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Hairless foofs

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Ginismyfriendx · 06/07/2018 01:02

So can't sleep and watching naked attraction (please do judge me, I deserve it)
Are completely bare foofs a thing now? Having had a nasty experience of an ingrown hair from shaving bikini line (which required anti-biotics) why go through that? Nevermind the faff. Who want's an evening shadow on their lady bits?
All for a bit of pruning, but uprooting?

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TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 19:03

Crunchy Muff Cornflakes (tm)

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 19:03

Not all porn is bad though. I suppose you could class Madonna's sex book as porn (and she had a full bush 😬)

To me there was a real visual sense to it of fantasy and erotica. The title track to her album, Erotica was a very sexy song. I love that song, the book and the album. But to some it could just be seen as seedy porn.

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 19:09

Back to shaving...

if a close shave is good enough for Wallace and Gromit, it's good enough fo rme!

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 10/07/2018 19:13

I knew as I typed it that ‘crunchy’ was perhaps not the correct adjective 😂😂 it’s the closest I could decide on though.. 😬🤣

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 19:14

Chinese Seaweed anybody?

(I was going to mention Sweet and Sour, but showed remarkable restraint)

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 19:17

Queen but there is so much more to sex than just clitoral stimulation and penetration inside your vagina.

Having less or no hair can make some women a lot more sensitive and having that build up of licking, stroking, massaging etc is wonderful. To those women, having lots of hair makes them loose that sensitivity. Bare skin is mostly going to be more sensitive to the touch then if it's covered in hair.

Personally if a man starts rubbing away on my clitoris without stimulation's elsewhere with a build up I find it too harsh to begin with. So licking, stroking and breath around the clitoris is extremely pleasurable.

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 19:18

"Crunchy" is brilliant 😂😂

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 19:45

I'm with Queen on most of her posts, but on this one, I'm with Sitting.
Sex isn't just about the clit. It can be stimulating to have your neck touched because your nerves are sensitive there - in the same way, if your smooth pubis or vulva allows your nerves to sense delicate touches in a way you find erotic, then wonderful, enjoy!
If another woman gets a distinct pleasure from her pubic hair being touched, good luck to her too!

bananafish81 · 10/07/2018 19:49

I know EXACTLY what you mean by 'crunchy', I actually think that's a really accurate way of describing the sensation!

HelenaDove · 10/07/2018 19:57

"And it's not ok to say most men watch porn because that's insulting yet it is ok to insult a whole mass of men who are your age group or younger by saying they are all shallow and you would never date them"

yes because they cant deal with a bit of body hair. Queen has said on here herself that these expectations are unheard of in her age group.

You must have read my comment about Micheal Brandon Ive always preferred older men so it goes deeper than what you think Its actually my sexual preference.

e.g Im a size 14 A man who is attracted to size 8 women is not going to want to date me. Because his preference is for a slimmer woman And thats fine I wouldnt want to date someone who wasnt into me.

But why is he allowed his preference and im not allowed mine.

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 20:07

I was always attracted to older women, I didn't set that out as a goal, it just always panned out that way. I never ruled out a younger woman, it just tended not to happen.
Now I'm older, I still don't find younger women appealing, but the women in their 40's are now younger than me. The same attributes are appealing though - intelligence, maturity, they have opinions and experience to substantiate them, but at the same time, still open to change.

Could I ever find a woman in her 20s appealing? I suppose I could, but it tends not to happen. It would take an exceptional woman to do that. I have no doubt such women do exist, but I'm not looking for one, and am unlikely to stumble across one as I don't regularly mix with 20 somethings.

I'm not very visually motivated. So for me, I'm far more likely to become engaged in conversation with someone and find them interesting and appealing through that. A meeting of minds rather than a meeting of groins.

Bunnyfuller · 10/07/2018 20:07

I struggle with this. Mainly because it’s a porn fashion moved into everyday life. It’s a fashion so men can see more of the fanny. Like anal sex, it wasn’t something seen as run of the mill until porn made it so every woman had a squealing orgasm when things were stuck up her bum. Some might, no doubt. Many don’t, but feel obliged to give it a go...and tolerate it because you’re ‘not an exciting liberated shag loving woman’ if you don’t. The hair is there to spread pheromones, which supposedly make us more attractive.

