About being given food I can't eat?

[BurpeesAreTheWorkOfTheDevil]

I was invited out for the dat, the deal was I sorted out dinner and they sorted tea.

I made a big (6 people) picnic with plenty of food for everyone that they liked.

They bought fish and chips for everyone.

I can't eat fried food, they know this and I don't eat meat or fish.

The choice was eat it or go without.

Aibu to think that's not fair because the other person thinks they kept their side of the deal by providing food.

It was her ex. He knows what she can't eat. It was malicious.

OP don't do him any more favours.

Op you made it sound like there were 5 adults and you looked after their children and they went and got tea which they bought in the form of chips.
I thought that was horrible behaviour and I would have felt really left out and questioning our friendship and why they would treat me like that
Now it transpires it wasn't a group of friends meeting up and sharing two meals together it was parents taking their kids out and feeding their own kids.
Yes your ex should have done better but you don't get to claim any moral high ground for making the picnic. You were feeding your own kids!
It was nice of you to make enough picnic for ex dh because frankly I'd have expected him to bring his own and it wasn't very nice of him to get something you couldn't eat but he fed the kids which should have been the only objective the pair of you should have had that day.

@Midnitescribbler there was no negotiation, she provided a suitable meal as agreed, ex went and got something he knew OP couldn’t eat and didn’t provide an alternative. Even if he was seriously craving fish and chips deliberately leaving someone out is crap

I know the feeling my family often put down fatty food I can't digest and I end up stealing the babies food. (yes seriously, that little e shit can munch on anything, whereas I can at least cope with a few spoonfuls of heinz baby food) I don't think Its done intentionally though. Because if I say before a mea is provided "Can you make sure to get me something I can manage like....." they will accommodate but they always need reminding and if I don't catch them in time they will always assume "Oh it'll be alright she may suddenly be able to swallow fine" and get something unsuitable. Sometimes they will try n "repair a meal" by mashing potatoes or covering everything in gravy so I'll give them their due.
But it's hard to say on your side if YABU. It all depends on why you can't eat fatty food etc, and if that the case is it due to a light inteloerance or a serious one. Are they a war e of how I'll you would become and did you remind them prior to themcollecting the meal for you. Maybe they had good intentions. Also when you provided a picnic did you also go through what they liked etc and make it to accommodate them or did you assume that you had supplied a number of choices so they must like something. Because I know barring yogurt there isn't much I would be able top cope with in a picnic and my brother although he isn't allergic, sick etc probably wouldn't eat anything or say anything either and would go hungry. Maybe they saw the food you provided and thought "we had the sandwiches snack food etc we need a hot meal and fish n chips is usually a safe bet for most."

@Bekstar I would suggest you go back and read the OPs posts. It wasn’t friends it was her ex who did this.

@UatuTheWatcher I did read them all the way through I didn't ever refer to them as friends although been an ex doesn't necessarily mean they don't get on, clearly there is some kind of fri ndahio still their I fb only for kids if they are willing to attend a trip with the ex at all. Not many would. I was referring to their intentions.

There are givers and takers in this world, no prizes for guessing what this lot are. Did they know that you were providing the food? If so, nicer friends are required.

It all depends on why you can't eat fatty food etc, and if that the case is it due to a light inteloerance or a serious one.

Bekstar, OP clearly says eating fried food would mean she is sick all night and the next day.

But it really shouldn't matter if it's a light intolerance or a serious one. When you know someone can't eat particular foods you should provide food accordingly.

They should have asked. YNBU. (Also we always said 'dinner' at midday and 'tea' for evening meal, and I'm from the south west. Always assumed it was because of school 'dinners' which were the midday meal...)

@Pendingvoices you missed out
Second breakfast
Elevenses
Tiffin
😂

but he fed the kids which should have been the only objective the pair of you should have had that day.

Wow. I don't agree with that at all. The only objective should have been feeding the children? Parents don't have to be martyrs, there's nothing wrong with wanting to have something you can eat and I wouldn't provide food that couldn't be eaten to someone I'd invited out.

Selfish inconsiderate people, don't go out with them again, or have to rely on them getting food for you.