to get annoyed by parents bragging about their kids on FB

[Neffertitty]

I know FB is a place where you should be able to say whatever you want to but there are a couple of parents at my DS's school who have to do a long braggy monologue about their kids acheivements and what treat they will be buying them and how proud they are.

This is not for the kids, it's to brag to other parents "Oh I am so clever producing such supremely talented and clever beings".

My DS does ok but at times struggles and it's a constant battle trying to get him through the school year. He never wins any prizes at school, is never top of the class. He feels it at prizegivings and it affects his confidence. I know there are clever kids out there and good for them but it's really tough having it shoved down your throat on FB.

I realise the answer is to block them but I just needed a rant before I do that!!

I am only friends with people who I care about so I like To see how their children are doing!

Sometimes I roll my eyes at a post but Then I just scroll by

If a parent can't be proud of a childs achievements, who can be?

If it makes you jealous, then defriend them, un follow them, or restrict them

I grew a doctor.

He's survived significant health problems that left him with a not insignificant disability.

Damn fucking right I am going to celebrate that on FB with the people who are supposed to be my friends on there.

If you don't like it or don't want to read it, unfriend the fuck clean outta me.

It's naff as fuck. It's worth it to see the pass agg comments from fellow huns though.

My eldest daughter does very well at school, top of her year group. I will talk about it on FB because I am proud. I’m not bragging, I’m just very proud of her achievements.

Why should any parent not talk of being proud of XYZs achievements because another child doesn’t do as well?

My fb is like a personal journal, I record moments which matter to me. If you don’t like it, don’t follow me. But all parents should absolutely sing from the rooftops about how wonderful their children are. For some children it will be the only time their achievements, however big or small, are recognised.

Do you feel the same about parents who boast about sporting achievements? I always find that's fine and accepted, but parents are berated for being proud of academic achievement. I don't see a difference.

I'm in two minds.

You can feel proud of your children without posting about it on Facebook. I can't help but read them and see the poster seeking an element of validation for their own parenting and how amazing it must be, given the achievements of the child.

Equally, I'm friends with genuinely nice people on Facebook who, in moments of excitement, post such statuses and I don't think they mean to cause ill feeling about it.

Parent proud of child?!

Shocker.

Do you never post about anything your DC has achieved OP?

I hate baggers. I've never bragged about my dd. Oh dont get me wrong I idolise the ground she walks on. However My attitude is
No matter how clever your little darling is. There is always a more clever one around the next corner. Not only that but let's be honest who gives a shit. People have their own children to be proud of.
and What about the other extreme if you bragged to someone who's child has learning difficulties. That'd be a bit insensitive wouldn't it

So, because you feel bad that your kid hasn’t won anything, you hate people posting about their kids?

Seriously?

Why do you have FB?

I generally don't post stuff about my kids as it feels intrusive. I know my teen would be mortified!
It does all feel a bit attention seeking on the part of an adult. I know one mum who wrote the gushiest post ever about her amazing child and their amazing exam results. So proud etc etc.
Next child sits same exams. Silence.
How awkward to be that second child.

I agree with mrs. There’s a difference between being proud and boasting. And being proud of your children is still quite egocentric really, although at first glance it looks much more acceptable than saying look how wonderful I am. However phrases such as ‘I grew a doctor’ suggest that the achievements of the child reflects back on the parents and give them a sense of pride in their own part of it.

However social media is inherently egotistical and individualistic so it can’t really be helped.

There is always a more clever one around the next corner.

So? Does that mean we can't celebrate our children's own achiements?

I like seeing what my friends kids have been up to. How about football trophies/swimming medals/ dance competitions, are they allowed?

MissMiserable, I agree. It’s perfectly ok to post about your child winning at sports day, gymnastics achievements, footie team wins etc. My dc is doing extremely well academically, would I dare post that...nope.

A lot of my friends and family live a long way away from me and Facebook is a convenient way to keep them updated with how my child is growing up - and if they don’t want to see it then they can just scroll past but it saves me having to send 20 individual text messages or whatever.

I suggest you find something your child is good at and start bragging about it and you’ll feel much better

I much prefer seeing parents proud of their children on FB than people constantly moaning about their first world problems

The thing is, in a conversation one to one or in a small group you can moderate what you say, so not say much about your child’s achievements if one of the people you are talking to has a child who is in prison or something! But on Facebook you are throwing out these statements to a massive audience, and there’s bound to be one person in there who’s having a bad day or time in comparison. To my mind that makes it not the right place to talk about DC’s irmy achievements etc, but to others it is simply sharing, albeit with a large number of people at once, and they don’t see it the same way.

DC’s or my achievements

Their posts trigger you because you’re upset for your own kids. This feeling is normal. Its also reasonable for them to post about their kids’ achievements. Just block

I will brag about my dc on my own fb all I like.

Whether it's something funny or clever or kind or artistic or academic or sporty I am proud of everything they have come through and the people they have become.

I'm their mum, it's my job. Don't like it? Don't look.

Boring as fuck smug spiels about kids are the only thing you get on Facebook these days other than ad spam. Hence the reason I no longer use it.

Try to remember that their children’s successes are not your son’s failures and block away if it will help.

Ohhh I get this.

There's one school Mum who is appalling and writes complete essays about her son. After parents evening she says things like.....

"The teachers voices cracked with emotion as he tried to put into words just how amazing our X was. Also, my eyes welled up with proud years has he leaned forward and said us that we must be great parents as are obviously doing everything right"

Worst thing is, she's our school receptionist and runs the school office!
Both her boys are nice boys but they're no geniuses.

I could have written loads of boasty posts about my two but I'm really put off.
My dd13 is about to be awarded her school colours for achievements in performing Arts at a school ceremony next week. I want to tell the world because I never say anything about her......I just don't know how to do it without sounding like an arsehole.

I literally cleaned floors to give him and his siblings opportunities. I bust my balls for him to get extra tuition and I fought so hard for him even to get a place in a normal school.

So yes ,I am also proud of my own part in his achievement.

And fuck anyone who doesn't like it can bugger off. I have under 100 people on my FB and they are all close friends, some from where we used to live and had to move from so I'm not in touch with them face to face anymore as it's too far.

I have a good brag about how amazing my kids are I also moan about them being little shits. It's fb it's full of people talking about themselves.