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Original poster

To think this is totally out of order...

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 22:24

DD1 is in year 9. Going into year 10.

Thursday her History teacher took up a meter stick and smashed it on the table into tiny pieces in rage as he yelled at the whole class for someone not shutting the door.

The teacher has hallucinations and anger issues and has taught at the school since September.

DD1 came home in tears as she was terrified since he was telling that the tigers were coming to get them!

AIBU to bring this up in school? DD1 and her entire class were so scared.

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BrutusMcDogface · 02/07/2018 22:53
Hmm
MarthaArthur · 02/07/2018 22:53

If any of this actually was true ill is exactly what he would be.

PeterPiperPickedSeaShells · 02/07/2018 22:53

So he's off sick & not in school?
Surely this resolves the issue? Hopefully he is receiving treatment & help.

TerfsUp · 02/07/2018 22:53

According to other parents

Who got different versions from their children....

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 22:54

They did hear about it? The class is scheduled to have him tomorrow and he hasn't been at the school since the event which was on Thursday.

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FedUpLetDown · 02/07/2018 22:55

So he had a breakdown and is now off ill in order to recover? So it’s been dealt with surely? You can explain to your daughter about breakdowns, pressure, mental illness etc. I’m not sure what else you expect the school to do.

stressedandskint · 02/07/2018 22:55

Poor teacher, hope he's alright and getting the help and support he needs.

HollowTalk · 02/07/2018 22:55

A couple of things occur to me.

Teaching is an incredibly stressful job - especially high school. That's the case even if the kids are nice - the pressure is often from management. I would imagine a lot of teachers are on ADs. (I taught for 30 years and that was certainly my experience.)

A lot of people go into teaching who are just not suited to it. They get a degree and don't know what else to do. There's a good deal on offer if they want to train as teachers - it can be something you do as a last resort. This might mean that the teacher concerned really wasn't cut out for teaching and is really suffering now.

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 22:55

2 of the parents I spoke to see teachers/TAs at the school and they did say it was exactly as described.

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sadeyedladyofthelowlands63 · 02/07/2018 22:56

The teacher hasn't been in school since. On the "cover board" it says he is "ill".

How do you know this? The cover sheet at our school is emailed to teachers only - there is no way students or parents would know why someone was off.

FissionChips · 02/07/2018 22:56

If this is true, which I highly doubt, what do you want the school to do? The teacher is no longer there.

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 22:57

The cover board is displayed in the reception for everyone to see..

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TheBigFatMermaid · 02/07/2018 22:57

Surely him being marked as 'Ill' and not being in school shows they are addressing this.

I know it must have been scary for your child, of course it was, but please use this as a time to teach that one on four of us will suffer from mental health problems at some point. So, one quarter of that class. Hopefully they will be met with understanding and compassion, when it happens to them!

MarthaArthur · 02/07/2018 22:57

Then the so called parents/TAs need to be sacked for gross misconduct. They have zero right to discuss that with you.

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 22:58

He's scheduled to be back tomorrow after a 5 day recovery.

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Fruitcorner123 · 02/07/2018 22:58

if course YANBU to ask for a chat with someone in school to raise concerns. Sounds like the school already know and are dealing with it.

sailorcherries · 02/07/2018 22:59

So you wish to complain and have them haul in and bollock a man who has been deemed by yourself, and apparently all of the other parents, as mentally unwell?

The man is so ill he's ranting and raving in class, becoming physically aggressive but only in class as the other teachers think he is 'odd'? That doesn't add up. If I heard my colleague lose it I'd be checking on them, if it happened on more than once occasion I'd be flagging it up with SMT, if coupled with hearing hallucinations, pupils walking out and the breaking of resources.

Also what smashed? Your op says the metre stick but a latter post talks about the table. If a metre stick smashed it wouldn't be in a wee pile on a table unless someone deliberately put it there.

crimsonlake · 02/07/2018 22:59

A couple of things - why is your dd taking photos in class? and I find it hard to believe that the cover board is displayed in the reception.

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 23:00

It was smashed on the table and it made multiple marks.

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condepetie · 02/07/2018 23:00

So he has been off sick since the incident.

Could you consider that he might, possibly, be unwell? That covers mental unwellness as well as physical unwellness, you know.

Christ, I feel for the poor chap. If even half his students are raised by people like you - no wonder he's had a breakdown. Do you have no sympathy?

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chattybee · 02/07/2018 23:02

Of course I have sympathy ffs. The class isn't even a bad class compared to other year 9s.
I'm just so bloody concerned on how he's scheduled to teach them tomorrow...

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sailorcherries · 02/07/2018 23:02

My old high scho teacher did have a breakdown in one class, because the entire class was filled with horrible, antagonistic, selfish arseholes.
The man ended up running up and down the corridors screaming before trying to jump out a window and kill himself. The janitor restrained him and he never taught again.

That class found it hysterical.
If a teacher has had some form of breakdown due to horrific behaviour (such as pupils who swear and walk out lessons, which won't be a first) then some parents need to take a closer look to home.

Cutyourshakehole · 02/07/2018 23:02

Ooh my history teacher had a meter stuck too, 15 years ago. He used to bang it on surfaces to shut us all up. Never seen it break though Hmm
Figured that’s why it was his stick of choices.
Anyway. Yeah. All sounds a bit far fetched. And if it’s not then it sounds like the school kept him off to deal with it.

sailorcherries · 02/07/2018 23:04

So the plastic or wooden stick smashed, but only so far as a pile that could be photographed?
OP go and try to smash a plastic ruler. See how scattered the pieces become.

Why your daughters first instinct was to take a picture, in class, despite being so scared is incomprehensible.

SemperIdem · 02/07/2018 23:04

People with mental health issues aren’t barred from employment op.

Assuming this is all real - perhaps use this as opportunity to open your daughters eyes a bit. Mental health issues will touch more people than not, during a lifetime.

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