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To be devastated at losing an envelope with £500 cash in it?

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northernlights0710 · 24/06/2018 13:37

Short version: On Friday a friend gave me £500 they owed me in cash, in an envelope. Within the space of 24 hours I have no idea where it is.

My memory is terrible and I often wonder if I've got early onset dementia (I'm in my 50s).

I was nervous getting this money in cash as I don't like having large sums on my person. I would have preferred it put straight into my bank account. But the person who gave me the money didn't want to do that.

I had a feeling that I was going to lose the money. Perhaps I manifested this thought into reality.

I'm gutted and feel sick.

What's the largest sum you've ever lost and how long did it take you to get over it?

I'm sure you're not interested but if you are, here are further details:

When my friend gave me the money (in my home) I was rushing to get out of the house and so I think I left it at home (I live alone) then went to the dentist and then to work.

I remember counting it so that must be when I came home from work. But I just cannot remember where I put it! I had a builder I didn't know coming the next day so started to put credit cards away etc. I still don't know what I did with the cash.

Next morning I looked for the cash in the place I thought I'd left it and it wasn't there. This was before the builder got here, so he's not responsible.

I have looked in all the places it might be, and even went through the rubbish and recycling but it is nowhere. I rang the dentist and the pharmacy but they said nothing had been handed in.

Finally, lesson learnt. I will never again accept cash payments in a large sum. I will insist on a bank deposit.

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Bluebelle100 · 25/06/2018 20:28

Remember when the envelope was handed to you and think to yourself 'Where's a safe place to put this'. It may help you it has me in the past. Just take your time and think.......good luck I hope you find it soon :)

ToothyMcPuthy · 25/06/2018 20:39

This is great news OP. So happy for you.

Thank you St Anthony 🙏🏽

siftingflour · 25/06/2018 20:44

This happens to me all the time.
I'm in my fifties and constantly think I have early onset dementia.
I'm menopausal, that's the real problem.
I mainly find stuff again, often in the one place where I knew it could never be.
Today I lost a jar of valuables and made SUCH A FUSS. I went into a panic. I then found the jar of valuables, five minutes later, ON THE TABLE IN FRONT OF ME.
luckily the man I was with has a menopausal forgetful wife.

Jeepy · 25/06/2018 21:12

My friend's old Jewish mamma rick often works for me: Turn a cup upside down and say out loud "Where's my money?"

Good luck: it MUST be in the house...somewhere. £500 is a big wad, you would have had a bulging pocket/handbag...

perpetuallybewildered · 25/06/2018 21:55

Aww I’m so happy for you. Many years ago lost something very precious and to this day it haunts me. I’m so glad you found the money.

blahblahagain · 25/06/2018 22:06

Not so long ago my mum was on holiday with her relatives (who had paid for everything and refused and money from her), so she left a similar sum in an envelope on the side before she headed home, assuming they would find it. They threw it in the bin with a pile of newspapers, gutting.

WaitingforDaffodils · 25/06/2018 22:43

Best MN thread ever & your list of 'other things you have found' made me a little teary OP. So happy for you 🤸🤸🤸🤸🤸

PurpleCrazyHorse · 25/06/2018 22:58

Yay, great news :)

GlomOfNit · 25/06/2018 23:36

OP, I just read the whole thread with bated breath...

and you've cheered me up SO much! Smile You sound absolutely lovely and I'm really glad you found it. Of course you did.

Monty27 · 26/06/2018 00:05

OP your posts still have me smiling.
But have you banked it yet?
Cloud that's awful.
My exh was very scatty. He found a cheque for 5k from HMRC that he had totally forgotten he had. By the time he banked it the date had run out and HMRC wouldn't honour it. Which I could see why.
It probably contributed to the end of our marriage. He was impossible to live with.
Sorry I digressed Smile
OP treat yourself out of that money even if it's a hairdressing appointment or something. even a bunch of flowers Flowers Smile

Smallhorse · 26/06/2018 00:35

Fantastic news!
And I would like to take the credit for passing on the advice I was given when I lost my car keys - about the lost thing being within 2 feet of where it “should “ have been ! Wink

northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 01:10

The money is in the bank: 2 x £250 deposits because it was too many notes for the bank machine to process in one go. And another £30 left over from paying the builder.

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northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 01:18

Those ATM transactions the day before were forlornly done because I was going to pay the builder out of the £500 cash I had. (Took £200 out then took extra out just in case.)

I'm so very touched by people's interest in this thread.

Octoberfarm - thank you for the lovely things you said about me. I'm afraid I didn't reply earlier because yours was the very last message before I went into a frenzy of ecstasy upon finding the cash.

I can now go to the US and enjoy my holiday. If I hadn't found the money, it would have been miserable and I wouldn't have felt that I could go on tours and enjoy myself.

