AIBU to disagree on being too old to be a mum

[thefinn]

I guess that's pretty much it. DH and I have been happily married for a decade now, were together for five years before marrying. We are happy as it is with our pets but I would love to be a mum. I get down however anytime if I mention this to family and friends however. They all feel we are too old, both having turned 34 this summer... it makes me sad but a part of me feels I am being U and maybe everyone has a point.So wwyd?

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Why don't people look at anything before positing?

I had my first at 35 and second at 38. Really confused at to why anyone thinks 34 is too old...

I had DD at 35 and DS at 40, and actually DS was easier - down to his personality,not my age.
My Mum had me at 33 and DSis at 38. I remember a friend whose parents were younger asking me what it wa like having old parents and I was just because it was what it was - there didn't seem to be anything we didn't do because of it.Though maybe there would have been less parental napping after Sunday lunch - that used to annoy my sis so much !

That is absolutely ridiculous. Honestly, it made me laugh out loud. I didn't MEET my partner until I was 34. Had DD1 at 38 and DD2 at 41. You are a spring chicken.

Ffs I had my last at 43

I had mine at 37 (just) and made lots of friends the same age. I only ever wanted one but out of five of us only one other had a second naturally, and one through ivf after lots of mcs and pain. I didn’t try for a second but two others did and failed with mc and heartache.

So if you want more than one child please start trying now.

I was 33 when I had my DS, turned 34 a couple months later.

@Doyoumind - so it is. I never look at the date. Will start doing that now.

I turned 34 this summer and hadn't first baby. Really not too old at all!

That’s crazy , you aren’t old at all.go for it .

My mum had me at 36, sis at 38 and bro at 41! I'm 30 so we are talking a good few years ago. She was considered to be an "older" mum back then (older not old), but this is normal age for a lot of women to have kids now. Sod what anyone else thinks you do whatever you want!

I met my dh when I was 35, got married at 36, baby a few weeks before my 37th birthday. Of course you're not too old to be a mum, go for it, that's what I say And dh is several years older than me too.

I wonder if the OP ever did have a baby.

I had mine at 42, 43 and 45. Crack on .

I was still career building and partying at 34- absolutely no plans for children at all!

Ah, shit. Lazarus thread!

I was 41 when I fell pregnant with my daughter. That was in 2015. Stuff what others think. Do what is right for
You. I never found the right man till i met my partner. I was the same age as what my mum was when she fell pregnant with me. Everything turned out fine. 😀

I thought you were going to say you're in your mid 40s! No you're not too old, that would still seem quite young where I live!

I know it's a zombie thread but any update @thefinn?

I had my first dc at 35 and my second 38. My mum has my sister at 40
Have a child, don’t miss out if it’s important to you

The average age to have a first baby in the UK is 30. Lots of educated people have their first between 35 and 40.

Definitely not!

Just had my third, I'm 40 in August

do what is right for you. 34 is not old! My sis just had at kid and she is in her 40’s 🌷

My mum made a similar comment when I had my first at 25! Second at 27 and third I was 34.
Be warned though, they will write elderly in your maternity notes though!

Seriously though op I think you need to stop talking to people about it who aren't supportive. concentrate on you and your dh and whatever decision you come to. X

Had my dc at 40. No problems