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Original poster

AIBU to think that Purplebricks don't actually need to know whether I'm married?

207 replies

borlottibeans · 21/06/2018 20:42

All I want to do is book a fucking viewing!!!

The only options are Mr, Mrs, Miss or Dr. I was very tempted to put Dr but didn't want to have to keep explaining to people that I've faked a PhD out of spite.

OP posts:
outofmydepth45 · 21/06/2018 20:43

Go with Doctor

reallyanotherone · 21/06/2018 20:43

Use mr.

That’s what i generally use online when title is a required field and there is no neutral option.

Cynara · 21/06/2018 20:44

Well, they've left you little option. Dr out of spite all the way with this one.

LuxeLisbon · 21/06/2018 20:44

I rang up a medical negligence firm and they asked if I was married or not .... it had zero relevance to enquiry Hmm

Flibbertyjibbit · 21/06/2018 20:44

Use Mr.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 21/06/2018 20:48

Use Dr. And tell them to get their IT to add Ms to the options. For a modern company its very archaic for them to not have this option.

Original poster
borlottibeans · 21/06/2018 20:48

I caved and put Mrs. I didn't want to start the whole process by fighting with an estate agent, and I am weak.

I just don't get it though. It's not an old company still using its templates from 1955; someone has actually made a conscious decision to set up their system this way.

OP posts:
confusedlittleone · 21/06/2018 21:00

Aren't their legal implications for selling a house where more then one party have a claim to? And if there's not then there absolutely should be, it would help towards stopping married woman being fucked over

Original poster
borlottibeans · 21/06/2018 21:20

Confused there are, but I suspect the bigger issue is with unmarried women contributing financially to a house in their partner's name. I wouldn't want to rely on an estate agent to keep on top of that sort of thing though!

In any case I'm a first time buyer with nothing to sell.

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CadyHeron · 21/06/2018 21:22

Meh, it's just titles. I'd tick Mrs. As that's what I am.

MrTrebus · 21/06/2018 21:24

Do people really genuinely in real life get bothered by this sort of shit or is it just on mumsnet. Come on 🙄

reallyanotherone · 21/06/2018 21:32

Aren't their legal implications for selling a house where more then one party have a claim to? And if there's not then there absolutely should be, it would help towards stopping married woman being fucked over

If course there are. But that is irrelevant-you don’t have to be married to joint own a property. A more appropriate question, and one i am asked as a female sole owner is if i am the sole owner, or anyone else has a claim. My partner has to sign a legal document when i buy a house effectively relinquishing any claim.

So there is no reason for an estate agent to know your marital status.

SluttyButty · 21/06/2018 21:33

I get so cross with this. I don't wear a wedding ring through choice and I only tell people I'm married if I deem it necessary. I'm not ashamed of my husband and love him dearly but he's not the be all and end all of me.

LighthouseSouth · 21/06/2018 21:35

What a pile of shite for a modern website
I'd have gone with Mr
I'd feel uncomfortable claiming to be a Dr. Or a Miss or Mrs!

Barbaro · 21/06/2018 21:37

MrTrebus agreed. I'm not seeing the big deal.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 21/06/2018 21:43

Mr = adult Man
Mrs = adult Woman

Is this a trans thread or are people really hung up on an outdated terminology about referring to a 'maiden'?

gamerchick · 21/06/2018 21:45

Do people really genuinely in real life get bothered by this sort of shit or is it just on mumsnet. Come on

It's weird the things that irritate, I refused to use something once because the only drop down option was Ms for me. I didn't realise how annoying it is Grin

QuantamBaby · 21/06/2018 21:46

No

Mr - adult male
Ms - adult female

Mrs is an adult title only bestowed when married and as such is sexist and annoying.

CadyHeron · 21/06/2018 21:49

MrTrebus - with you on this one Grin

SluttyButty · 21/06/2018 21:49

But Mrs doesn't mean adult woman, it means married woman. Or at least it did the last time I checked.

And yes I do get annoyed by it. Other things, not so much Grin

CadyHeron · 21/06/2018 21:53

Lighthousesouth - you'd go with Mr, rather take a male title and basically identify yourself as a bloke just because you don't want any of the female titles? See, to me that's strange just like you think it's strange to put Miss or Mrs. Saying you're a Mr to make a point - stranger than the other view point Smile

Japanesejazz · 21/06/2018 21:56

I was also annoyed so put Dr. And insisted that they referred to me as Dr Jazz

Walkingdeadfangirl · 21/06/2018 21:59

Mrs is an adult title only bestowed when married and as such is sexist and annoying
Well obviously that is what is used to be. Women now choose what to call themselves and Mrs is now used to denote an adult woman (at least in the UK I live in). Our titles are not 'bestowed' anymore.

glamp · 21/06/2018 22:04

I think the issue us that using mrs indicates your marital status whereas the marital neutral ms doesn’t- men don’t have to give an indication of their status so why should women

SamSmithYawnsWhenHeSings · 21/06/2018 22:07

I'm with you, but it is probably just a drop down on their software

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