To think you don't have a party at home beyond 11pm?

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Neighbours in the next street (!) had a party on Saturday night in their garden. The noise started out at reasonable levels at 7pm. Predictably, as they drank into the night, voices got louder, and then the turned up the music to compensate.

We have really, really good double glazing and external insulation. We had all the windows shut, and we were still kept awake until they finally decided to pack up at 3am.

AIBU to think that's it's unacceptable to have loud, late night parties at home? I mean, this is literally what late night licensed pubs and bars are for, right? Why, why, why have it in your own garden, when you must know you are disturbing a whole neighbourhood?

They don't understand that they're disturbing others or don't care. We used to have neighbours like that - two middle-class lads with posh cars who'd come home after clubbing with their girlfriends on Friday nights and then they'd continue the party at home from around 2 am or until they felt tired. They were perfectly nice in other ways but this. Eventually they moved and we all breathed a sigh of relief.

The only thing I can think of is that you and the neighbours club together and start your own parties as they pack up theirs. When you see a 'for sale' sign outside you'll know you've won.

I think that if this is the first time, and dose not happen on a reqular basis. You are over reacting. My neighbour normally had a house party every Christmas eve and I'm her birthday every year. Now I'm a miserable shit and even I would not think it to be such a big ordeal. The fact that you consider socialising in your own home is a 'cheap and skanky' thing to do actually says a lot more about you than your neighbour. Lighten up and have some fun yourself, you could surprise yourself

dontthinktwice1 my mum has a perforated ear so had to have full seel ear plugs for shower and water etc.she wears the silicone ones that actually mould right in.im not sure whether they would help you.its deff keeps fluid out lol im not sure on noise.but It makes a great seel.

I think its ok to have a little moan because your human but no to the point your actually serious that they should stop.
not if its a one off.if they are being vulgar and its all the time and are unpleasant then perhaps.
but sometimes people really have something to celebrate and this is how they do it.try and let it go

We've got three young blokes next door. It's mainly families and retired here otherwise. Their party started 3pm and ended 7am. On the hottest day a few weeks ago. I complained. They presented us with bottle wine and an apology. Waiting for the next one now!

OP I 100% agree with you. We have some skanky ASBO neighbours who sometimes do the same thing and can’t wait to move!

My parents have had two parties that went on late, for landmark birthdays. They invited all the neighbours and made leaflets to explain they would do their best to contain noise post 11pm but if not left their phone number for people to call and say keep it down for the houses behind them. It’s not unreasonable, and it can be done considerably. It sounds like your neighbours were totally inconsiderate though x

Bloody hell is this still going? The OP has probably caught up on sleep now

Well, that's you. Many people like sharing their homes in celebration and Joy. joyful memories and fun are made in their homes and not in bars. Sure, you're not upset because others are openly enjoying life and you don't seem to be? But I would say music inside after 11pm on the weekends

I doubt most of you live on an island and as such you need to respect your neighbours! We would all dearly love to do whatever we want when we want, but most of us have respect for others and choose to behave appropriately-lower the noise after 11.00, inside with music at 12.00 would be reasonable, chatting in garden till later also fine by me. If you want loud and raucous then hire a suitable venue! We all have to live together try and be kind to each other. If it’s a one off then put notes through the neighbours doors and say apologies it’s a special occasion on such and such a date we apologise in advance. I don’t get why it’s so hard for some people to have a thought for someone other than themselves...

Note: due to SEN kids I DON’T have house parties...

However, I think YABU!

Unless it’s like every weekend or on a weeknight (unless the weeknight is NYE) then what is the harm in the occasional party?

I reckon nearby neighbours probably only did this once or twice a year each? That’s surely an acceptable amount? Sure I’d think differently if it was all the time.. but ya know, I’m reasonable and ppl can have parties!

I wouldn't mind if it was a special occasion. Every week would be an issue (or every night!)

We had our Wedding reception in a barn in the middle of the night and people still phoned the police to complain about noise. They came over to complain too, so we invited them to join in.

Someone should make 'appropriate venues' just like a home, with beds to crash on and a kitchen to create obscure flammable drinks that are only palatable for the very drunk. Then, and only then, would this cheap skank consider 'appropriate venues'

I fucking hate other people’s noise with a passion.

Fuck off with your house parties. All of you. Especially after 11.

You are just being self centred and ignorant.

Want a late party? Then hire a venue so the rest of us don’t have to listen to your noise.

Simples.

These threads always (eventually) remind me of the nurses at uni in the halls of residence. They decided that as they had finished their last placement that they would have a party.

Fine you would think, but a lot of students started their finals the next day and where unsurprisingly not happy with the loud party going on till 4 am, security was called, the management were called even the police were called as there were several low level altercations.

The funny bit is that the nurses didn't find it quite so funny when those that had to put up with their finals being disrupted decided to hold an all night party during the nurses finals.

The arguments during that night were very very funny.

Aren't there environmental laws about domestic noise after midnight . You could have called police with noise going on to that time. If it is a one off would ignore this time but not if fairly regular.

Police won’t deal with noise complaints.

What a bonkers thread!

Get some ear plugs, OP, or some noise cancelling headphones.

If the partying was every weekend, you'd get my sympathy. But one-off, nah!

Invest in the above so you can sleep.

Sure, you're not upset because others are openly enjoying life and you don't seem to be

I think it's very clear there is some of this going on. No parties in their homes, no wider social circles. If they had this they wouldn't begrudge the occasional celebration by a neighbour, but as they don't have that, they begrudge it very much,

I had a neighbour with the OP's attitude many years ago, we had the occasional house party, probably once or twice a year. They ended up contacting the council who told them it was completely normal to have social gatherings occasionally at your house, and we had a right to enjoy our house within the constraints of normality. The bloke then went to threaten us. Totally and utterly nuts.

We've got my sister's 40th at this house on Sat, our neighbours aren't close by (our nutty ex neighbours left us with a desire to have a house well away from others). It's not cheap, it'll be magical, there will be temporary lighting in the garden, a few firepits, a bit of music, nice food etc. Why can't we enjoy our house?

YABVU what about kids in gardens at 9am in a Sat...I've no kids work hard all week and want a lie in on a Sat..No different to not going to sleep early because of your life choices. Having a party next Sat evening in my house that I pay for....hopefully the neoghbours will only be as inconvinienced as I am every Sat and Sun morning...

Agree...

I think it's very clear there is some of this going on. No parties in their homes, no wider social circles.

no, you got that completely wrong again. Some of us have small gatherings at home, and are not too tight but rent the appropriate venue when throwing a proper party and provide all the food and drink.
I would never organise a party for a small number, it sounds boring, and I can't host 50+ people in my house, even if it's detached with a reasonable garden.

All my neighbours are the same, and our neighbourhood is lovely and quiet. None of the kids are allowed to be noisy outside early mornings either.

There are endless places you can rent for a party in this country, from a village hall for a few hours to various buildings and houses for the entire weekend.

It's spiteful, selfish and rude to think your noisy party can be home if it disturbs the neighbours, as proven by all the comments above.

Totally unreasonable to make lots of noise after 11pm. I do not agree with those who have commented that it’s ok occasionally to have a loud party occasionally because your one occasion may coincide with the occasion that the neighbours have to get up at 5 (I often have to on Sundays) or are unwell and desperately need sleep. We all have a right to sleep at night. I’ll never forget, many moons ago being kept awake by a loud party about 1/4 mike away the night before my maths A-Level exam.

So, yes as OP says, if you want a big party in the evening, hire a venue.