AIBU to disagree on being too old to be a mum

[thefinn]

I guess that's pretty much it. DH and I have been happily married for a decade now, were together for five years before marrying. We are happy as it is with our pets but I would love to be a mum. I get down however anytime if I mention this to family and friends however. They all feel we are too old, both having turned 34 this summer... it makes me sad but a part of me feels I am being U and maybe everyone has a point.So wwyd?

[Nothinglefttochoose]

34 is not too old! I’d say 40 plus is pushing it though. Although they do call it a geriatric pregnancy when you hit 35!

[IdaBWells]

I had my kids at 31, 34 and 37. Miscarried at 39.

[sparkling123]

Definitely not too old... these same people will probably tell you in a few years it's a shame you never had kids.

[SpeckledyHen]

ZOMBIE THREAD

[Purplecatshopaholic]

Didn't happen for me, but both my sister and SIL had my fab nieces and nephews when in their late thirties.

[Cazz81]

Definitely not old. Where I am- SW London average 1st time mum is in 40s (i was informed at Nct). I’m in my late 30s and majority of my gfs still haven’t settled down / have kids.

[PositiveDiscipline]

Ignore them and crack on. I was expecting you to say 40 something.
I had no.1 at 35 and no.2 at 39. Not too old at all.
I do have views on age though. I don't think the menopause and babies are a good combo. I think over 45 and having a baby is not a great idea.

[Doyouneedthetoilet]

I was 38 with our first and 44 with our second. Not through choice though, but wouldn't be without them. You are definitely not too old.

[madcatladyforever]

Too old? That's insane, that's normal now.
My sister had a baby at 50 as is doing ok.

[Bluesheep8]

34 is no age at all op

[TinyTear]

i was 38 when i had my first and 41 when i had my second...

34 is NOT too old!

[caughtinanet]

This thread is an example of why MN doesn't need to keep every single thing ever posted, months and months later someone somehow finds it and posts a comment that has been posted a billion times before and people keep saying the same thing.


It's a zombie thread people, nothing new to add

[OlderAussieMum]

My first was born 3 days before I turned 40, my second was born when I was 42.

Kids are now aged 2 and 8 months.

Nothing wrong with being an older parent, but being mid 30's is not old.

[BarooSaidTheBear]

I think the cut-off point is about 42-43 but that is purely arbitrary and my own feelings.

I had mine at 36 and 38.

You are the perfect age. Go for it. But only have one.

[Ifartglitterybaubles]

Nonsense.
I had ds1 at 32, dd at 35 and ds2 at 38.

[Ifartglitterybaubles]

Gah! Just noticed its a zombie thread.

[Lifeonmars77]

You're nowhere near too old! I had DS1 at 34 and DS2 at 39. I think a little more life experience can only be a good thing and can help you be a better parent.

I did all my partying, travelling and making questionable decisions in my twenties so I can chill out, knowing I've learnt a few life lessons and concentrate on being a mum and I don't feel I'm missing out

[Womaninnit]

Don’t be ridiculous

[ILoveBray]

You wouldn't even be considered a geriatric pregnancy at 34. How odd people would say that. I think mid forties is where most people would consider someone being a bit too old but that's more due to fertility really.

Please don't listen to anyone else, if you and your husband want a family, that's your business not theirs!

[Whattodonut]

Average age for first time mum in UK is 29. Which means that roughly half of new mums are under 29 and half are over...
I know maybe 5 people who had a kids under 30 (including my mum!) All my family and friends waited.
34 is not old. Not by a long way!

[Penguin34]

I'm 35 and my husband is 50, we have a 5 month old daughter. I'd say most of the girls in my nct group were the same age as me.
My other half says he's too old to have another but I disagree.

You're not too old in the slightest.

I'm sure I read that there are more people having babies over 30 than under

[MyLonIna]

For me the stopping point would be 38. That was when I noticed my tiredness growing and my patience lessening. That might just be me though as I know older mothers who seem happy, although I would dread being in their position. Only you can decide this.

At 34 you have time for a baby and also can give them a sibling or 2

[bookworm9229]

I had mine 34 , 36 and 38
Never crossed my mind that I was old .

[SwingoutSisterSledge]

I had my second baby at 34 and third at 38 no way are you too old .