About being given food I can't eat?

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I was invited out for the dat, the deal was I sorted out dinner and they sorted tea.

I made a big (6 people) picnic with plenty of food for everyone that they liked.

They bought fish and chips for everyone.

I can't eat fried food, they know this and I don't eat meat or fish.

The choice was eat it or go without.

Aibu to think that's not fair because the other person thinks they kept their side of the deal by providing food.

So you'd be happy that your friends came back and brought you a meal they knew you couldn't eat and you'd have to go hungry? Really?

Especially after OP had provided a picnic for them, CFs

Are people really not intelligent enough to figure out what the OP means by Dinner and Tea? Or are you just feigning ignorance because you like pretending you are so bloody posh?

@ChaffyMcChaff what? I said I misread the thread, am northern and knows what it means. I actually say dinner myself? Get over yourself and read what I said!

How on earth do you take 'they bought fish and chips for everyone' to be 'great and glorious detail abouut the fish and chips'

• They went for a walk leaving the OP minding the children
• Seems to me they went to the chip shop
• They walked back with the fish and chips so the chippy/fish bar isn't far i.e fish and chips would have gone cold (in this weather ?)

Anyway.

My suspicion was there was so little in the picnic despite everyone's taste being catered for (apparently) they couldn't wait to get to the chip shop.

Unless OP returns to advise what food she provided it will remain for ever a mystery. Maybe it will turn up in one of those periodic MN 'unexplained/freaky experiences' threads.

Ok.

Dinner was at 12that's our dinner time.
Fish and chips was at 5

I made, cheese,Cheese and ham and tuna Mayo sandwiches
Vegetarian scotch eggs
Sausage rolls
Vegetarian chicken and mayo
Vegetarian chicken nuggets
Crisps
Melon
Cheese dippers
Cheese strings
Salad
Boiled eggs
Pork pies
Chocolate biscuits (mistake, they melted)
Froobs that had been frozen
Various fruit

The back story is.. It was me, my ex and our 4 children, he wanted to take them out but can't watch them all so invited me.

It was me, my ex and our 4 children, he wanted to take them out but can't watch them all so invited me.

So it was one person who knew your dietary requirements, and that one person is your ex?

YABVU to be remotely surprised that this happened. YANBRU to be pissed off.

I know it was a drip feed and I'm sorry about that but I wasn't sure if I was over reacting because it was him

Breakfast
Brunch
Lunch(eon)
Afternoon Tea
High Tea
Dinner
Supper

Just to add to the naming of meals debate!

Call a plumber that's one hell of a drip drip drip there...

Ok he does sound like a w*nker then.
Is there anything you can eat from the chippie had he asked you what you wanted?

So you fed your 4 dcs one meal and he fed them all something all four presumably wanted at teatime. Tbh l can't imagine they would want to eat another cold meal and there's not much in the way of hot takeaway food that's not fried/greasy etc.

YANBU. They should have provided food that everyone can eat and likes. I definitely would not do this ‘you organise this meal, I’ll organise that meal’ with this person. Do a picnic next time where you bring your own food, or go to a restaurant. But don’t forget that this person completely disregarded you and didn’t care that they ruined your day...

- They went for a walk leaving the OP minding the children
- Seems to me they went to the chip shop
- They walked back with the fish and chips so the chippy/fish bar isn't
far i.e fish and chips would have gone cold (in this weather ?

You've really padded that out, To Early!

Burpees Basically you never do the fucker a favour again. Poor ickle precious couldn't watch all his kids. How does he think you manage every day?

You did your an ex a favour and it bit you on the arse. Now that’s why they’re your ex. Don’t roll out the welcome mat next time.

So a whole five pages of debate with some lunch is dinner no dinner is tea thrown in for good measure. Just to find out that the OP's ex has let her down again.

He knows OP doesn't like fried food or eat fish but, um, hard luck the kids do so she'll just have to muddle along.

There's nothing at the chip shop/fish bar that would have been suitable for the OP to eat. Well, except for pickled egg/onion/gherkin. For tea ? Great.

Could the OP not have ordered a vegetarian pizza to be delivered to her home if the ex agreed to pay for it ?

*They went for a walk leaving the OP minding the children

• Seems to me they went to the chip shop
• They walked back with the fish and chips so the chippy/fish bar isn't

far i.e fish and chips would have gone cold (in this weather ?

You've really padded that out, To Early!*

Using the facts as padding ? Hardly.

Oh for fuck's sake. He was unreasonable not to have got you something you would eat. You were more unreasonable to do a drip feed to rival Niagara Falls.

Yes your ex was a selfish wanker, but I’m guessing that’s why he’s you’re ex.

@@pieceofpurplesky apologies...my comment was directed at @ParentInCharge not you! It was the drop down 'p' when I clicked 😳. Grovelling slinking off...😢

When I was growing up about 60 years ago in England even in the south lunch (the meal eaten around noon) was called dinner and dinner/supper (the last meal of the day) was called tea.

Funny thing, I live in the U.S. now and my in-laws here who have British roots and born in the early part of the 1900’s called lunch ‘dinner’.

And anyone who pretends not to have understood the names of the meals is is a Grade A1 Mega Dick.

Are people really not intelligent enough to figure out what the OP means by Dinner and Tea? Or are you just feigning ignorance because you like pretending you are so bloody posh?

Pretty much! It's like a weak attempt to look superior, I think it's the heat bringing it out in people

Well OP, you know what to say the next time he asks for a favour

yeah he did it to spite you
but I see why you didn't mention it as all the other times he let you down will be in the back of your mind, so you wanted to make it sound neutral.

I've got family members who are vegetarian, a couple who are coeliac, a son who doesn't like chocolate/milk/ice cream or cream and a mum who is diabetic.

Aaagh!

Among DP, his siblings and all the various partners, we have: a vegan, who is also gluten intolerant; a vegetarian, a person without any ethical considerations who is wheat and dairy intolerant, one who hates anything with cream, mayo or any sort of creamy sauce but is happy to eat ice cream or custard (?), an omnivore who is wheat intolerant, a fish-hater, one who doesn't like anything "foreign" and one who won't any vegetables except potatoes! DP is the only one who will eat anything, although my only real no-no is mussels, which make me violently ill.

MIL occasionally hosts a lunch which involves making a range of shepherd's pies, one with TVP for the vegetarians/vegans. We've found that easiest thing is a roast dinner with a nut roast for the non-meat eaters and fruit salad for dessert.

There was a suggestion that we all have a big group holiday for MIL's 80th, but I frankly couldn't cope with the catering complexities for more than one day. And most of them don't really cook, either, so it would be down to us more often than not!

Haha @ChaffyMcChaff you are forgiven - not least for your username which reminds me of my rather ample thigh problem!
Anyway I'm off for me tea now.

Again, it depends! How close the friends are for a start, and also (and this is why the reason for the dietary requirements are important) it could be that OP changes her mind. It could be that OP had wrinkled her nose in disgust at 48 suggestions put forward and everyone else had thrown their hands up in despair. It might be that OP provided a lovely vegetarian picnic for someone who can't eat cheese...

And you are right @MilkTwoSugarsThanks! I assumed the other people were actual 'friends' who should know better not a bloomin drip feed the size of Australia that actually explains the outcome of the fish and chips.