MUST WEAR BLACK

[Hamandcheesebaguette]

AIBU?

Hen Party tonight... not even a close friend, one of my friends sisters.

We absolutely must wear all black. Completely black. Not black with a pattern or embellishments or a bloody red stripe. Completely black.

She will "obviously" be wearing white.

She has reminded everyone 7 times this week that we MUST ONLY WEAR BLACK.

AIBU to not go. I don't have any plain black dresses, I could wear jeans and a black top but then I'll look like a flumpy flumperson and I actually think it's completely ridiculous.

Even my gorgeous heels that are black with silver stars on them are not permissible.

AIBU?!?!?!?

Last time i followed this sort of thing (wedding invite, specified long evening dresses for women or some such) I got there to find at least one other guest in a miniskirt. I had specially bought the dress etc etc.

A. Wear red.
B. Wear your top n jeans combo with black sparkly heels
C. Wear charity shop wedding dress in its original colour
D. Hire nun outfit
E. Hire Sylvester the cat outfit
F. Wear black bikini
G. Cancel and enjoy some free time
H. Can't think of another!

I'd do A or B. Honestly, B in real life. I just like the idea of A

But a hen do for a friend's sister - or was it your sister's friend? - i just would have said no in the rsvp.

Definitely wear your black shoes with sparkly stars.

The photos (which are presumably her motivation!) will look awful, like everyone’s in mourning. So bleak! I don’t suit black and I wouldn’t go to anyone’s party wearing something I didn’t feel good in. So I’d flout the dress code or not go at all. I absolutely can’t follow her logic though, it will look like the most miserable hen party ever!

I doubt anyone will notice your shoes, so stars will be fine, you'll find your not the only one.
hens wearing all black and bride wearing white is fairly common, people choose it because it's usually easy and low cost, everyone has black clothes!
hen parties are often themed, I wouldn't find it a big deal at all , and you would end up looking petty if you turned up in something else, I think black top and jeans sounds fine, unless you can get hold of a black dress since it's a hot day, have fun, you'll enjoy it when you get there!! X

Dominatrix outfit.

If you have the body of a super model you should wear a black bikini.

You will look like a whiny primadonna determined to ruin night that event and your relationship with the others if you pull out
Now over this. Assuming you are a standard size I would second headingto primark or similar and picking up something cheap.

Wear red and say you're colour blind?

Dress as Brandon Lee in The Crow?

Otherwise a ninja would be my favourite suggestion.

Go as the Grim Reaper :-)

I quite like AynRand's suggestion too but if you went like that, you really would be accused of trying to steal her limelight.

The whiny primadonna is the hen setting such a ridiculous restriction! I was just glad people wanted to come to my hen do and share it and have a nice time, I’d never dream of dictating anyone’s outfit.

Is it too late to hire a grim reaper costume?! Like death in discworld...

Snap torn

Great minds think alike!

(or fools seldom differ!)

My friend recently went on a hen do like this. It was so when they went to see Dream Boys, the bride stood out to the ‘boys’.

Whiny primadonna

I had a co-worker who collected for a cancer charity so she brought cupcakes for work one day and had asked us all to wear pink to support the charity. I forgot all about it and didn't wear any pink. I don't own any pink clothes, but if I had remembered, I could have borrowed something pink for my hair from my DD.

I bougth a cake, but my co-worker still pouted because I wasn't wearing pink. I am so happy not to work there any more as there were someone collecting for a charity every week and there were always begging emails and "events" and it was just too much. Especially as the emails were mainly about the person collecting for the charity and not about the charity. I cannot abide such shameless self-promoting.

Did she think the Dreamboys actually gave a shiny shite who the bride to be was, Discotits?! Stood out, indeed.

I think I'd be heading to a supermarket for a cheap black dress to save the aggro. I got a nice maxi in Sainsbury's Tu for £18. New Look et al are also in sale - I got a black pencil wrap skirt for £7 yesterday. Or try the charity shop. YANBU but it's close to back out now.

I'd wear my mostly black stuff & see what happens. Go home early if there is cowbagness.

Wear whichever one makes you look the best. The dress sounds nice. Is it a dark purple or something more vibrant?

I do think the wear all and complete black ridiculous. Dh and I used to love dressing up parties. Everyone got in the spirit. But even the wear pink party was at least one item of pink so anything from a cheap scarf to a complete outfit.

I got t one of these recently, instructions to wear a ‘black, sparkly outfit’ for a bar crawl. I turned up in a black leather look pencil skirt and a grey tshirt with a slogan written in rhinestones (sounds awful but it’s really nice). The MOH gave me absolute bloody daggers and for any photos I was stuck at the back.

Best of it is my outfit was the only one with any sparkles!

Wear a high viz dress.

See the current retired lap dancer's AMA thread to see how much of a fuck strippers give about their customers 'standing out' to them if they're not going to earn anything from it.

I dislike black and avoid it, even for funerals I wear navy or very dark green. The only unembellished black items I own are boots, knickers and bras. I doubt any bride would be happy if that’s all the OP wore to the hen do!