MUST WEAR BLACK

[Hamandcheesebaguette]

AIBU?

Hen Party tonight... not even a close friend, one of my friends sisters.

We absolutely must wear all black. Completely black. Not black with a pattern or embellishments or a bloody red stripe. Completely black.

She will "obviously" be wearing white.

She has reminded everyone 7 times this week that we MUST ONLY WEAR BLACK.

AIBU to not go. I don't have any plain black dresses, I could wear jeans and a black top but then I'll look like a flumpy flumperson and I actually think it's completely ridiculous.

Even my gorgeous heels that are black with silver stars on them are not permissible.

AIBU?!?!?!?

I know a woman like this. Last party was 'wear all pink'. I own nothing pink, not even knickers. I bought a pair of fluffy pink deely boppers that I spotted in a charity shop and wore them, with my normal going out clothes. She was not happy and I got told off :-(

Depends do you want a night out or not? If you do I would go and stick with the black theme to a point a small stripe or and embellishment she can get over.

If not then yeah say no if the bride wants to be a diva then let her I'm sure you won't be alone in being fed up with her demands

Do not go. How ridiculous! No only are such strict “rules” bonkers but it will look so shit. Like like a funeral or a bunch of crows following a bride. So, so weird.

This post only emphasizes that hen parties are absurd.

I hate all this shit...I was told too that I HAD to wear pink. Just leave me alone. I hate being told what to wear. It's hard enough trying to find flattering nice clothes without having to take into account someone's arbitrary dress code.

How is this is difficult? Surely you have a pair of black trousers/skirt , a black top and some black shoes?
Yes it is silly, but the whole hendo thing is silly, IMO. At least you're not being asked to wear a pink boa and light up willy hat.

That's utterly ridiculous. She can't dictate and control everyone in that way.

Either go in something nice that you are comfortable and happy bin, or just make an excuse and don't go.

Personally, I just wouldn't go, but then I am not a big fan of hen nights and parties anyway, so perhaps not the best judge.

YANBU, just say you don’t have any completely black clothes so you won’t be attending.

Does she really want everyone looking like they are Morticia Adams at a hen party? She has earned the title of bridezilla with her repeated requests.

I had to go to a hen do like this...but I wasn't surprised.....typical behaviour for this bride. Unfortunately she's close family 🙄

Happy in, not bin. Stupid autocorrect there!!

I've honestly never been to a hen party where the hen was stupid or unreasonable (I tend not to be friends with those sorts of people). A couple of fancy dress ones, but each time the hen emphasised that anyone who wasn't comfortable with fancy dress didn't have to do it. (One of them was hippy themed, so the shy girls just wore a couple of hair flowers and wooden bangles.)

I guess a 'wear black' dress code isn't totally ridiculous in and of itself but if she's reminding you every single day and isn't allowing you any patterns or anything other than plain solid black, yeah, that's just idiotic and if you hardly know her, make an excuse and stay home. Though I do like the idea of a nun costume. Or go as Zorro or an assassin. Or if you really want to fuck with her, just hire a giant teddy bear costume.

That's a bit much. Why SO specific? Plus you'll be way too hot in complete black in this pushing 30 degrees heat.
I wouldn't go OP.

I can see how someone gets sucked into the idea of a 'theme' for a night out etc, but ultimately it's missing the entire point of good friends / good company.

Nobody needs to stand out from the crowd, and because it's someone's hen night, I'd imagine her friends would make her feel amazingly special anyway.

However, once someone's in this 'themed' frame of mind, they can't see the wood for the trees and will assume you're the awkward one. If you don't go, the same will apply.

Quite sad that something this trivial ends up being such a big deal (needlessly).

I would not go and I would say the dress code was too strict, I had nothing to wear. Or juts say I'm not feeling great (cowardly, I know). She sounds a bit nutty.

Birds by any chance is it your hen party tonight?

All black as a dress code looks dreadful, unless you are Will Smith. I was once having lunch at a very naice country hotel /golf club place beloved by aspirational wags when a wedding party decamped from a coach. All in posh black outfits. Except the outfits were all different shades and it looked awful.

I thought it was a waitresses /undertakers joint convention at first until I noticed the fascinators.

I'd go but I'd wear whatever black thing I already had, whether it had embellishments or not. Actually I don't have a black dress apart from ones with flowers/star print etc so that'd have to do. What's she going to do, tell you to go home?!

You are expected to dress like you are attending a funeral, for a fun night in the middle of summer? I'd go in what you would normally wear for a special night out at this time of year.

Wear solid unadorned black to the wedding. Extra points if you also wear one of those mourning veil hat things so you look like the Scottish Widows woman circa 1987 on a bad day.

go goth

Yikes. I don’t like the sound of this. If it’s completely black, with no embellishments, I’d be deathly afraid of being forced to do some bloody ‘Avenue Q’ or ‘War Horse’ puppetry workshop, or some such fuckery. Tell her no. It’s ludicrous.

How is this is difficult? Surely you have a pair of black trousers/skirt, a black top and some black shoes? I have black winter boots, that's it, not everyone wears black.

Too fucking hot for black. I'd pull out now.

You're not close to her, the 'wear black' theme isn't up your street and you're irritated by it so send your apologies and don't go.

Bit rude to pull out now, presumably you've know before today about the dress code? Just go in your black stuff that has the embellishments and explain you don't have anything completely black.