Did this woman think she was going on a date with my husband?

[poopsqueak]

Right. This is a weird one.

Husband has a hobby. This woman sort of partakes in a similar hobby (think musician/dancer) so crosses paths with my husband and me on occasion.

I have met her on occasion. Not got a great vibe and felt a bit scrutinised and she was a bit patronising to me.

She sent him a fb message last week saying she had a 'spare' ticket to a gig and would he like it because it was sold out. Kind I thought but we had actually already got tickets to this gig.

It obviously sounded off to him because he showed me the message and said 'she'll be going with (mutual friend) and thought I might like to go, maybe he suggested me?'

I was like thinking hmm you are being kind assuming a big group are going. So he messaged her back saying 'yes me and Poop are already planning on going, see you there thanks for the thought etc.'

Anyway we went to the gig and she turned up at the venue next door, by herself and sits with us. Very dressed up. I asked (cringing at this now) 'who are you meeting are X and X coming?' And she replied 'no, just you two'

AIBU to think she thought she was going on a date with my husband? It's just made both of us (myself and my husband) feel a bit uncomfortable tbh.

She clearly has set her sights on your husband. However, it means nothing. Your relationship seems strong, you have a shared understanding about the situation. Just trust him and don’t let her upset your relationship.

(((((((Big Hugs))))) poopsqueak. Hang in there sweetie.

Hopefully blocking her on FB will send the message loud and clear. No doubt she's already noticed as she was probably checking his fb page regularly.

Your DH sounds great, and you've handled this as a united front, he's a keeper OP

I think you've both handled this really well. Hopefully blocking her on fb will send her a clear message.

I don't feel like we've handled it all all really. We are both quite quiet non confrontational people and got a feeling it light crop up again.

In other news, she's non popping up on my fb suggested friends list 😂

Sorry there should have been question marks in my post as in ‘call the police? Seriously?’

She’s gone to a gig and a pub and a public event, burn the witch

@poopsqueak she's now popping up as a 'friend suggestion ' ?

If she is local and into something you're husband does then surely it's quite likely she'll be at the same events etc.

She is 23 years old, still quite young, perhaps give her the benefit of the doubt or actually speak to her about it. I feel a bit sorry for her!

The thing is OP there is no law against her fancying your DH. She could walk up to him and say "I really want you, how about it?" and she is within her rights to do so.
All your DH has to do is say "Not a chance".

If you were to speak to her about it all you would achieve is alerting her that you know she fancies him and perhaps you have warned him off. Some people would find that a challenge.

If she keeps pestering him for attention he always has the option of a sharp "Will you ever fuck off"