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Mature escort

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 10:18

Just after people's opinions on how they'd feel living opposite a very busy adult escort. Living in a quiet cul de sac but our house is the only one that would directly be able to see what's going on (worked it out when off on maternity leave before baby was here, lots of time on my hands!)

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Chickenbhunaandoice · 15/07/2018 13:04

If the space is yours then you could put a sign up stating that it is a private space and requesting that the clients of number XX do not park in the space.

You could put obvious CCTV up as well. But I am not sure what you want to achieve ?

On of my friends has a prostitute living opposite them, she is in her 70s and apparently only took it up when her husband passed away. Her clients are very regular.

lutjanus · 15/07/2018 13:08

Bear in mind. if you take "formal" action and ring council and/or police you may have to declare that as a neighbour issue when you sell your home.

MeanTangerine · 15/07/2018 13:15

I am mildly surprised by the number of mners who imply they would be totally blasé about having a constant stream of prostitute-users around. It's fucking grim. And "it could be worse" isn't much of an argument.

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 15/07/2018 13:17

Also, the nature of her business aside... you’re not actually allowed to run a business from your home without declaring it are you? And I bet she’s not declaring that income to the taxman..

JacquesHammer · 15/07/2018 13:19

you’re not actually allowed to run a business from your home without declaring it are you?

That depends what you mean. You may need permission from your mortgage lender or landlord. You might need insurance or a licence depending on the type of business.

You make allowances in your self assessment

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 15/07/2018 13:25

@jacques I’m pretty sure you need to contact the local authority to get a licence, and yes... permission from landlord/mortgage provider.

I imagine these are cash transactions and not being declared to HMRC..

JacquesHammer · 15/07/2018 14:03

I’m pretty sure you need to contact the local authority to get a licence

Not for every type of business, for some absolutely.

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 14:41

I'm not sure about all that, I'd assume it's cash in hand but the website she uses takes payment in some form, not sure if that's to pass on to the tax man...not sure!

It's like a trip advisor for escorts and I've read some of the 'reviews' some men have left and some of them are just quite odd...I just feel more than anything now that I'm watching out for her and timing the men because at the end of the day she's putting herself in a vulnerable situation

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 15/07/2018 14:46

I'd probably ask if they were any jobs going
Grin. Not light hearted

Beckywiththebadhair · 15/07/2018 14:48

There could be a business opportunity for you here. Set up outside and take photos of the men leaving. Tell them you are an artist and you will exhibit the photos in a gallery exhibition soon but they can have first refusal on buying the photos.

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 15:03

Hahaha, yes as I'd assume some of them are married too! Could charge extra for them ones!

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ClaryFray · 15/07/2018 15:06

Wouldn't bother me but then I've considered it before.

nokidshere · 15/07/2018 15:06

Since we probably don't know what most of our neighbours are up to in their own homes it wouldn't bother me as long as it had no impact on my life.

Sparklesocks · 15/07/2018 15:27

If they didn’t have any impact on me then I wouldn’t do anything. I’m a big believer in minding your own, especially if they aren’t hurting you.
Calling the police might mean she’s arrested, or at least means she has to stop, which could send her into financial turmoil and eventually homelessness, or send her onto the streets to find punters instead and endangering her safety. I would feel greatly responsible if my complaint caused that.

Lilacwine1 · 15/07/2018 15:39

So,..... you only noticed because you were at home more often than usual, which means you didn't have a clue what she was doing before. Leave her alone, it wouldn't bother me at all, unless she was walking up and down, in next to nothing, stopping neighbours cars, and asking, "Ya want a bit a business ducky".

Notquiterichenough · 15/07/2018 15:42

Intrigued by the trip advisor thing, so quick Google and found several sites - another whole world I didn't know existed. It's like Mumsnet, sockpuppets and all.

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 15/07/2018 16:16

Hope you’re not googling from the office notquiterichenough Grin!

BrewDoggy · 15/07/2018 16:26

Grim. Looking at the responses here it is clear we dont have any standard anymore.

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 17:04

Leave her alone? I haven't done anything to the woman merely just asked opinions of others, haha.

It's an eye opener isn't it, as I said I don't have a problem with her personally, just unsure about what kind of men use these services and bringing them into our cul de sac!

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Bluelady · 15/07/2018 17:14

It wouldn't bother me any more than someone in any other profession working from home. Good luck to her.

rosesandflowers1 · 15/07/2018 17:31

She's an escort, not a prostitute. She will get paid whether or not she has sex with these men - if anything it will be a cash bonus for bedroom activity. They won't be directly paying her for sex and if she's got that many clients there won't be any financial obligation.

If she's using your visitors' space maybe ask her to tell clients when arranging not to park in your one? Other than that, as long as you can't see any of it, not your business!

AnnUnderTheFryingPan · 15/07/2018 17:36

Someone working as a prostitute wouldn’t bother me. The men who think it’s ok to buy sex on my doorstep - no thanks

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 17:57

If you read her profile online...sex is clearly the only thing on the agenda...the word escort just fancies it up a bit

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userxx · 15/07/2018 18:21

So it's not her you have an issue with, it's the men?

LightDrizzle · 15/07/2018 18:25

Nosy!

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