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shinycat · 26/06/2018 01:28

Woo hoo!

Have a great week OP (and year, and life.) Flowers

Seriously you sound so lovely. Grin

northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 01:50

Hi Shinycat,

I've just been compiling a wee list of folks to respond to and you were on my lift because you made me laugh - (calling me a daft moo, or whatever, hahaha - well, it's TRUE!) - and I have an Irish friend who talks to me in exactly that way. You're not called Lizi and from Northern Ireland are you, by any chance?

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northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 01:56

*Grilled aubergines, loveliesbleeding and everyone else who urged me to pray to St Anthony/ and thank him etc. I've lit a nice red candle in my favourite red mosaic candle holder and thanked him profusely. I think having him as part of the family is a fabulous idea!

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northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 02:29

I treated myself to some new mascara in Superdrug. And it was a 3 for 2 offer so I ended up buying three mascaras, which seems a bit excessive given that I only have one pair of eyes. As I joked with the young shop assistant I asked for help reading which shade it was.

I said to her: "Given my age, three bottles of mascara should see me right for the rest of my life. And if I die before using the others, I can always bequeath them can't I?". She laughed, out of politeness, I think, haha.

I also told the security guard at work who I'd chatted with yesterday. He said: "Thank God. I would have been devastated if that was me. I felt pain for you when you told me that. Go out and celebrate now!"

I'm still laughing at story of the keys found in the kettle and : "Your passport is where?"

CaledonianQueen - I told the builder. He said my family should take my "passport" into custody till I get to the US border, haha. Bloody hell, I hope I now don't "manifest" a losing-my-passport drama!

My passport is inside a beige moneybelt inside my big cupboard in the lounge, for those who are concerned!

OJ2J - my friend did not return to my flat at all after giving me the money, so could not have "snuck it back" in.

Isnapped - I'm so very sorry to hear about your ex stealing £12k. Words fail me. What a despicable, evil person. There is nothing you could have done about it. People like that are determined to do what they do, so don't blame yourself. If it's not that long ago, perhaps you could still pursue him/her through the courts? ((((Hugs))))))

Londonista - I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your varifocals. Could you claim on your household insurance policy? You might find that you're covered for items lost outside of the home.

Blahblahagain - OMG, that is horrific. I'd have been totally devastated if I'd chucked my money out with the rubbish and it was gone forever. I hope your mum and her relatives/friends? (memory failing again) have put it behind them.

WaitingforDaffodils - aw, bless you! I'm deeply touched that you and others cared so much. And those PPs who've been tearful or thought of me when they woke up - your kindness and concern has been overwhelming! Thank you all so much.

And also to those posters whose mums were forgetful at my age but who never had dementia - Yayy! and thank you! I'll stop worrying now and tell people to not bother if they see me in the street in my nightie, haha. I might mention the memory failure to my GP though as it might be related to the menopause as PPs have suggested.

GloomofNit and other PPs - I'm glad that my thread has cheered you up!

Thank you to each and every poster. So much. You're a bloody amazing army of support, intelligence, wisdom, creativity, humour and rat-like cunning!!!! Grin

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Monty27 · 26/06/2018 02:53
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PeachesPlumsPears · 26/06/2018 03:32

Great news - really happy for you. Smile

Thank you St Anthony for helping me in the past too....(I must stop putting things in secret hiding places - since I keep forgetting where these secret places are!)
Also thank you St Christopher for looking after me whilst driving.

Have a great holiday and come back and tell us about it Smile

northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 04:05

Thanks Peaches, I will do that!

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TheMaddHugger · 26/06/2018 05:48

That Candle is lovely Smile ((((Happy Hugs))))
and a Picard having a laugh

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eloisesparkle · 26/06/2018 08:08

OP I'm glad you found your money but am but alarmed that you thanked St.Anthony by lighting a candle and saying thank you.
That's not enough !
Really!
You have to go to a Catholic church, find the 'St. Anthony box' and put a £10 in. This money is for charity.
He gets miffed if you don't do that and won't help you again. Smile

Forgottenwhatsleepis · 26/06/2018 09:26

Aww well done OP, I was frantically scanning every page looking for updates from you, wishing you to find your money so I'm so happy for you that you did! Bit late now, but I was going to suggest a mass prayer to St Anthony lol! Not needed now lol Grin

northernlights0710 · 26/06/2018 10:08

Thanks Mad Hugger. Grin

Eloise - oh right, okay! I'll try to do that today then. £10 is a small price to pay for the return of my £500 and it will do some good.

Forgottenwhatsleepis - Thanks and great idea about the mass prayer to St Anthony! If I lose something important again, I'll come back and ask for this.

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Leapfrog44 · 26/06/2018 10:10

It will turn up I've done the same thing and I did find it eventually