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Original poster

Mature escort

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 10:18

Just after people's opinions on how they'd feel living opposite a very busy adult escort. Living in a quiet cul de sac but our house is the only one that would directly be able to see what's going on (worked it out when off on maternity leave before baby was here, lots of time on my hands!)

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 11:11

Also, never once said I was offended and own no pearls Smile

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PretABoire · 15/07/2018 11:12

It isn’t illegal

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 11:12

I know it isn't

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OutofTyme · 15/07/2018 11:13

If you’re not offended, why post about it?

APermanentlyExhaustedPigeon · 15/07/2018 11:16

I think the main issue would be DC witnessing if they are not very discreet. You mentioned you are on maternity leave, is this your first, or do you have older DC? If not, I think it will be a couple of years before you need to worry!

Bibesia · 15/07/2018 11:17

If you weren't aware of it till very recently, obviously it's not really a problem.

Esspee · 15/07/2018 11:18

I wouldn't be pleased if a prostitute moved in near me and was entertaing her clients there. Couldn't care less what someone does for a living, it's the type of people who would now be in the area to avail themselves of her services which would worry me. In addition a local knocking shop would probably greatly devalue property prices.
If neighbours get together you might be able to get something done on a collective basis. Does she rent? Does the owner of the property know? Is she allowed to run a business from the property whether rented or owned? Does she pay taxes? Would her clients like to be caught on camera?

WorraLiberty · 15/07/2018 11:20

Unless she's shagging them literally on the other side of the front door, I find it difficult to believe all these men are 'doing their pants up'.

SchrodingersMeowth · 15/07/2018 11:21

Totally legal so YABU. Just because it doesn’t sit well with you doesn’t make it a problem. You can’t stop neighbours having guests over.

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 15/07/2018 11:25

She’s not an escort is she...? She’s a prostitute.

I used to live opposite a hooker, and it’s not very nice tbh. I dont really want my kids to think that’s a normal or acceptable way of life (her or her punters), but I mainly felt sorry for her kid, he was about 10 years old and if he didn’t know, it wouldn’t be long before he did. Most people knew her business... she wasn’t that discreet.

DextroDependant · 15/07/2018 11:26

I think you should mind your own business if it's not affecting you in anyway at all.

HollowTalk · 15/07/2018 11:33

She's not an escort if she's only escorting them to her bedroom!

I don't think people should practice prostitution in a residential area where there are children around. As for those guys zipping themselves up outside the house... words fail me. The very least you should do is ask her to stop that happening.

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 11:34

According to her website she's only been doing it since June last year

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SendintheArdwolves · 15/07/2018 11:37

That you've only noticed it now that you're at home all day with time on your hands is probably an indication that it's no big deal. She is clearly discreet - you haven't noticed previously and you only saw her website because you specifically looked for it.

I don't think this is going to be a problem with your kids playing out - what exactly is the issue? If it's "too many men arriving and leaving our quiet cul de sac" then that would equally apply if she was a chiropractor or a psychotherapist or something.

You feel "icky" and anxious about living near a sex worker because a) it is heavily stigmatised in our culture and b) we are still weird about sex, and thus find it hard to separate out genuine threat from discomfort.

You have two options: move, or forget about it. After all, you didn't notice before, can you just go back to not noticing again?

katseyes7 · 15/07/2018 11:39

You may not like what she's doing, but it isn't illegal. She's on her own, so not running a brothel. She's working to earn a living. Quite frankly it would bother me more if l lived opposite a rowdy or obnoxious family. And seriously, "leaving buttoning up their trousers"? l can't see that somehow. l'd imagine any 'clients' would get dressed properly before leaving.

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 11:40

Yeah I guess it was just a bit of a shock, I've never mentioned it to anyone else with the intention to make her feel uncomfortable, neither have I not said hello to her.

I'm not a prude by any means, just wanted to gather people's opinions and clearly people feel they'd be ok with it, barring the ones who have lived close to a sex worker and experienced it.

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Biscusting · 15/07/2018 11:40

How ‘mature’ are we talking here GrinBlush

Biscusting · 15/07/2018 11:41

Ask her over and see if she’d be interested in starting an AMA thread

ClosdesMouches · 15/07/2018 11:54

and I've noticed a few of the men leave whilst still butting up their jeans.

Hmm
MissCharleyP · 15/07/2018 12:04

As pp said, much rather that than an obnoxious, rowdy, drunk/drug taking person/family. Some of the neighbours threads on here will tell you that! Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

kaytee87 · 15/07/2018 12:08

I wouldn't want a prostitute working on my street. I believe men that pay prostitutes for sex are disgusting and immoral and wouldn't want them anywhere near me or my children in such a blatant way.
I don't really care if that makes me a pearl clutching, curtain twitching prude 🤷🏼‍♀️

JacquesHammer · 15/07/2018 12:13

We have a visitor space in the cul de sac and they often park in that

If it’s your visitors space then you’re reasonable in suggesting her visitors don’t park there. If it belongs to the cul de sac then no issue.

Otherwise can’t even see the slightest problem

PortiaCastis · 15/07/2018 12:32

Sounds like an episode of flywatch

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jazzyfizzles · 15/07/2018 12:56

Yes it belongs to us. I wouldn't know how to approach any of this with her.

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JacquesHammer · 15/07/2018 12:57

I wouldn't know how to approach any of this with her

“Hi x, I don’t know if you’re aware by x space belongs to us, it would be great if you could ask your visitors not to park there”.

That’s the only bit you need to deal with

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