Mature escort

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Just after people's opinions on how they'd feel living opposite a very busy adult escort. Living in a quiet cul de sac but our house is the only one that would directly be able to see what's going on (worked it out when off on maternity leave before baby was here, lots of time on my hands!)

I wouldn't like having men who think they can buy consent near my house or my children.

DH used to live in a flat next door to a brothel. It took them a long time to figure it out- there were two Eastern European girls there, they changed at least once or twice, and a stream of men. So they suspected, but then it became more and more obvious. After major sports games in the city they were in you'd get an upturn in slightly drunk men wearing jerseys appearing. I can well believe the buttoning themselves up after on the street after the descriptions of some of those guys.

They didn't like it because it was meant to be a secure block and you had loads of randoms coming over being buzzed up and I wouldn't like say sharing a lift with them on the way up to visit. I know it's slightly different in your situation as you're in a different building but at a minimum I think I might ask her to be more discrete.

Fundamentally, I believe men who pay for sex are rapists- they don't care if the person they're sleeping with is genuinely consenting once they get what they want. I would not be comfortable with a steam of men like that near my home. I'm not sure what you can do about it, but I think pointing out that it's clear what's going on, some of the men have been indiscreet and using the parking all the time is disrespectful to other residents is a start. There are plenty of people who see clients in their home, e.g. Counsellors, piano teachers, it should be possible for it to be in no way obvious what's going on but that's obviously not the case here.

You could definitely report her to the Inland Revenue and do this anonymously. She should be taxes on her earnings (regardless of whatever anyone thinks of the morality of her work).

Fundamentally, I believe men who pay for sex are rapists
Funny how male multi-millionaires never find it hard to pick up female admirers (even if they look like Paul Daniels*). I wonder why you don't see an awful lot of cases where the roles are reversed.

*Referring to the famous Mrs Merton jibe at the lovely Debbie McGee

Mumsnetters talk absolute bollocks.
Accept a woman prostituting herself on front door because its the modern and liberal thing to do?
Ridiculous.
I would do everything I can to put a stop to it, not one of these posters would live anywhere near a brother or a prostitute but its okay op, you should.

I would do everything I can to put a stop to it, not one of these posters would live anywhere near a brother or a prostitute but its okay op, you should.

You know where the closest sex worker is to my house how?

Not exactly the same situation, but I was in a house share with a prositute some 15 years ago. She was very young (teenage), alone in the country and was clearly being taken advantage of by her “boyfriend”. Obviously it was a very sad situation for her, but from my POV it was frightening. I didn’t have an internal lock on my bedroom door and on more than one occasion a client opened my door when I was in bed. I was scared for my personal safety and for my property. The men who use prositutes are not people you want around you.

Obviously it’s very unlikely you’ll have a client mistake your room for hers, but I expect you have property you’d like to keep safe, whether it’s the car on your drive or simply the value of your house.
Maybe I’m a pearl clutcher, but I simply couldn’t be ok with this. Though I don’t know what you can do, realistically.

Thank you, I'm trying to ignore the rude comments as all I did was ask an opinion.

I generally find the whole thing quite blasé, and the reason I have only just to say noticed it is because I was off work an unable to move far so spent a lot of my time in the house, whereas before I worked full time and the dark nights meant we had our curtains closed.

I'm not a curtain twitcher, it's blatantly obvious, finding her profile online just clarified our suspicions.

I would be bothered about her if I thought she was being forced into it. From what you say though, it sounds like it's a one-woman business venture rather than a woman being coerced into this by a pimp.

I might be bothered by the clientele. Buttoning up their trousers outside doesn't seem to be the worst thing - regularly wandering around half-naked (i.e. only pulling up their trousers outside) would be a different story. Do any of them seem dangerous/violent or just pathetic? We women often get a sixth sense about whether a man is dangerous or not. Do you feel threatened by their presence?

I wouldn't confront myself, but if I was worried (because I felt there was a danger present), I would report to the police.

