MUST WEAR BLACK

[Hamandcheesebaguette]

AIBU?

Hen Party tonight... not even a close friend, one of my friends sisters.

We absolutely must wear all black. Completely black. Not black with a pattern or embellishments or a bloody red stripe. Completely black.

She will "obviously" be wearing white.

She has reminded everyone 7 times this week that we MUST ONLY WEAR BLACK.

AIBU to not go. I don't have any plain black dresses, I could wear jeans and a black top but then I'll look like a flumpy flumperson and I actually think it's completely ridiculous.

Even my gorgeous heels that are black with silver stars on them are not permissible.

AIBU?!?!?!?

I think it's reasonable as she wants everyone to match for photos

No it isn’t. And my left tit is this tradition. Only since the advent of Instagram and the like where every fuck waking moment of everyone’s life has to be staged, primped and photographed so you can show off your fake life. This was the sister of the op’s friend. I thought hen nights were your best friends and you wanted to spend time with them, not accessories to look good in your fake online life.

And why does everything have to be covered in cocks all the time?

That sounds like my idea of Hell.

I can stand just about anything at a hen party except penis paraphernalia. Why, just why?

Great post SimonBridges. I agree with every word you have written.

Thank you Lornica (that reminds me of when I was in the garden centre wanting to buy a honeysuckle. Couldn’t find one anywhere so I asked as I was paying for my other stuff. Young lad on the till looked at me like I was mad and radioed someone else. He said ‘there is a woman here wanting to buy a honeysuckle, is that even a plant?’
I found it in the end, under L for Lornica. I think the lad on the till thought I was propositioning him.)

And yes Ayn. A woman who is getting married is likely to have seen a penis or two in her lifetime. As have her friends.

My DD went to a hen night recently and had to wear black. The bride obviously wore white and thought her theme was oh so original . It wasn't , there were other hen groups also staying at their hotel who also had to wear black .

Oh wait I forgot to say that I in all honestly thought most of us (except the younger, slimmer ones who would look gorgeous in a bin bag) looked quite frumpy and bland which I though was a shame.

Wasn't that the whole point?

I had this at a hen party, not the bride insisting though but MOH and most of them showed up wearing patterned stuff, I was so annoyed (didn't say anything). It was a pain going out to buy something, I was heavily pregnant at the time and had a limited budget for something I wasn't going to wear again. I would have avoided it if I could but it was compulsory family thing.

SimonBridges
The official name for honeysuckle is actually Lonicera, but you were close!

It’s hot, I’ve been drinking, you know what I meant.

Not at all. I think it's weird to have a dress code at all. I prefer the old school of only telling guests if its formal dress or casual dress, etc. Too much controlling behaviour nowadays.

@beyondthesky Dear God.. how utterly tragic!

Hi I had to wear black to a few hen nights I don't really mind but I certainly wouldn't expect people to do it, your paying for the night out you should be able to wear what ya like , one of the nights I wore blue heels and the other night I wear red heels nothing was siad about what shoes to wear

I'd be unexpectedly ill, I think!

We were dressing up for hen nights round here twenty odd years ago so it’s not a new thing, not here anyway.

Themes have been

Pyjamas
Togas
Army
Specific colour
Famous people
Farmers
Old ladies

Sometimes it was fun, other times it’s been a pain trying to sort an outfit.

Thankfully back then it was just 1 night out. Now in seems to involve a weekend abroad, a weekend here, and a meal, so three hens in total. The stags are the same.

SimonBridges you are my hero.

Nothing weird about having a dress code for any party. The dress code itself, however....

I don't think there's anything odd in a dress code either. It always has been a hen party tradition, regardless of how many people want to blame something else on social media think it isn't.

An all black outfit could be a pain but you could just go for a little black dress! Could get it cheap and I think "frumpy" is the last word I'd use for some of them

Sounds like she's a bit controlling, though, and the dress code is a manifestation of her general attitude. It's good that you went and sacked it up, though, OP - it sounds like the hen party is important to her, even if it's coming out in a bit of a batshit way

Her hen night, her choice, do as you’re asked or don’t go. It’s that simple.

Having a theme might well have been going around for years but dictating the colour of other peoples clothes is not tradition.

I got told off for abandoning a willy straw and for letting a mask of the groom to be fall on the floor. She actually screamed NOOOO YOU CANT LEAVE STEVE (not real name) ON THE FLOOR LIKE THAT.

Jesus Christ. The 'mask of the groom' seems, based purely on my Facebook, to have become a bit of thing recently. I'm not a hen do hater in general, but I do find that really embarrassing - I note that stag dos never do this kind of stuff about the bride

Bridezillas need shooting. All of them.

Having a theme might well have been going around for years but dictating the colour of other peoples clothes is not tradition.

Is saying "wear black" really all that different to saying "wear pyjamas"?

It's a new trend in a hen party dress code. I can see how it would be a pain, but it's not really odd.

I assume ‘mask of the groom’ was of his face, not his penis, right?

Black silky nighty over black bra an pants?