MUST WEAR BLACK

[Hamandcheesebaguette]

AIBU?

Hen Party tonight... not even a close friend, one of my friends sisters.

We absolutely must wear all black. Completely black. Not black with a pattern or embellishments or a bloody red stripe. Completely black.

She will "obviously" be wearing white.

She has reminded everyone 7 times this week that we MUST ONLY WEAR BLACK.

AIBU to not go. I don't have any plain black dresses, I could wear jeans and a black top but then I'll look like a flumpy flumperson and I actually think it's completely ridiculous.

Even my gorgeous heels that are black with silver stars on them are not permissible.

AIBU?!?!?!?

I bloody hate being invited to stuff and being told what to wear!

Don't be a boring party pooper and just go wearing black!!

Bit late to say that when the Hen was last night eh? Or even just read the whole thread and see what the OP wore...?

I think it's reasonable as she wants everyone to match for photos. I wouldn't mind wearing all black (much easier than all pink or stripes or red top with a black skirt etc).

I'd just wear a black dress with black cardigan and shoes.

But onestep why on earth do people need to match for hen do photos??? Fine for wedding photos with bridesmaids but an outrageous demand for the hen!

CaptainBrickbeard

They don't need to match. It's a tradition, one that - for some brides - enhances their enjoyment of the evening. It also means people who don't know one another well might find it easier to bond - same clothes, same group. But it's hardly an "outrageous demand".

@Hamandcheesebaguette are you hanging? Tell us all, we want to know how it went!

It is outrageous for a hen party! It’s ridiculous. I can see it’s tradi for the wedding itself but I can’t get over the arrogance of someone who demands this of their hen party guests.

I don't think it's 'outrageous' to ask for a dress code for your hen party, or indeed any party. I think you'd need to be very easily offended to be 'outraged' by it. But overly prescriptive, ridiculous demands, down to the detail of sparkle on shoes, plus endless reminders about it, are rude.

CaptainBrickbeard

Every hen I have been to had some sort of 'same' item of clothing, whether it was bunny ears or a t-shirt or stripy tops. It's not in any way 'ridiculous', it's perfectly normal.

I’ve never been to any hen do with that kind of thing, but I wouldn’t object to all being given matching accessories: dictating that all attendees wear plain black and nothing else IS ridiculous. And extremely self-indulgent!

CaptainBrickbeard

I think this particular case is different because it is so specific, but I wouldn't mind being asked to wear black.

I think I am just stuck on imagining having the nerve to give my friends instructions on what to wear! I was so grateful to people attending my hen do, that they gave up their time and money to celebrate with me. I wanted them to have a good time, not act as props for photos to make me look good on social media. I’m all for silly deely-boppers or whatever, but someone who feels able to prescribe a strict dress code baffles me. I truly think that is both ridiculous and outrageous and if it’s becoming normal then I think that is a bad thing!

How childish. I wouldn’t go

CaptainBrickbeard

I like it. I think it creates cameraderie.

They don't need to match. It's a tradition, one that - for some brides - enhances their enjoyment of the evening.

Not much of a tradiion, then. It's certainly not known around my area, in fact I'd never come across it before this thread.

If we do have a tradition around here, it tends towards dressing in a very sparkletastic manner, the more outrageous the better.

Well well well. A mediocre evening all in all.

Most people did follow the all black theme (although there was a naught white strip on some trousers and some forbidden dress embellishments and sparkly sandals!!!).

I got a disproving look for the belt but I don't think anybody clocked the shoes.

My god. Bridezilla personified. I've never experienced such structured "fun" before. I got told off for abandoning a willy straw and for letting a mask of the groom to be fall on the floor. She actually screamed NOOOO YOU CANT LEAVE STEVE (not real name) ON THE FLOOR LIKE THAT.

Also constant hitching up of the stupid bloody sash that kept ending up around my ankles somehow and poking people in the eyes with stupid bloody willy deeley boppers (that I was also forbidden from removing).

Also syncronished shot taking for something called a boomerang video? Three times because the first two weren't in sync.

Exhausting

I did make a pretty delicious strawberry daquiri mind you. Slightly sore head today but nothing to disastrous. If I ever get married I think that definitely won't be how I would have my hen party (if I even had one!) But each to their own I suppose.

Oh wait I forgot to say that I in all honestly thought most of us (except the younger, slimmer ones who would look gorgeous in a bin bag) looked quite frumpy and bland which I though was a shame.

And you could see the brides pants through her white dress mean

Aw. I thought she was going to get you all to stand behind her miming playing guitars..!

I would like to see the sparkly star shoes please!

Hamandcheese I slightly suspect that frumpiness is the aim of imposing an all-black dress code with strictly no sparkles or embellishments! It sounds miserable but at least the daiquiri was nice!

Surely frumpiness would be based on the style of clothing you wore, not the colour?

Sounds like a bit of an exhausting evening anyway, but you made it through it! Sounds like the colour requirement was for the video.

Who wore the mask of the grooms face???! Surely she didn’t waltz around all night dressed up as her beloved? That is pure whacko

Hen dos, parties, whatever, they all end up being crap when it's rigidly organised like this. It's always seemed best to me to let the fun be spontaneous, maybe with a prop or two to get things going.

The hen do I went to everyone was given a mask of the groom to wear