I find it sad that my 13 yr old already shaves her legs because men make women compete to comply with what’s ‘acceptable/attractive and she’d get a hard time from her friends if she didn’t, despite not really being interested in boys yet.

I find it stuff of nightmares that before long she’ll be asking me to help her get it waxed to comply again. It’s other women guilting out each other to do something that came from male fantasy and become mainstream. Shave/wax/pluck/rip what you want but do not use dirty/unhygienic/infections as your reason. Our bodies are made a certain way, if you wish to alter that go for it. But don’t justify why you do on utterly false and judgemental premises.

I wear a swimming costume that isn’t cut to reveal the better part of my bits so a trim and I’m all good for the pool. Orgasms have never been a problem, and to say pubic hair removal ‘improves’ them clearly misses oral, digital and any other parts of the sexual act which don’t rely on hair presence or absence.

Maybe the partners say ‘it’s better going down on you with no hair’. ....

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 20:12

I have to say this:

It's not JUST men who pressurise women. It's other women too. Peer pressure comes from both sexes.

I do accept the majority of sexual trends are initiated by men, but they are perpetuated by women too.

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 20:13

Helena yes of course it is perfectly fine to have preference when deciding who you are attracted to. It's was the "don't tar all men with the same brush" when it comes to who watches porn and who doesn't but then you tarred all men your age and younger with the same brush yourself by calling them all shallow.

It wasn't the topic per se it was "don't put them all under the same umbrella " but it was ok for you to that.

Older men can be wonderful and they can be awful, just like younger men. Older men aren't all in their own special category; some can be vile. My violent abusive asshole of an ex was an older man and my ex husband was also an older man and whilst it was nice that the petulance wasn't there (which is more prevalent in a younger man,) it wasn't without it's problems. They can go from "sexy older guy" to "grumpy older guy with health problems" very quickly. I wasted my youth on older men so maybe I'm sceptical from that but younger men and men your own age can be great!

HelenaDove · 10/07/2018 20:15

Torn i know what you mean. i find compassion empathy and intelligence hugely attractive in a man .

there is even a term for someone attracted in this way...............sapiosexual.

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 10/07/2018 20:16

@bunnyfuller I don’t think you’ve read the posts, or you are one of those that needs to tell women they are wrong because they don’t feel the exact same way you do.

Had you read, you’d see that quite a few women find oral, penetrative and digital more pleasurable when hairless. A lot more pleasurable.

Don’t discount others because they have a different experience to you.

HelenaDove · 10/07/2018 20:18

DH is a grumpy older guy with health problems His heart attack left him with memory problems and disabilities and we havent been physical for many years.

But i would rather be celibate than risk being with someone who expected me to shave my pubic area................thats the way i feel.

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 20:19

Helena again a sweeping statement. You don't know that all men your age or younger can't deal with body hair. My dp was married for 10 years to someone who had a full bush and they were together from about age 22 to 32.

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 20:19

A woman once told me oral sex was better without hair.
I shaved my head.
It wasn't.

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 20:21

Men under 40 can also have intelligence, compassion and empathy. Sounds like you just want to stereotype younger men.

If all older men are like that can you tell my ex dh please so he can gain some.."

HelenaDove · 10/07/2018 20:24

Sitting..... a lot of older men can be arseholes too i do realize that.......................but i have a right to choose who i date. And you are coming across a bit like the straight version of the cotton ceiling.

HelenaDove · 10/07/2018 20:26

Older men are my sexual preference just like a shaved pubic area is some mens sexual preference.

im getting the nasty feeling that the reason im not allowed my preference and sexual boundaries is because i posses a vagina.

SickOfSitting · 10/07/2018 20:26

I'm not saying you can't choose to date who you want. I'm saying don't tar all younger men or men your age as shallow assholes. Older men can be great but many are not... just like younger men.

TornFromTheInside · 10/07/2018 20:26

Not sure she's saying they can't. Just think 'in the main' its worked out that way for her.
Sometimes, you can list all the attributes you find appealing, but there's is also something else you can't quite define, and for her maybe that's more readily found in older men.

I mean, it's true you can say 'I like intelligence and sense of humour', then two people can have both, but only one appeals to you. There's that hidden ingredient... a spark / chemistry.

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