To not want to live with a man again?

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Just separated from ex, I married really young. Didn't know who I was or what I wanted, there's just so many things I want to do with my life now. And I do want to be in a relationship again, not now obviously but later.

However I don't want to live with another man again. I just want us to have our own houses and see each other like that. When I explain this to my mum, she's like . But I just can't live with another man again, I like my space too much.

Anyone feel like me?

Yes I can see the advantages, and envy you all the opportunities in front of you. Unfortunately I've got a dp, and we're happy and settled so no chance! Make the most of it OP, before you find you're back to Square 1

Yep, I feel exactly like you. It's around nine years since I separated from my (then) partner and now best friend.

The house is a much more fragrant place without him although he is still welcome to visit anytime.

I will never share domestic life with a man again.
Can't bear the idea.

I've always thought that houses next door to each other would be ideal.

Semis with the fence taken down?

YANBU. It’s not mandatory to live with anyone! The beauty of being an adult :)

Your mum needs to butt out and stop passing judgment on your personal life choices tbh

YANBU. I feel the same. I want a man, but don't want to live with one. I've also recently split from my husband but hated living with a previous partner too.

My friend feels the same. She reckons that if you are not planning kids with someone then there is very little to be gained by moving in with each other.

She and her DP are perfectly happy seeing each other as and when. She likes the idea that when she closes her front door absolutely no one comes in unless they are invited.

I can see exactly where she's coming from.

Of course you're not unreasonable, no one has to live with any kind of partner. Why doesn't your mum respect your views?

I've just separated from my husband and I feel exactly the same!

Is your mum because she thinks she might change your mind? Which you may or may not do.

I've still got my husband & I can categorically state I would never want to live with one again. YANBU.

I kind of feel the same. It's so nice not to be criticised for how I load the dishwasher.

You may or may not change your mind. After my separation I was pretty much sold on never wanting to be in another relationship again but that has and did change over time. But in the main, living by oneself is lovely - yanbu to want that.

I feel the same. I’m living with exDP until our house sells. We are amicable but I can’t wait to be in my own house with my DD’s.

I’ll date in the future but won’t live with a man again. Much nicer to have my own space.

My DP passed away just over 3 years ago, we lived together on & off all through our relationship, I was married for 9 years before I met DP. I've had the odd date over the last 3 years But I would never live with anyone again, I like my own space & company too much & to be totally honest relationships aren't worth the hassle.

I don't think I would live with another one. I'd see them 2-3 times a week but they can pick up their own underwear etc!

Two years down the line and whilst I'm not yet considering a relationship I shan't rule it out, even at my great age. I will however, never, ever share a house again. Never.

It's totally your decision whether you want to live with someone or not. I had a long term relationship but we didn't live together and it worked really well - we're still good friends.

I've been single now for a while, and I can't imagine sharing my space with anyone else. I love the freedom of being able to please myself and with not having to put up with anyone else's mess, moods or foibles.

Several of my friends that live with their partners envy my autonomy and do nothing but complain about their OH.

Life's short. Do what makes you happy.

I lived desperate from my late DH.worked a treat. I'd never live with a man.im just too independent

I live with DH and he's wonderful. I couldn't imagine not living with him. He's not annoying, smelly or a hindrance at all. He makes my life easier and better. But I can understand not wanting to live with someone who doesn't make things easier and better.

I have been single for a number of years and love it. Having a man in my life would represent a huge loss of freedom and independence.

I lived with a man who thought I was his personal slave. He would leave clothes on the floor for me to pick up, even though I've told him for the umpteenth time to tidy up. The skids marks in the toilet every time he went to the toilet, even though I've told him to clean it. The "no speaking" rule when he's playing games on his phone, the tv is too loud, the kids are talking too much.
The 10 different pots and pans he uses to cook one meal and refuses to clean up. Oh I could go on and on. Never again.

Not saying every man is lazy and man childish as him, but every man has his own bad habits and that is what I can't be arsed with.

Hi five to you! Your life sounds like it's just about to get exciting

I feel the same. I was with my ex from 17, we moved in together when I was 19 and split up last year when I was 41. Never again do I want to live with a man (apart from those boy children I produced that are growing up, but I'm hoping they'll also move out one day!)

I love being on my own (apart from aforementioned children)

YANBU

I’m 4 years in, have not and will not change my mind.