To be devastated at losing an envelope with £500 cash in it?

[northernlights0710]

Short version: On Friday a friend gave me £500 they owed me in cash, in an envelope. Within the space of 24 hours I have no idea where it is.

My memory is terrible and I often wonder if I've got early onset dementia (I'm in my 50s).

I was nervous getting this money in cash as I don't like having large sums on my person. I would have preferred it put straight into my bank account. But the person who gave me the money didn't want to do that.

I had a feeling that I was going to lose the money. Perhaps I manifested this thought into reality.

I'm gutted and feel sick.

What's the largest sum you've ever lost and how long did it take you to get over it?

I'm sure you're not interested but if you are, here are further details:

When my friend gave me the money (in my home) I was rushing to get out of the house and so I think I left it at home (I live alone) then went to the dentist and then to work.

I remember counting it so that must be when I came home from work. But I just cannot remember where I put it! I had a builder I didn't know coming the next day so started to put credit cards away etc. I still don't know what I did with the cash.

Next morning I looked for the cash in the place I thought I'd left it and it wasn't there. This was before the builder got here, so he's not responsible.

I have looked in all the places it might be, and even went through the rubbish and recycling but it is nowhere. I rang the dentist and the pharmacy but they said nothing had been handed in.

Finally, lesson learnt. I will never again accept cash payments in a large sum. I will insist on a bank deposit.

Check pockets of clothes which you have put in the washing machine.

Try retracing your steps from before your friend gave you the money. Relax. Do what you did (I think you said you were putting credit cards away) this night jog your memory. But it sounds like it'll turn up

Pull out drawers. Large envelope of cash could easily get stuck down the back of a drawer if you put it in there and forget.

Can you remember what the envelope looked like, what colour it was.

Maybe ask your friend to remind you.

I also like the idea of going over the event in your mind and thinking where would you put £500 if you where hiding It.

I hid some cash once in a safe place. It took me 2 days to remember where I had put it, I was frantic.

Probably concentrate on the bins as when they go out that is it, if it is under the bed, in a drawer etc it will show up eventually

Behind a radiator cover
Lining of coat/ bag
Glovebox
Check your drive - I found my keys there after several days.
I recently found a long lost ring in an old handbag.
Under a rug

Underwear drawer.

If you were about to leave the house, did you just put it down & it has fallen behind something?

Between books?

I plugged a keyboard in yesterday, & then not long after found myself looking for said keyboard

Oh no

I'm very scatterbrained and have fibro fog. I'm always losing my keys, phone, car even!

I hope you find it.

Check the pockets if all your clothes, and inside all shoes and boots.

I realised a while back that I'd lost my only 2 expensive items of jewellery. They turned up months later inside a boot in my wardrobe, where I'd hidden them for safe-keepi g when we went on holiday.

Also found my lost purse in the piano stool, where DS had hidden it about 6 months previously.

I'm sure it's there somewhere.

I think I have a post on here somewhere about my missing £50 last year.

Turned up between the pages of a book I'd been reading beside my bed, if I recall. I'd been convinced it had been thrown away with old Christmas card envelopes! Might you have slipped it between two other thin things (magazines, etc) and it's gone so flat you can't see it?

When I lose things of value they usually turn up in the most stupid places. Check your laundry basket... a favourite place for my stuff to appear!

I was really pissed off when my house was broken into (years ago), and the first thing I saw as I came through the front door was the empty box that had had a valuable pendant in it. I'd been searching for the pendant for months and couldn't find it, the burglars found it no problem 😡

I have a very bad memory (runs in the family like wooden legs) so trying to retrace my steps would never work.

Are you on statins by any chance OP? I thought I had dementia when I was on Lipitor, I could hardly remember my name.

Freezer is another favourite place to hide money, or washing machine.

So sorry for you OP! Lesson learned for next time to insist on a bank transfer, it’s not down to the person paying back a debt to dictate how it’s done, it’s at your convenience seeing as you floated her the cash in the first place! Next time I hope you’ll be more assertive and insist on a bank transfer, so much less scope for something awful to happen like this.

Are you going to be okay financially without it? Were you banking on it for rent or food?

Try to picture where you were when you last saw it and see if that helps retrace your steps. I tend to shove private stuff away into the first place I can think of if the doorbell rings - could that have happened?
Places I use as safe places include:
On top of washing machine (under worktop)
On fridge
In books, magazines, back of diary
Under mattress, pillow, bed
Among clothes in drawer or wardrobe
Under tablecloth, placemat
Under seat of car
Under laptop

I once lost a contract. I was convinced it must have been stolen as it just wasn't anywhere... About a year later I found it, it had fallen down the back of the sideboard, but had got stuck on a ledge at the back, so was just balanced between that and the wall. It was a horrible feeling that the builder guy I'd had in might have taken it (no monetary value, but we were having a lot of problems with the company, so might have taken it to be difficult) and such a relief to find it!

Op, following the tarot card reading, have you checked your freezer? And bathroom - maybe in with the toilet rolls? I hope you find it!

I do so many things on automatic pilot nowadays that it drives me crazy. I'm always convinced I haven't turned off hob, or locked front door, or any one of a hundred other things. I always have done, but automatically.

You poor thing I hope it turns up soon. I’d have something nice to eat, relax and then get tonnes of bin bags and blitz the house. We’ve all been certain we left things in certain places only to have our memories jogged when the things ends up being found elsewhere.

I once went to a “friends” house for a small get together- Her soap pump was faulty and squirted too much into my hands so I took off 2 rings and my friend rinsed them and put them on the side.

I never saw them again- there was lots of drink at the party and I went home without them- “friend” said I did put them back on (I didn’t) one ring was bought for me after I lost my second DC and it meant to much to me. I had an awful feeling for about 12 months. I hope whoever took them enjoys them as they’re worth 4K

I’ve never worn a ring since and said “friend” went on to screw me out of some money (she did this to others too)

Have you checked everything in the paper/cardboard recycling? Hold magazines by the spine and give them a good shake; check newspapers page by page; could the envelope have slipped inside another scrap envelope? Could you have taken the money out of the envelope and put it somewhere safer and forgotten doing so? I did that quite recently... I feel your pain.

Pray to St Anthony and then get looking. Works every time for me and I’m not even catholic!

Hope you find it OP.

There’s a chance it’ll turn up. I lost an expensive bracelet 2 YEARS AGO!! And I found it yesterday! So relieved!! Was sure I’d left it on holiday!

Sorry you're having trouble remembering where it is. It's a horrible feeling. I had a cheque for several hundred pounds go missing....which is nothing like losing cash really as I managed to get the cheque re issued....so just a bit of a pain...and really perplexing not being able to find it!
This happened over 20 years ago and I haven't lost a cheque since but dh says "I ALWAYS lose cheques." Not true. I lose keys, phone, wallet, documents and important mail. I'd like to say it was all because of MS brain fog....but I've kind of been doing this for years.
Hope it turns up for you.

Really Hope you find it.