I think rather than be mean and call the OP pathetic and name calling I think everyone should try to maybe see it from the point of view of the OP.
In my honest opinion I do believe that it is only one night and this should not be a problem.
However, if the OP has anxiety about being home a lone with her little one, the last thing we should do as mothers or humans for that matter, is to call her pathetic and tell her to get a grip! You yourselves may not understand why some people have anxiety about certain things And it may not make sense to you, but anxiety and crippling worry and fear of certain situations is very real! I myself have had it, not about being home a lone but when it comes to other situations. I went through a traumatic experience last year and the fear and worry about that same thing happening again caused me to act in a very unreasonable and strange way in order to relieve my worry. It’s very common and it’s very hard to explain it to other people. My mother has it about driving on the motorway and becomes an absolute shaking mess if she goes anywhere near it. It can present itself in many different ways!
You would not tell a mother who has PND to get a grip and that she is being pathetic!
You would not tell someone with OCD to get over it and stop wasting time!
Just as much as you would not tell someone with anxiety that they are being pathetic and to get over it!
It’s really unfair and to me shows a lack of compassion.
Op, if you are really worried about this so much so that you need help and advice of mums net, I would recommend that you speak with your GP, you should be able to handle one or two nights a lone without your DP but if you’re really struggling and worrying about it, it does seem like you have anxiety and there are ways you can get through it! I had CBT while I was pregnant due to me worrying excessively about one thing or another and I found it helped a million! Talking to someone like a Therapist (not mumsnet!) will help you.
When it comes to your partner, I know with my partner he is away pretty much one night a week until late, he’s always round his mums dropping stuff off and fixing things. He also has planned one or two nights away over the next few months and our little one is only 6wo at the moment. It’s a pain in the arse and it upsets me somestimes especially when I’ve had a tough day with LO and all I need is his help and support but I think it is something you’re going to have to put up with?
Maybe he could return the favour for you? So for example if he goes out and stays away, he should allow you to do the same to gets some much needed rest? Have a chat with him and see what you think?
You can PM me if you want a chat without any judgement though?
Good luck with it, you will be fine though 🙂