Horrid texts about me on MILs phone, should I say something

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DH, DS (five) are on holiday abroad with inlaws and I have no signal on my phone so I borrowed MILs phone to ring my mum as it’s her birthday today. As I was about to make the phone call a message from SIL (we hate each other) came through saying “I am glad the stupid bitch is not spoiling it this year for you all”
So wanting to know what this was about I did check MILs messages only to find many messages to SIL saying “thank gods the fits have “stayed away” this year” and “the lazy cow is pulling her weight this year” then messages back from SIL saying “it’s his fault he knew when he marriages her she had them” and “don’t know how he puts up with her”
Back story last year we went away and I had quite a few seizures (I am epileptic) and for two days I was completely floored and was told by DH to either sleep inside or just stay on the sunbed. I did have about five other seizures which knocked me out for a hour or so.
There is also a message on the phone to MILs best friend saying the same things she has messaged to SIL with best friend replying back “glad your holiday is not ruined this year”
I just feel like shit now and dont know what to do. If the message had not popped up from SIL I would never have checked MILs phone. I don’t know what to do I felt so guilty last year and MIL and FIL kept saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry you cant help it”.
I now know MIL was prob slagging me off to all in sundry about her wrecked holiday. I know for a fact DH stayed with them the whole time last year with DS and left them in peace by the pool one of the days I was out of it and took DS to the beach
Feel like total shit I don’t know if I should say something now, tell DH, wait till we get home or just leave it

Delurking to say well done for keeping your cool with all of this OP.

Your MIL sounds like a complete child. Let her go home and she can explain to everyone why. She won’t get any sympathy if she tells the truth...

Wow she's founded home?? That's astounding. Dying to know if she gets a flight.

Just wow, she really loves creating drama, your MIL, doesn't she? She's behaving the way I would expect my DDs (9 and6) to behave, not a grandma. And I also think SIL will pick her up from the airport. They'll then have a good old bitch about you. But at least you won't have to put up with her on your holiday.

Oh my days, epic flounce! I'm glad your pil is staying with you and leaving her to it.

You've been brilliant throughout and I hope you can all - now minus the vile-in-law - can go on to have an absolutely lovely rest of your holiday.

If MIL can't get a flight she'll probably book herself into a different hotel for the last couple of nights

After making the way she feels about you so clear it's hard to see how this can be resolved - certainly any apology will be pointless as it'll probably only have been made on the insistence of FIL/DH, in some attempt to "make things right"

Personally I'd keep completely out of her way (and perhaps ask FIL to come to you) while she considers what to do; if she doesn't get in touch and it leads to a full NC situation then that's what it would have to be

Good riddance to her

Dear me what a way to behave

Enjoy the rest of your holiday, don't give her or sil another thought, karma got them in the end.

What an unbelievable coward!! Too pathetic to face up to what she has done or apologise so has to storm off instead 😂😂😂 what a total loser!

MIL is at the airport trying to get a flight home apparently.

Hahahahahaha!

I hope she has to wait hours and hours and that it's boiling hot in there. She really will get a migraine then!

OP, you have handled this brilliantly and your DH and FIL are absolute gems.

What a stupid, nasty, childish pair SIL & MIL are.

The other good thing about her flouncing off is that you're totally justified in ONLY inviting FIL over or on holiday until she's made a grovelling apology. No need to feel any FOG

Evil witch is getting her comeuppance, I love it!

She must be made of money. Who the hell pays out for a flight on top of their holiday unless it's an emergency?

Do all the people endlessly spouting ‘Ask for the thread to be deleted’ think the thread on The Sun website will automatically disappear too? Slam the stable door as hard as you like - the horse has bolted!

So is she just drowning in her own shame? Can't bear to apologise an lose face so would rather spend £££ on going home early? Wow. Big of her.

OP, did MIL really catch a flight home or was she just being dramatic?

You have definitely come off best with a simple comment that she has then hid, dug herself a hole and now attempting to fly home!
Well done for keeping your cool but not letting her get away with very horrible and childish behaviour!
She will probably not hear the end of it from her hubby in terms of her apologising and having a massive bridge to build!

Enjoy the rest of your holiday OP. Nicely handled! So glad your DH and FIL had your back.

Surely she wont manage to get a flight home at this time of year? If not, are you all supposed to be flying home together? Well, that’s going to be awkward!!

Shame the poisonous witch didn’t bring her own broomstick - she wouldnt have needed to bother the airlines at all......

Bloody hell, what a cowbag.
Enjoy your holiday. Your dh and Fil sound bloody marvellous.

So basically, she has NOT apologised?!?!?

TBH asking someone to apologise wouldn’t make it genuine IMO. It has to come from them, their own thoughts and their own shame.

The fact that she hasn’t and won’t would indicate that actually she’s a nasty, nasty person.

So sorry.

If this happened to me, i doubt I would have anything to do with MIL or SIL ever again. Which would make it hard on FIL and DH.

Your DH and FIL sound amazing. Hopefully MIL has a thrilling 24+ hours hanging around an airport not able to change her flight. And may her toblerone be melted.

Good Lord.

FIL must be pretty freaked. Or does he just experience her like the weather? If she has gone that won't be a fun homecoming.

‘We Hate each other”

Well you are not coming out of this well either

I’m glad you found out in the end. My family has been shit about me being chronically ill. I can well imagine my sil and brother sending eachother texts like this and my mother to my brother.

^ PMSL Way to miss the point SIL

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