to ask what DH does that really fucks you off?

[martapolska2]

But not to the point where you will LTB.

My DH insists on chucking all his beer can in the black bin and not a recycle bin!

Pegs out my tee shirts but stretches them out to the fullest extent on the line so every single one now has a wonky hem and is vaguely triangle shaped. Drives me bonkers!

Will come into the room where I'm having a nap and either open the curtains or shut them when I had purposely had them the way I wanted.

Doesn't do précis. We can have a discussion about something, I'll sum it up briefly at the end so we're both singing from the same song sheet and he'll regurgitate the entire discussion from the beginning.

He does many great things so he's not all bad.

@Calatonia the bin liners!! Drives me insane. Will take the rubbish out but never replaces the bag.
The excuse ... you just asked me to take the rubbish out
So because I didn't specifically say - and put a new bag in the bin - doesn't get done. It's part of the job, not a separate one!

DP asks me 'what's this' from another room and never bothers clarifying- I'm not budging of the couch, mate.

Used to call me and expect me to go to him even though he needed help- this stopped admittedly when I pointed out I'm not a dog.

Says something, I make it clear I can't hear him so he either keeps talking regardless or vaguely expects me to go to him. I don't and by the time he comes wherever I am he's forgotten what he wanted thus annoying me again.

He deliberately breaths on me- this is called breathing with intent in our house .

Doesn't abide by 'the system' in bed which means I can't sleep. Don't breath on me, don't put your legs on me or on my side, don't put your arm on me above waistline, do not rearrange the bloody quilts and throws as I have them like that for a reason.

Is unorganised and frequently late.
Is unorganised and starts jobs but doesn't have time to finish them, this is improving though as I pointed out that it's less helpful than doing nothing.

I really hate it when he washes his hands or anything in the sink and then just shakes off the water splashing it all around the sink and leaves it wet. Mould, bacteria etc. I could kill him for that.
Recently he told me if I tidy up the medicine cabinet (that he contributes to with his mess), he might start being more careful about the water. I told him I'm not deluded and if he hasn't started now, he won't do it in future so I'm not holding my breath. He seemed to be rather miffed at that.

Like long, my OH stretches everything out on the line. Now all t shirts have warped. I bought new and told him to leave mine alone, if I want them drying on the line I will do it myself.
Also breathes.
However I do snore loudly and am the grumpiest cow on a morning.

So he could stop if he wanted, Clandestino and therefore make you happy less mad but chooses not too to make a point .

When DP suggests trades like that, I say ok but I pick the penalty if you don't follow through with it .

So he could stop if he wanted, Clandestino and therefore make you happy less mad but chooses not too to make a point .

Yep, passive aggression is (not) one of his virtues which he's been told repeatedly. We all have our issues ....

At the moment DH irrationally pisses me off because he can’t lactate. I’m up feeding 6 week old DS and he’s snoring peacefully beside me. Sometimes I make rude finger gestures at him to make me feel better.

He is a bit rubbish at getting up in the night to deal with DD is she wakes up, asking her to explain what’s wrong. She’s not 3 yet, she can’t necessarily make detailed explanations at 3am. Just give her a cuddle and pat her for a bit so I don’t have to intervene.

He is very tidy and puts my things away in places where I can’t find them.

He says ‘I’ve been thinking...’ and then follows some random DIY task that makes no sense and I’ll have to explain why it’s a stupid idea. He attacks DIY tasks with enthusiasm but not skill and I have to bite my tongue when they go wrong.

Other than that he’s alright really. I plan to keep him.

On Thursday I was in the kitchen baking and had the back door open.

Our recycling bin is immediately outside the back door.

DH walked in, poured himself (and me) cold ciders from the fridge, placed the empty glass bottles on the worktop BESIDE THE BACK DOOR and walked off.

My response was "are you kidding me?"

God, this is so depressing! Are they really all this bad?? I thought it was just mine! I'm v envious of the women whose DHs hang out the washing incorrectly - I would faint if my DP hung out so much as a sock.

