To tell DP to say no to MIL

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My DPs father died some years ago and his sister live with his mother about 20miles away from us. Recently his mother's nephew got in touch, he's her brothers son from a relationship no one knew anything about and her brother died a few years ago. The family have obviously never met him before, he is around 19. He wants to meet the family so my MIL has invited him to her home. This evening she spoke to my DP and asked if he would say with them the night that her nephew is visiting as she and DPs sister don't feel comfortable being alone with a strange man the house. DP said he would speak to me. My issue is that if he stays with them he is leaving me and our 11 month old baby o; our own! We live in a quiet rural area, I don't like being alone here. DP says it's just to reassure his mother and sister but now I have to arrange to stay somewhere else or ask someone else to come stay with me for the night! AIBU to tell DP to say no to is mother and that she should put the nephew up in the local hotel. TBH If the nephew turns out to be a weirdo I don't really like the idea of DP having to deal with the situation either!

The OP does stay at home on her own-she has specifically said so.

OP

Grin and bear the night he's away.

I can't imagine a 19 year old desperate to meet family is going to go doolally. But what do I know? I'm sorry you don't get to meet him because your DH is staying over.

However as PPs have said, you do need to make your needs clear. So having to stay at home on holiday while your DH goes out on the lash with his DM and family is seriously not on. An 11 month old can go with providing you can get home to base - or, as you say, your relatives could have given you and your DH a break by baby sitting.

That's the issue as you've recognised. It doesn't sound as if you and his family are a match, so you will have to make it clear to him and them. And organise something both he and thee enjoy with the baby