About being given food I can't eat?

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I was invited out for the dat, the deal was I sorted out dinner and they sorted tea.

I made a big (6 people) picnic with plenty of food for everyone that they liked.

They bought fish and chips for everyone.

I can't eat fried food, they know this and I don't eat meat or fish.

The choice was eat it or go without.

Aibu to think that's not fair because the other person thinks they kept their side of the deal by providing food.

That was shitty of them :( You were thoughtful to make sure the picnic dinner suited everyone, they were very lazy with tea and gave you no consideration at all!

Why are people presuming that there were any picnic leftovers for the OP to eat?

If you were out all day in this weather it is not possible to provide preprepared food for the later meal as it would have gone off leaving only the options that are available locally. To be honest I'd imagine it would be rather difficult to find anywhere to provide a take-away that wasn't fried (especially for a similar budget to fish and chips) so while it wasn't ideal I can't actually see what the friends could have done to accommodate the OPs dietary needs in this particular situation.

They could have got some stuff from a supermarket that OP could eat?

Alot of people don't eat fried food many don't like the greasiness in their mouth or find it hard to digest - I don't and also I don't eat meat or fish but would not describe myself as fussy or faddy.

If they were going to do that then they should have sorted you out something else beforehand.
YANBU, I couldnt eat fried food either, I'd be sick.
You know what to do OP, dont be making any further arrangements with these people.They are mean.

Very selfish of them. Some people seem to think you can switch food allergies/intolerances off when it suits. "Oh you'll be ok with just a little bit won't you?"
MIL and partner came to stay with us overnight and wanted to treat us to fish and chips. I can't have that so I already had my meal planned and ready to heat in time somwe could all eat together.
They were a bit miffed and puzzled as to why I was rejecting their delicious fish and chips. I had to explain yet again why I can't eat it and invested far too much energy knowing they'll have forgotten the next time they see me. I think they think I'm making it up.

YANBU OP.

You provided the first meal and made sure everyone had something they could eat.

They provided the second meal and didn't care that you can't eat any of it.

I wouldn't be going anywhere with them again. They should have told you what they were planning and asked if this was okay for everybody.

In many parts of the UK lunch is called dinner, supper is called tea (or also sometimes dinner)
Beautifully explained Kirsten

To me dinner is the early afternoon meal. As in school dinner, dinner is lunch

Tea, is your evening meal

And I’d never say supper. Or as posh folk pronounce it Suppah
Oh hang on, supper is something from chippy,fish supper, sausage supper

The important question is did they know that you can't eat fried food and that you don't eat fish?

so what did you do?

The OP says ‘I can’t eat fried food, they know this’

If everyone else is happy with the chippy, what would you have suggested they get for you to eat? Next time you can just provide hummus or similar for your picnic supplies with no other choice as they think that's okay for everyone to eat the same thing.

LipstickHandbagCoffee the wonderfully flexible English language! I call it lunch, and supper or dinner interchangeably. Midday meal is never dinner.

well they were lazy and thoughtless. you made a picnic, thought of everyone. they wandered to the local chippy and bought fish and chips without thought to whether you could eat. i wouldn't make that effort again!

hope you had some leftovers from your lovely picnic at least.

I know it’s a regional thing, but for me the midday meal is your dinner

The OP says ‘I can’t eat fried food, they know this'

I know that's what the OP has said. What I'm trying to ascertain is whether this is a longstanding dietary restriction that she has been consistent with or whether it's the latest statement in a series of faddy diet changes that friends simply can't be expected to keep up with.

I can't for the life of me fathom why friends would ignore the former... Buying fish and chips for a friend you know is a vegitarian and who becomes ill if she eats fried foods is quite cruel.

Buying fish and chips for a friend whose dietary needs change conveniently with the mood they're in or the latest article they read is far more understandable.

This is one of the problems caused by pescatarians who say they are vegetarian. Others then think vegetarians eat fish.

What I did was find out food they detest. Nothing truly health related. And I served it all. The person moaned and I said I thought this was how they liked to do these things. Serve food and expect other to eat regardless. So enjoy.

As for f&c bidget. Might be where
You are but I wouldn’t call fish and
Chips £17 per person budget.

Shapely sorry that wasn’t directed at you. A few other posters have said ‘do they know you can’t eat fried food?’ Your post was more nuanced than that!

YANBU.. I have gestational diabetes and people can be so ignorant to dietary needs. Like 'one piece of cake wont kill you'..... Well no it won't but considering one of the risks of gestational diabetes is still birth if the condition isnt managed properly then that 1 piece of cake isnt worth it. And its never just one piece of cake, every time i see them they're trying to force feed me sweets, chocolate etc. They just don't get it at all so i feel your frustration.

However you should of had a conversation with them before they went off to get the food. For example asking them where they were going? And telling them what you could eat from that place. You'll know now for next time not to trust them to make a good decision for you.

Slight misunderstanding SgtFredColon, thanks for clearing it up

Did they think you were a vegetarian who ate the well known vegetable 'fish' and you could just pick the batter off if you don't like it types?
Been there / had this.

YANBU
They were .

I had the same thing happen to me. Friends went into the Italian restaurant to order and some pizzas. I was a vegetarian at the time which they were all well aware of. They came back to the car with meat covered pizzas. Their repose 'you can eat those bits' i.e. the tiny bits with no meat on. I didn't talk to them for the rest of the journey as they showed they couldn't care less about me. Complete lack of respect and no consideration.

Did you ask what they were planning for the evening meal or was the assumption that it would be similar to the picnic? I'm fussy but I ask what the food is going to be and then either see if there's something I can eat from the same sort of place or arrange something else. So, you're not being completely unreasonable but I'd probably have asked more questions to make sure I didn't end up hungry.

nibbling where on Earth are you? I’m horrified by this ^l fish and
Chips £17 per person^
It’s about £5 here!

Honestly. It was one meal.

If everyone wanted fish and chips and I didn’t, i’d just say, “Not for me, thanks” and eat a bag of crisps or whatever.

People are so precious about food, and happy to inconvenience everyone else.

Presumably OP ate the following day - it wasn’t a week with fish and chip-eating people.