Horrid texts about me on MILs phone, should I say something

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DH, DS (five) are on holiday abroad with inlaws and I have no signal on my phone so I borrowed MILs phone to ring my mum as it’s her birthday today. As I was about to make the phone call a message from SIL (we hate each other) came through saying “I am glad the stupid bitch is not spoiling it this year for you all”
So wanting to know what this was about I did check MILs messages only to find many messages to SIL saying “thank gods the fits have “stayed away” this year” and “the lazy cow is pulling her weight this year” then messages back from SIL saying “it’s his fault he knew when he marriages her she had them” and “don’t know how he puts up with her”
Back story last year we went away and I had quite a few seizures (I am epileptic) and for two days I was completely floored and was told by DH to either sleep inside or just stay on the sunbed. I did have about five other seizures which knocked me out for a hour or so.
There is also a message on the phone to MILs best friend saying the same things she has messaged to SIL with best friend replying back “glad your holiday is not ruined this year”
I just feel like shit now and dont know what to do. If the message had not popped up from SIL I would never have checked MILs phone. I don’t know what to do I felt so guilty last year and MIL and FIL kept saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry you cant help it”.
I now know MIL was prob slagging me off to all in sundry about her wrecked holiday. I know for a fact DH stayed with them the whole time last year with DS and left them in peace by the pool one of the days I was out of it and took DS to the beach
Feel like total shit I don’t know if I should say something now, tell DH, wait till we get home or just leave it

MIL hasn't apologised and has gone storming off to the airport to get a flight home?

She needs to grow up.

I doubt she will get a flight and she will be back tail between her legs.

Not gets flight

Wow she really is in a tizz! Good enough for her.

Have you and your DH discussed what to do after the holiday?

and may her toblerone be melted

genius. That's now my new favourite curse, thank you ruggerhug

OP, I am at your MIL. (Sounds like SIL was always a bit of a cow) Good riddance. Have a wonderful last bit of holiday and many future gatherings with your lovely DH and FIL. Easiest NC decision ever, MIL has practically made it for you, and it's all her fault

Wonder if when you get to the airport in 3 days if she'll still be there 😂

She’d rather go home than apologise - how ridiculous!

Wonder if when you get to the airport in 3 days if she'll still be there

In 5 years there'll be a documentary about her. The Woman Who Lives At The Airport...

How refreshing that your DH has stuck up,for you as so often here they don't. I can't believe she hasn't apologised!

bastardkitty

Wow. Your FIL must have given her some home truths

This is incredible. I take it FIL is staying. I'd take him out for a lovey meal with wine tonight.

In 5 years there'll be a documentary about her. The Woman Who Lives At The Airport...

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😳

No offence hope but she must really hate you or just be so dam horrible in general to fly home rather than say sorry. Silly mil

Stupid old bitch.

OP, you have a fab husband and FIL. Just fab.

Your MIL, otoh, wow. What a bitch. Rather than admit she was wrong, that she's been hideous about you and bad mouthing you, apologize profusely and try to be a better person, she's stropped off to the airport?

Who does she think is going to be speaking to her when she gets home??? Her bitch of a daughter who's just like her ... and no one else. Two vipers. Everyone else will recognize how hideous the two are.

FIL may have to draw a permanent line, too, since he clearly wants to keep his son's family in his life.

Hi back down at reception. We are an hour ahead here but so so hot as a believe it is back home as well.
Apparently MIL is back, if she even went in the first place.
Also Smallhorse I have good reason to hate my SIL as she has been nothing but vile to me including telling lies to DH and Inlaws about stuff she had “found out” about my past when I first got together with him.
Telling anyone who listened that I fake my seizures as they can not been controlled by medication so I must be doing it for attention.
Accusing me of stealing her thunder as I had to have my almost burst appendix removed the day before her graduation, apparently I planned this.
Running out of our wedding ceremony sobbing loudly and then spending the rest of the day sat in a corner complaining that we didn’t let her invite some friends (she wanted to invite 8 friends, she already had a plus one)
There are also many many other things

The only sane response was to apologise unreservedly and then take your guidance on how to play it for the last 3 days.

But she thought huffing off to the airport, lashing out hundreds of quid and probably waiting for hours/days before she can get a flight would be an acceptable response.

Incredible. That’s a terminal blow to any relationship between you and the mil/sil.

I only hope Fil is not sucked back in when he gets home.

Also if anyone questions why after she has done all that why did I do the cross stitch for nephew. He was six when he was adopted and he wanted something to keep with his new middle name and surname on. He is a lovely little boy so I did it to make him feeling welcome.

Is she back in the hotel, that is so funny.

Suggest dh and fil manhandle her into the over head baggage hold for the return journey.

My husband had epilepsy and I can’t wven begin to imagine the shit storm I’d unleash if I found out my family being were being like that about him. Luckily for him, I think they actually love him more than they love me.

Decent people don't mock people with epilepsy (or any other disease) and accuse them of facing seizures. They just don't. There's not excuse.

Decent people don't accuse people of 'stealing their thunder' for needing an emergency appendectomy. They just don't. No excuse.

Your MIL and SIL are not decent people.

Agog at this.

I'm sure MIL (and SIL) will turn it round, but it's truly THEM who spoiled this holiday, isn't it!

Your DH played a blinder by picking up on the plural of the texts, and your FIL sounds lovely too.

What a shame MIL wasn't big enough to own it and apologise. I can't think where that leaves any of you in the future, and I guess we'll never know, but all the best to you.