To think you don't have a party at home beyond 11pm?

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Neighbours in the next street (!) had a party on Saturday night in their garden. The noise started out at reasonable levels at 7pm. Predictably, as they drank into the night, voices got louder, and then the turned up the music to compensate.

We have really, really good double glazing and external insulation. We had all the windows shut, and we were still kept awake until they finally decided to pack up at 3am.

AIBU to think that's it's unacceptable to have loud, late night parties at home? I mean, this is literally what late night licensed pubs and bars are for, right? Why, why, why have it in your own garden, when you must know you are disturbing a whole neighbourhood?

I like a nice venue myself. But the top room of a pub is mostly hireable for free in my city.

They should have moved in side. PLaying music in the garden is out of order.

Being a street away, you wouldn't have heard it. But the immediate neighbours would have.

When I lived in my flat in London, the young couple downstairs let me know they were having a party that night. I went out for the evening and got home about midnight. The music was pumping, so I put on a film and set myself up to stay up for a few hours. Then the music suddenly stopped and they all left. I nearly went down to tell them to carry on, they were finishing far too early. I didn't have kids then though so rarely went to bed early at the weekend.

"It's clear that the OPs house is where fun goes to die"

No, my house is where I go to sleep after having had fun elsewhere.

Some people really can’t afford a venue OP, even the cheapest village Hall is £10 an hour which soon racks up.

You clearly don’t think YABU so not too sure why you asked!

@spanishwife

House parties are much nicer than parties in outside venues, generally, though. Parties in pubs and clubs are always noisy and you can't just retreat for a quiet chat by a bookcase or in the kitchen or go and stroke a cat.

It must have been very loud though if you could hear it from a street away with your double glazed windows shut.

Our next door neighbours, detached, warned us they were having a party for their daughter’s 18th with a couple of gazebos in the back garden. So lots of young people, music, chatting, singing etc. I actually forgot all about it until later on in the evening when I stepped out in our back garden and heard party noise. Inside again I could hear nothing so I have no idea what time it finished. Admittedly, all our windows were closed.

I am not against people having occasional parties but in all fairness they do need to consider the neighbours and keep the noise down after a certain time.

Broomstick - but you're defining a QUIET party. Which isn't an issue because it doesn't disturb anyone, right? I'm talking about people having really loud parties (those that can be heard a street away) in residential areas.

ginger - it was really loud, yes!

I have parties at home; maybe only once or twice a year that go on until 3/4 in the morning - I live in an 8 bedroom farmhouse that on a farm that’s worth over £23m in total - I am most definitely not cheap or skanky - why on earth would people spend money on hiring a venue when they can have a party at home? You need to get out more! Maybe you’re jealous as you didn’t get invited?

But you're still contributing to the disturbance. Even if you think you leave quietly. Your contribution of noise inside racks the disturbance up. Your taxi arriving. Getting in. Then driving off.

Tbh after your posts i'd say you are the unreasonable one...if you regularly go out & stay out late, taking a taxi home etc, you are regularly disturbing other folk nearby. This was ONE house party that disturbed you!

I'm loving the suggestions that because I like some peace and quiet at home, I am 'jealous' of those having parties.

Matilda - I doubt that you have neighbours you are keeping awake on an estate of that size! If you don't have anyone to consider, then you don't have to be considerate when it comes to noise levels, do you? You're in a completely different situation from someone like me in a built-up area.

Oh get over yourself. Yes, they should have taken the party indoors. No, you shouldn't be hearing loud music from someone else's party. But other than that, people can do what they like.

If it's a one off then I don't really see the issue, it's annoying but that's why I own ear plugs!

My 30th went on until about 2am- but it was one party in 5years I’ve lived there.
Neighbours told in advance and asked to let me know if any problems. Whether it’s morning mowing of a lawn or an evening party or a barking dog or a child playing outside (all previous complaining threads I’ve read), someone complains. We can’t live in absolute silence, consideration on all sides goes a long way.

There's a big difference between complete silence and blaring music that you can hear from streets away at 3am!

"consideration on all sides goes a long way."

Exactly. Which is why I'm saying that if you have a house party, you should turn the music down and move inside after 11pm.

I don't think a lot of OPs really start threads because they genuinely want to know whether they're being unreasonable or not. They just want to have a rant and want everyone to agree that they're right to be angry. When they don't get what they want, they tend to get really hacked off.

Yep, cos public houses & wine bars don't have blaring music, noisy smokers outside, general disturbance. They're little havens of peace for the neighbours i live round the corner from a pub so i know the drill

Just suck it up OP. Unless you're going to put your big girl pants on & go have a word, let it go. It was ONE bloody party.

Lizzie - yes, you're right!

I am surprised at how many people would be dead chuffed at being kept awake til 3am by very loud music. I can only hope that this is actually visited upon them many times over the glorious summer we seem to be having, giving them ample opportunity to show their tolerance of others

For me it would depend if it was a regular thing. Ifi t's a one off, who cares, it's not a school night.

If it's all the time, then they'[re tossers

YANBU to be pissed off about the noise keeping you awake at 3am. I agree with a previous poster that midnight, on a weekend, is a reasonable time to take the party inside if you are in a densely packed residential area.

Earplugs are useful though - for sleeping through noise disturbance.

When you choose to live in close proximity to people you have to accept that noise is inevitable. If it were a party every week then I'd say you have a point, but you've been disturbed on one occasion so you need to stop being so precious.

If it’s only once a year and at a weekend I wouldn’t mind at all. It’s part of the price you pay for living in a city. If it was every week and on a ‘school night’ I would be annoyed.

YABU to think people can’t have parties in their own homes. I dislike parties in halls/bars etc. Quite apart from the expense of paying for hire/drinks, they are less comfortable, the wine is normally shit and I find them impersonal.

I do accept that noise is inevitable. Like I said, no problem with noise up to 11pm. I think it's considerate to turn it down thereafter, however.