to get annoyed by parents bragging about their kids on FB

[Neffertitty]

I know FB is a place where you should be able to say whatever you want to but there are a couple of parents at my DS's school who have to do a long braggy monologue about their kids acheivements and what treat they will be buying them and how proud they are.

This is not for the kids, it's to brag to other parents "Oh I am so clever producing such supremely talented and clever beings".

My DS does ok but at times struggles and it's a constant battle trying to get him through the school year. He never wins any prizes at school, is never top of the class. He feels it at prizegivings and it affects his confidence. I know there are clever kids out there and good for them but it's really tough having it shoved down your throat on FB.

I realise the answer is to block them but I just needed a rant before I do that!!

It's a great way of telling family members who might be far away of how the family are getting on.

I'm immensely proud of my children because of how hard it is to simply grow up in this world. I love to celebrate people's pride in their lives. We all should be supportive. For some it's not bragging. For me it's more complete amazement and pride in how they battle through. Supporting tiny gains of those who aren't naturally brilliant is exceptionally important.

What's wrong with felling really good about things and being happy for others?

Simple answer: get off Facebook. I did and I don't regret it. I didn't give a shit about where people had holidays, what they had for lunch or how many awards their offspring won - so I'm sure they don't miss me. I speak to people much more now. Life's better without it.

Becoming a doctor after 20 years of education is different from a 2 paragraph post (with video) on how your 5 year old is a genius for learning the igh grapheme. The big things adult children achieve are commendable but swimming bands, sack race wins and photos of illegible scrawl are tedious.

My Ds has sn’s . I don’t think for one minute my friends are anything more than proud than their own children’s achievement not rubbing my nose in it . I share what I am proud of

Our school secondary school encourages former pupils to send in their achievements....some kids just need to keep getting the praise, even to the point where one felt that passing their first end of year exams at Uni merited a mention in the school new letter! Really?

I am proud of my children because obviously they are amazing, but I never brag (DC are in primary, and have nothing to brag about). Plus I don't get it. But then perhaps this is because I am super smart and successful in my own right so I don't need my kids to boost my ego

i find it boring but i play along and "like" posts. There is plenty i could post about how proud i am but its pretty standard/ not really all that exceptional for a child to win headteachers award or full attendance etc.

If a friend's child won a national competition, won a scholarship etc, thats actually very impressive.

Maybe i'm miserable, have high expectations or maybe i am just not easily impressed!

just because i dont agree or share your opinion, doesnt mean i'm jealous

being a doctor is very impressive.

for example, i could have posted how proud i was my child was Joseph in the nativity and sang a solo verse aged four when in reception.

my child won headteacher award for writing a fabulous story

my child won the sports day cup for best contribution.

lovely but you know, pretty standard.

We can play the bragging game.
We've all them at home. The most perfect clever well mannered child/rent ever to grace the planet.

I had to sit on my hands once, an aquaintence school Mum friend once posted a photo of a Headmasters award her dd had got.

She wrote - "For my amazing, genius daughter. This certificate has not been given to a child at our school in over 5 years. SO proud" etc etc.

Thing is, I had 2 pinned on the fridge awarded to my dd 6 months before

I’m immensely proud of my DS. He’s 15 months ahead of his reading age, 19 months ahead in maths. He’s really well behaved and had a glowing schooo report. He knows how proud I am but I wouldn’t never dream of announcing those achievements to anyone unles they specifically asked.

I was a high achiever in school and my parents didn’t boast but they were quite vocal about it. After gaining straight A’s at GCSE’s I became very ill with a chronic condition. My academic success didn’t translate into the real world and I felt like a failure

People can see for themselves that my son’s a great kid and I’d rather let him quietly succeed than put him on a pedestal with a long way to fall. If he one day has a great and glittering career then that’s the day that people will know how bright he is and if,for whatever reason,he doesn’t then he’s got no reason to feel that he hasn’t lived up to the hype.

• please excuse the many typos!

15 months is a very specific amount of time? How do they work out that a child is fifteen months ahead?

They assess them and compare it to the national average for reading and maths.

This thread is becoming a vehicle for stealth boasters too self conscious to use FB🤣the irony.

Mad. It’s Facebook Anonymous.

If I want to point out that my children were walking at 6 months, reading by 12 and graduated with a first from Oxford and Cambridge then where better than FB?

They didn't walk until they were six months and it took until twelve months for them to read? Well, I suppose you're doing your best....

I actually think it's fine & even important to be proud of your DC's achievements & to share that pride with anyone who wants to listen/read. I have one DS who is top of the class for everything, good at sports, popular. I have another DS who has autism & has never yet achieved a 'working with age-related expectations' in his school report & who really struggles with sports day, friendships & just about everything. I boast about them both on FB! To me, the effort DS2 puts in & when he gets discharged from e.g. physiotherapy is every bit as important as the A grade Ds1 gets in maths.

I tried...but then again at least they learnt how to feed and train pigs.

This is Facebook all over isn't it? You can't just enjoy your holiday, you need to boast about it on fb to boost your status on social media.
Got a new car? Share it online.
And you can't be quietly proud of your kids...you have to shout it from the rooftops.
I've been guilty of all of the above. I never post about it he epic tantrums , hormonal sulk and concerns I have...and neither does anyone else.
I think its OK to boast but do expect me to roll my eyes slightly.

I mention my children's achievements on FB. I do it because I'm proud of them for what they have achieved as I have never achieved anything that I am proud of so it's important to me to celebrate what they have achieved. If people don't like that then they can deal with it.

Honestly... in a world where news gets more depressing every day, I’d rather read about how people are proud of their kids, telling their friends something happy and to be celebrated any day.

Could we not all do with being a bit happier for anything that makes others happy and proud. It’s nice to see/read about.

There is a difference between being proud of your child's achievements whatever that may be, and displaying that in an respectful manner, and boasting with the intention of superiority over others. That is wrong, crass and makes the poster look bad.