...to sometimes give toddler DD the finger behind her back?

[Legbreak]

She definitely doesn’t see and it makes me feel better and is always at home, not out and about etc. My DSis thinks it’s appalling.

Lazy twats.

Lol watch it girls our laundry has been aired

www.google.co.uk/amp/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5874781/amp/Mother-admits-swearing-toddler-daughter-back.html

Yes. Apparently one of their lazy journalists has used this thread for an article.

Good

Why is it ‘good’ speakout?

Have you read the article? There are several connecting sentences between direct quotes. It’s not a well written, enlightening piece of journalism.

Shockers
Yes. Apparently one of their lazy journalists has used this thread for an article.

And the worst bit is they missed this gem!

user1473878824
“This thread is actually disgusting”

I agree.

If you’re British you should be flicking her the Vs

Had me in stitches when I read it!!!

When the DC go to bed, I go out whispering "yay!" and giving a fist pump.

DD's got lots of things going on - puberty, anxiety over her possessions and introversion, which can turn her into a horrible person sometimes, I may start doing this. I do mutter "little bitch" under my breath when she's made DS2 cry yet again. Far better than saying it to her face.

No puberty yet Flippety?

JJS numpty is simply a Scottish word for idiot.

I do this behind the staff room door when a child has knocked on the door for the eleventyfourth time to tell me their mum has emailed me to say why they haven’t done their 15 minute homework.

The flicking of the v is directed at both parent and Mum.

So. There.

Seriously what do all these sanctimonious super calm parents do to defuse their anger/frustration? Are they all on drugs maybe?!

Giving the finger or swearing is just not something I would consider doing to anyone I had any respect for. Especially not to a child who is just trying to find their way in the world, who looks up to me and loves me unconditionally. I couldn’t break their trust—even if they didn’t see me or hear me. I do normal parent things like count to 10, tell my children off, confiscate stuff, complain to DH & my friends.

Also, I try to treat my children how I would want to be treated. It would devastate me to know that DH, for example, was being sweet to my face and then giving me the finger every time I turned my back.

babyno when DS1 was 17 I taught him the expression "cuntypeptobollockstiaracrap".

I set a terrible example.

I also do extreme swearing in my head during annoying meetings. I rock a good poker face, although my HoD swears she can tell when I’m calling someone a wankstain at the top of my internal voice.

Giving the finger or swearing is just not something I would consider doing to anyone I had any respect for. Especially not to a child who is just trying to find their way in the world, who looks up to me and loves me unconditionally.

I couldn’t break their trust

FFS that’s a bit over dramatic!

@elfycat

I love that someone else does this.

I consistently threaten to throw my 4 year old in the bin or out the window.

I've also told her I'll chop her up into tiny pieces and bury her in the back garden.

She just smirks and says 'no you won't' I find it dead cute.

Giving the finger or swearing is just not something I would consider doing to anyone I had any respect for.

I love my kids. I wouldn't necessarily say I respect them though. They have to earn that respect by their actions & manner, the same as everyone else.

If they're being arseholes, they get the finger.....

Yuk. No part of me would find this funny or want to do this to my own children. My children are 14 and 16 now. Not saying I have been a perfect parent all of their lives and certainly times when I've felt frustrated and angry but swearing, however secretive, is a very inappropriate reaction and not something to boast about.

As a teacher I saw the consequences of parenting like this all the time. Some of the parents on here who think it's OK to swear at their children and can't seem to even have a discussion with adults without using the f word every other word therefore completely unable to control their anger in an adult way, will no doubt be bewildered when their teens turn round and behave like this towards their parents, other children and adults.

Parents need to learn to manage their own feelings in a calm, controlled, mature way and if you can't how on earth do you expect your children to?

illustriously, children are not mini adults who need to be cowed into submission. The idea of children needing to earn the respect of adults is such a fundamental misunderstanding of childhood. Don't really know where to start with some of these misconceptions. Some of you need to educate yourselves or you are setting yourselves up for some very difficult relationships with your children.

nostaples ... Thank u! Exactly

So Stormcloud you are proud and amused at the fact that you are teaching your child that it is OK and to use extreme but entirely empty threats. She is already smirking at you at aged 4. Well done you.

I work in a PRU nostaples. The majority of parents of our children don’t do silent tension releasing gestures .

I love my kids. I wouldn't necessarily say I respect them though. They have to earn that respect by their actions & manner, the same as everyone else.

How can you have a good relationship with someone you don’t respect?

And to whomever said I’m overly dramatic: for children, their family is their whole world. It may seem overly dramatic to you because you have a wider experience but they don’t know anything different. What they learn about treating others within their family is what they will take to the outside world. And sooner or later, they will bring it back to you.

I'm very proud of my parenting actually. I've got a 4 year old who knows the difference between "I'm going to chop your legs off and cook them for tea" and "If you don't start behaving properly you'll be in trouble".

You sound like you somehow manage to suck the fun and happiness out of everything around you.