MUST WEAR BLACK

[Hamandcheesebaguette]

AIBU?

Hen Party tonight... not even a close friend, one of my friends sisters.

We absolutely must wear all black. Completely black. Not black with a pattern or embellishments or a bloody red stripe. Completely black.

She will "obviously" be wearing white.

She has reminded everyone 7 times this week that we MUST ONLY WEAR BLACK.

AIBU to not go. I don't have any plain black dresses, I could wear jeans and a black top but then I'll look like a flumpy flumperson and I actually think it's completely ridiculous.

Even my gorgeous heels that are black with silver stars on them are not permissible.

AIBU?!?!?!?

As if! Long cool drink in garden. Have a lovely even i ng

Wear red if you have it, that won't get mixed up with white.

I wouldn't find that too horrendous. A black jersey maxi/midi dress with a belt round it wouldn't be expensive and could be worn again

Oh dear, I guess I'm THAT person but I like themed parties and fancy dress. I've even hosted a 'wear black' party (a leaving do for someone) because I thought it would be low effort and low cost and even the people who hate themes wouldn't really object to it (it was a house party in January, so no/minimal heat or feeling stupid in public issues).

Luckily my friends all host bloody stupid parties too, so I guess we've weeded out those who would rather furiously drink gin at home than go out in a jumper not 100% of their choosing.

Is there a reason she wants you to wear black, i.e is to do with where you're going or something? or is it just a dress code for the day, of its the latter id not go unless I was close to the hen.

I actually disagree with people

• it’s her one hen night and she wants to be in white and the only one in white, and I understand that. Asking you to wear black rather than just not white is a bit much, I agree, and therefore I would just wear whatever you have that’s available in black-ish. Or dark colours. That’s surely enough. Or just don’t go. Don’t ruin the spirit of the evening by deliberately wearing white or similar, it’s unkind. I was of the understanding that for bridal showers etc the common etiquette was to refrain from white colours anyway!

It doesn't sound that onerous a request and surely you've had plenty of time to find a cheap black outfit.
If you don't like hen do's and are not really that fussed you should have declined the invite a lot earlier. If you make your excuses two days before you will still need to pay the costs you have incurred.
Suck it up buttercup.

Sniv, I'm guessing that a person in a black dress with a rose print on it, or black heels with stars would have fitted your dress code fine.

Thing is, I've already paid for the activities and DP had made plans to go to the cinema the alternative is having wasted £120 and sitting stuffing myself with Chinese food and gin in the garden alone.

I have just taken everything out my wardrobe and my options are -

1. A black bodycon thing with dark purple flower pattern

1. A black horrible shiny thing I've had since god knows when with silver shoulder embellishments that is at least 6 inches shorter than I would prefer

1. Back jeans, black top and black blazer (not far off what I would wear to a funeral minus the jeans).

Get the wedding dress from the charity shop and dye it black....

In order not to waste the money, I'd go with the jeans and top (no blazer in this weather) and just enjoy the activities. If she wants you to dress for her hen night as if it's a funeral, that's on her.

I actually do get the whole wear black thing but still thinks it's fucking ridiculous but up until yesteray i thought it meant mostly black but a pattern woukd be fine. So i had loads of options to wear.

I think I just don't like being told what to do. . It makes me want to do the opposite

Well I’d go to a well known store whose name starts with P ( there are at least two to choose from) and buy the cheapest looking black beach wear throw-on type thing and black jely sandals or flip lops. You’d be nice and cool for this stifling weather and it should cost next to nuffink

You said there's a charity shop across the road - they'll have lots of black. go on, go take a look, and if they've nothing text anyone you can think of for a little black dress.

She is being a bit u, but you'd be cutting your nose off to spite your face not to go now. smokey eyes and those gorgeous heels and you'll look great.

And you can feel like you're rebelling anyway with the heels!

Saying it must be nothing but solid black - so that even stars on shoes aren't allowed - is stupid and reminding you seven times in a week is rude.

Still, if you don't want to waste the money and be alone all evening, just wear the nearest thing you've got.

Oh god just wear number 1 if it fits and looks good.

It's ludicrous to think that you can tell other people to wear for any social occasion.

Why is it necessary anyway?

Wearing black is against the rules of my religion

In that situation I'd only have my gym kit.

noeffingidea
How is this is difficult? Surely you have a pair of black trousers/skirt , a black top and some black shoes?

Use your imagination. It's difficult if, like me, you don't own back trousers or skirt or top or shoes

OP I wouldn't go if I were you, but if you do, go in your brightest coloured outfit

I would have to wear my black work out shorts and a black vest, with flip flops that I use in the shower or DMs.
Don't bother going, or go and wear what you want. Cheeky

I wouldn't be able to go, as the only thing I possess that is black is a really old pair of shoes - black makes me look dreadful, so I don't buy or wear it. I'd be sitting at home with the chinese and the gin, if it was me .

But she can be "the only one in white" on her bloody wedding day, crispysausage, that's a perfectly acceptable thing to demand ask.
This is just random nonsense.

I wouldn't even think it too unreasonable for her to ask to be the only one in white for her hen, or for there to be a 'black' dress code. It's this 'must be solid head to toe black, can't even have stars on your shoes and I'm going to remind you seven times in one week' nonsense that's making me want you to go as Morticia Addams or Frank N Furter.

Activities?? What activities and how much have you paid?