Let's see (bare in mind I work full time with often long hours):

• Doesn't clean the loo after using it
• Leaves his dirty washing EVERYwhere (regularly find socks or pants in or next to the bathroom sink)
• Never ever ever ever cleans - I mean literally he has not used our hoover once in 5 years
• Showers then leaves wet towels on the floor, the bed or the sofa - anywhere but on an actual fucking hook
• Doesn't even cross his mind to do any home admin jobs like picking up money for the cleaner, taking the car to get washed, booking the vets or dog walker, just waits for me to do it all
• Leaves for the airport (and everywhere else) at the last possible minute despite multiple time warnings
• Texts while driving but gets annoyed if I offer to text for him
• If he's stopping by the shops, he won't ever ask if I need anything
• Never knows what we need re: household basics like dish soap or milk
• I have to ask him to walk or feed the dog, he never just does it spontaneously
• Leaves all DIY to me
• Doesn't change the loo roll
• Leaves all the kitchen cupboards open and mess everywhere (the crumbs!)
• Will. Not. Learn. which rubbish goes in which bin
• I think he's done laundry once
• Doesn't talk to me if we're driving somewhere, just makes work calls
• Leaves all the lights on all the time
• Turns the car into a shit tip but never takes it to get detailed
• Never offers to make me a cup of tea

There are probably lots of reasons we're together, but after writing that I'm struggling to remember any of them

1. Takes his socks off in the living room and NEVER puts them in the wash basket.
2. Won't take a day off to look after poorly kids even though I earn more than double his salary and have to take it as unpaid.
3. Reloads the dishwasher after I have done it cos I "do it wrong"
4. Flicks through the channels on a night to find something HE wants to watch rather than asking if there is anything I want to watch. Then when I've got into whatever he has put on he gets bored of it and turns it over.
5. Comments on how much him I'm drinking when it's actually to block out what a dick he can be

Ooh that felt quite soothing!

Faffing
Snoring - so gross
Not reading texts or answering phone
The noise he makes when he swallows
Asking me where stuff is
Asking what we are doing at the weekend
Filling sink with water then leaving it to go cold

Disclaimer: am heavily pregnant so even more intolerant than usual. Usually don't mind the swallowing thing.

@cricketmum84 ". Won't take a day off to look after poorly kids even though I earn more than double his salary and have to take it as unpaid."

How does he justify this?!!! I'm

*gin not him!! You would think my phone would have learnt that I meant GIN by now

@TheGrumpySquirrel his reasoning is that I can get away with it because I'm management. He is admin so it's more frowned upon and the last time he did it he got called in to the office for a chat about his responsibilities at work. Personally I think his employers are bellends. He has had a massive career change so I think he is still in the "factory mindset" sometimes.

I did start making a list but then re -reading it made me really angry and I started to wonder why I'm actually with him 😆

Telling me the same old stories over and over again, wish I could press the stop button at times.

@cricketmum84 he should stand up to them, it's 2018 FFS. Fathers have responsibilities too. Ridiculous that you are losing a days pay instead of him growing a spine. Loads of women in his field wouldn't have that "choice".

Oh I thought of another.. taking 5 million years to tell a story / explain something as he has to go into minute detail even if the listener already knows the details / background and he doesn't like being interrupted during theses massive monologues

Always gives me a long lecture and words of wisdom when I make a decision
I'm currently pregnant and complained about a headache just to be a bit twisty he then gave me a long talk about why I need to keep my job and I can't take the piss or they'll finish me Jesus I was only complaining not handing my fucking notice in!!!!!!

At the moment?

he breathes 😁

Oh and if I ask for the dishes to be done or hoovering to help out I get 'il do it in my time'
Well we have people coming soon so. Ow would be flipping great!

@Amalfimamma haha when I seen your name at first I thought it said anal fi mamma haha had to check again ! 😂

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