About being given food I can't eat?

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I was invited out for the dat, the deal was I sorted out dinner and they sorted tea.

I made a big (6 people) picnic with plenty of food for everyone that they liked.

They bought fish and chips for everyone.

I can't eat fried food, they know this and I don't eat meat or fish.

The choice was eat it or go without.

Aibu to think that's not fair because the other person thinks they kept their side of the deal by providing food.

Err nope.

Don’t go out with them again.

No discussion? Just fish and chips or nothing?

What is they say when you said you couldn't eat anything?

Why can’t you eat fried food?

Yeah, they went off for a walk while I stayed watching the children and came back with it. I said I couldn't eat at and they said they thought it would be OK, it's only once and it's a treat.

It's not a treat to spend the night and next day sick

You could have eaten your picnic. Maybe they figured you would have made things for yourself?
They don't sound very nice though

I'm guessing you're from up north and you provided lunch so they had already eaten what you provided? Shame it wasn't the other way round. Is have just left with what I'd brought.

Apologies, my phone keeps changing words to "is"

Do they properly know that you can't eat fried foods and are a vegetarian? You're not faddy with your eating patterns by any chance?

I'm only asking because I have many friends with longstanding dietary needs and preferences that I always consider. But I also have one friend in particular who is gluten free, but not when it comes to X food, and the next week might be veggi but will eat a sausage from the chippy, and then says that fatty things make her ill but the following day will be eating pork belly or the like. I'm a lot less inclined to consider her diet fads and pretty much expect her to like it or lump it.

In all that food there wasn't a single thing that you ate?

You could have eaten your picnic. Maybe they figured you would have made things for yourself?

This had already been eaten at this stage hadn’t it?

Yes the key here is how well this person knows you and how serious your requirements are. I'm guessing by your comment re sickness this is a medical issue and if so, then it hinges on whether this person knows that.

What food Vladimir? It was only fish and chips.

Yanbu OP. They clearly did know you couldn’t eat chips as they said ‘it would be okay this once’.

There were two meals.

OP provided picnic midday meal with plenty of options.

Other person provided fish and chips for evening meal and told OP to like it or lump it.

OP is NBU.

Yeh YANBU, if they really did know what you chat eat, also to be fair she should have asked before just going off and getting something anyway.

Definitely not being unreasonable. I wouldn’t be going out with them again.

Did they know it would make you ill (the fried chips)?

Did they know you are vegetarian?

You eat dinner midday - OP provided a picnic
You eat tea in the evening - other guest bought fish and chips knowing she couldn't eat it.

So effectivley OP had to go without an evening meal - very selfish as she had provided a picnic for earlier which they presumably all ate. I think they were very rude OP and I wouldn't go out with them again.

It's the usual thing of people assuming that when people say they can't eat something, they are just being silly and they can eat it really. they actually want you to be forced to eat the fish and chips so they can prove their point.

pieceofpurplesky the picnic was already eaten at lunchtime.

In many parts of the UK lunch is called dinner, supper is called tea (or also sometimes dinner)

So Op provides for everyone & then nothing is provided for her?

No one offered to get anything-they all just sat & ate their F&C?

They were out of order, OP. Fish and chips is an easy option - no bothering on, just pay for it - and I think their wanting to have no fuss trumped your not being able to eat it.

Just to reiterate: if OP is from the north, 'dinner' is lunch, and 'tea' is evening/late afternoon meal. So she made lunch, they ate it all, and roll around to the later meal, they offered fish and chips, which they knew OP couldn't eat.

It's only polite to ask first. So YANBU.

Did they know about you not being able to eat fried food when they got the fish and chips and wasn't there any other option either from the chip shop or elsewhere? Just buying the food with no prior discussion is a bit odd and even chips are no good for a vegetarian from a lot of chip shops as they are usually fried in beef dripping.