How exactly do the clientele affect the safety of your car?
How would this make your home cheaper?
If there is no anti social behaviour then let it carry on. She is safer in the house than on the street.

She's an escort, not a prostitute. She will get paid whether or not she has sex with these men - if anything it will be a cash bonus for bedroom activity

Oh please!🙄 where exactly is she escorting them to?

Yeah the buttoning up of trousers/belts does actually happen believe it or not, I can't imagine our other neighbours would be thrilled but because of the way the houses are/trees in their front gardens they wouldn't notice.

I don't feel threatened by the men but I wouldn't want to approach them about parking in our spot, however there are new men all the time so who knows when a wrong un will turn up if they've not already!

Escort is no different from a prostitute.

I didn't say my car was unsafe?

It's not a brothel though. It's one woman entertaining men in her own home.

If the OP hadn't searched the website out she wouldn't have known if the OP was any number of other professions.

Not like she is knocking door to door offering neighbour discounts!

How did you even find her online? I wouldn’t know where to start. Did she use her real name or identifying features?

It wouldn’t really bother me, I think I would be nosy and fascinated by the type of men who were her clients, but if it all takes place inside her house it is no difference to her running a physiotherapy or tutoring service from her home really. I really don’t get why it would affect you or others who are saying to complain or report her. As for men doing up their flies, if your kids saw that they would probably think they had just been to the loo. They would have to be quite old before they worked out that she is a prostitute. I wouldn’t complain unless the situation has caused anti social behaviour that has directly affected you or your property.

We live in a relatively small village, so that was easy to find, then the men have left comments about details of her home which are easily identifiable.

My mum’s friend was a sex worker, along similar lines. Morally, it doesn’t bother me at all, but there’s an undeniable safety issue. She’s a good deal more safe in her home than hanging out in an insalubrious part of a nearby town, but my mum’s friend was beaten up very badly, on a handful of occasions. So there’s that. Furthermore, if they’re genuinely zipping themselves up as they leave 🤢 then that’s a rank old turnout, and you’re within your rights to address that, though it’s obviously difficult in practice. I’d honestly be inclined to knock her up and say “You have nothing to fear from me; I’m not making a judgement on how you make a living. But I’d ask that you ask your gentleman callers to make sure they’re completely and decently attired before effected their egress from your home 😂 because I have actually observed a few of them at half-mast, and I quite frankly don’t want my child seeing that. Because then you and I would have problems, capisce?” Something along those lines.

We live on a really quiet cul-de-sac, which is off another quiet road. At the top of the quiet road (other end to our cul-de-sac) is a brothel. It doesn't seem to cause any problems with anti social behaviour, etc, and I've no real problem with it, apart from they could do to tidy up their front yard! I just said to DH (who is ex police and really unflappable about these things) if he'd mind it if it was on our cul-de-sac. We both agreed we would not be happy with that, not because of the people who work there, but because of the clients, especially with having young dc. If we didn't have kids i don't think I'd mind so much. But it'd feel a bit unseemly, and with men coming and going frequently I'd worry about safety. Of course a brothel is a bit different to a woman working out of her home.

Is there a difference between escort and prostitute? I'd be reporting her to the police personally.

There’s no difference in the sense that, prima facie, neither occupation is illegal.

How about you remove the stick from your backside and let the woman live her life, especially as it is not impacting yours.

Your child is still a baby by the sounds of it I doubt that by the time she is older or a teenager that the "mature escort" would still be working.

God some people are so self righteous god forbid you ever find your self in a position where you would have to work as an escort to support yourself. Oh wait you are probably one of those who would much rather pack shelves.

@KarlDilkington the police would do nothing as she is not doing anything illegal and OP's life is not disrupted by the lady working.

No doubt when the need arises you would be quite happy to visit an escort Karl but god forbid if she has the audacity to work from her own home in your little quiet cul de sac.

Stop being so bloody petty minded and let people be.

Why on earth would anyone report her to the police? What she's doing is perfectly legal.