when you indulge in a bit of betting!

If she thought they would get upset then she shouldn’t have let them play. It’s up to her to dole out money to them if that’s what she’s thinking - in which case, what was actually the point of the pool?!

It’s a sweepstake. Sweepstakes have winners and losers based on chance. I wouldn’t be splitting it!

Definitely don't split it. Would SIL have split it with all the adults if she'd won? Of course she wouldn't! She's an idiot. I'd just say you're putting it in a bank account for dd for when she's older.

Huh? This is how gambling works,an excellent opportunity for SIL to teach her DC the perils, if she's so inclined.

Keep it for your DD and bank it for her towards the future or for something she really wants when she is older.
Your parents are right she won it fairly and the rest of the family are just jealous.

Of course it shouldn't be split. If it was split everyone should have just kept their fiver!

Pop it in her bank account and think no more of it.

If your SIL wanted the money to be split between the children she should have said straight away "shall we do a sweepstake for a bit of fun but actually no matter who wins we will split the money evenly between the children?"

No way!!! It's your dd's. Put it in her bank account. Greedy SIL.

Put it in her bank account. Unless she's looking to buy something like a scooter.

SIL is cheeky fucker! And she clearly doesn't mind risking a family argument!

If there's any divvying up to be done, as DD is so little and won't know, I will maybe return everyone's stake and pretend the whole thing never happened rather than let it cause a huge family rift, but really???

£100 in DD’s bank , £5 on sweets to be shared amongst the children .

Going against the grain here but if there the slightest risk of this causing bad feeling in the family I would split it
Family is very important to me and I would never fall out over money

What a CF your SIL is!

Don't split it. Put it in a bank account for her, it can go towards her first car or something.

Cheeky cow! Why would she even think that??

I’d send a text in the group message saying “thanks Dad. I’ll collect X’s winnings on Y date” and completely ignore it.

If she brings it up again say “it was a sweepstake! Of course there’s no splitting the winnings lol”.

No, definitely don't split it. It doesn't matter if she's 3 or 33, she won and it's only fair. Her DC are going to have to learn that you can't bloody win at everything. She is a CF from the Kingdom of CheekyFuckery if she thinks that's going to happen. Ooooo, I don't know why, but this has really ground my gears for you OP. Stay firm on this! x

Family doesn’t mean that you let people away with shite like this!