Horrid texts about me on MILs phone, should I say something

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DH, DS (five) are on holiday abroad with inlaws and I have no signal on my phone so I borrowed MILs phone to ring my mum as it’s her birthday today. As I was about to make the phone call a message from SIL (we hate each other) came through saying “I am glad the stupid bitch is not spoiling it this year for you all”
So wanting to know what this was about I did check MILs messages only to find many messages to SIL saying “thank gods the fits have “stayed away” this year” and “the lazy cow is pulling her weight this year” then messages back from SIL saying “it’s his fault he knew when he marriages her she had them” and “don’t know how he puts up with her”
Back story last year we went away and I had quite a few seizures (I am epileptic) and for two days I was completely floored and was told by DH to either sleep inside or just stay on the sunbed. I did have about five other seizures which knocked me out for a hour or so.
There is also a message on the phone to MILs best friend saying the same things she has messaged to SIL with best friend replying back “glad your holiday is not ruined this year”
I just feel like shit now and dont know what to do. If the message had not popped up from SIL I would never have checked MILs phone. I don’t know what to do I felt so guilty last year and MIL and FIL kept saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry you cant help it”.
I now know MIL was prob slagging me off to all in sundry about her wrecked holiday. I know for a fact DH stayed with them the whole time last year with DS and left them in peace by the pool one of the days I was out of it and took DS to the beach
Feel like total shit I don’t know if I should say something now, tell DH, wait till we get home or just leave it

I know it's slightly wrong but I'm pleased your MIL is sat on the thinking chair in her hotel room, perhaps she'll reflect on her vile comments.

Let's hope SIL is equally admonished by FIL and your DH when you get home.

Enjoy the rest of your holiday

OP, I agree with PP’s. MIL does not deserve forgiveness for this. And neither does SIL. Regardless of what you do you will be ‘wrong’ in their eyes. I suggest you cut them out simply because even if MIL apologises she will be doing it to save face and not because she is actually sorry.

There is also the fact that they could try to poison your DS against you when he is old enough to hear all the vile things they say.

OP - you seem a bit blase about your privacy. Now anyone you know can read this thread and find out that you thought your sex life with your dh was crap. Do you want your mil and sil knowing about that?? Honestly, you should ask to have this thread deleted!

I bet as far as your mil is concerned, you have now ruined another holiday! Although you haven't, and didn't, and her attitude stinks.

I am shocked that they seem to have zero understanding of how serious a condition epilepsy is. Is your DS old enough to have been told about it and taught what to do if you have a fit? You’d think that telling them about that might bring it home to them that we’re not talking about something comparable to migraines or something. Are they just very stupid? And your vile nasty bitch SIL has been allowed to adopt?

Christmas op told her dh about the thread and he was fine about it.

I was reading the thread last night, and today I spotted the story in the sun!

OP I've asked Mumsnet to perhaps suggest a name change as other posts may now be identifying.

What a refreshing change 6 for your fil to do the right thing.

If this was my fil he would be breaking his neck to make dh and I feel bad and how reasonable mils behaviour is.

The fact she feels no shame and has not apologised speaks volumes. It's shocking behaviour it really is.

I'd pay good money to see the content of the text messages between MIL and SIL right now!

Rosielily you'd have to jostle me out of the way first

eloisesparkle

OP I've asked Mumsnet to perhaps suggest a name change as other posts may now be identifying.

Surely OP is capable of requesting a name change herself if she thinks posts are identifying

Enjoy the rest of your holiday and then cut contact with them both when you get home. You don't need this negativity in your life! X

MIL is at the airport trying to get a flight home apparently. Good luck with that at this time of year. I have not seen her at all. FIL said she packed her things and stormed down to reception knocking on our room door to get DH know she was going (she must have seen me and DS at the pool as her balcony looks over). I think she expected FIL and DH to beg her to stay but when she didn’t she had to follow through.
MIL and SIL think mumsnet is stupid so they won’t be on here and I am not planning to tell anyone at home apart from my mum and best friend about her behaviour. They also don’t read newspapers like the sun (too common in their eyes)

Good riddance. Enjoy the rest of your holiday.

Blimey.

I reckon there is a lot more to this.

I'd stay well out of it if I were you!

Wow what a drama queen your MIL is. You’ve handled this well OP.

Well done op.
No more Miss Nice Girl.

Sounds like she’s a snob (wouldn’t read the Sun), but she hasn’t got any class either (not apologising to you!).
She’s scuttled off with her tail between her legs, dread to think what tale of woe she’ll be telling SIL about the whole Sorry situation.
Well done for maintaining your dignity through all this

So MIL is prepared to go home on her own to sulk, even leaving her own husband (FIL) behind?

Wow. Just - wow.

I bet SIL picks her up from the airport

Good, I hope that she gets the flight, and you can enjoy the rest of the holiday without her nasty and vile behaviour. Let her and SIL bitch together when she gets home.

And you can have nothing to do with her again, only wonderful FIL.

I think you handled it really well. If it had been me I would have text SIL back from MIL phone and said "I totally agree dear, and while we are being open with each other, I always thought you were a bit of a bitch and I've always loved your brother more" then deleted the message and never mentioned it again. No evidence and what could they do without outing themselves mwah ha ha ha!

Your MIL doesn’t have to like you but to be so two faced about it is disgraceful. No contact until she properly apologises. Let her feel the consequences by not seeing her grandchild until she acts like an adult. The problem in future will be wondering if she is being nice to your face but talking about you behind your back.