Is this sexist

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Or aibu to think this is actually just good manners and quite sweet.
So im in the gym by the front desk waiting for a friend to come out of the changing room.
At the front desk theres also some chairs for people to sit.
So theres about 5 men sitting in them and talking. One of them really loudly,repeatedly swearing using the f word. Literally after every word lol.
Then a guy walks by hears,points at me and says hey man respect. Potty mouth then apologizes. Tbf to potty mouth he probably didnt notice me but aibu to think the guy that told him off for swearing infront of me had good manners?

The point seems to be completely lost here now. The point is not that he asked them to stop swearing, it's that he asked them to stop swearing because there was a female present as if she couldn't cope with the swearing whilst the other men could.

That makes it sexist and the op asked if it was sexist, she never said she was offended by it.

Had he asked them to stop swearing despite her presence he would not have been sexist. In both perspectives he would have been polite and considerate.

Comparing an adult female to a child is just silly.

Vashna so the people who don't like swearing are women? How do you know that?

Stealth, I genuinely don’t know any women who would swear in a social setting. Maybe if they dropped something on their foot or something yes, but it’s not normal banter for many people. I’m 40 in London, but it was the same when I was 30 or 20 to be honest. I’ve never used or typed the c word, for instance and I don’t know anyone who would, male or female, but definitely not female. So when you hear this kind of thing out and about, I do find it offensive and DH would be offended in my behalf.

,"it's that he asked them to stop swearing because there was a female present as if she couldn't cope with the swearing whilst the other men could.*

Exactly. As I said earlier, I find the thought that women can't "handle" a curse word isolating and discriminatory in my predominately male work environment. It keeps me from building relationships with my co-workers if I can't banter with them because they're afraid they will upset me. I'm not upset by swearing, as I'm not a delicate flower. If I'm insulted by something someone says I will tell them. Just like a man would.

Stealth, I genuinely don’t know any women who would swear in a social setting

My DH told me that the moment he realized he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me was when I stood up at the table at the bar and said "I need to piss like a fucking race horse"
But I'm not from London.

Fucking hell. What even is reality anymore?

Get a grip.

Hulks, it’s got nothing to do with London, I was just trying to say I don’t live in some sheltered enclave or in a different planet. I don’t think I’m at all unusual in other words.

I wish this happened more often. It’s not sexist at all in my opinion.

I think it is nice

Sexist. Assuming our precious lady ears are offended by swearing he probably didn't want to emasculate himself by pointing out it's really him who doesn't like it.

say I don’t live in some sheltered enclave or in a different planet. I don’t think I’m at all unusual in other words.

But I think you do live in a sheltered enclave. I live in the middle East and the muslim women swear. You are unusual. Your views are not the same as others.

Would assuming all members of a particular race are highly offended by swearing and need to be protected from it not be racist? Good intentions, just being nice etc.

I work in a male dominated environment and often I'm the only women in meetings. I'll be honest, it pisses me off when someone will swear then with apologise pointedly to me, or someone will say 'watch your language, there's a lady present'. Yeah, poor, delicate me I've been known to respond with the likes of "Yeah, I fucking hate swearing, so stop it dickhead" (depending of course on my audience)