To think you don't have a party at home beyond 11pm?

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Neighbours in the next street (!) had a party on Saturday night in their garden. The noise started out at reasonable levels at 7pm. Predictably, as they drank into the night, voices got louder, and then the turned up the music to compensate.

We have really, really good double glazing and external insulation. We had all the windows shut, and we were still kept awake until they finally decided to pack up at 3am.

AIBU to think that's it's unacceptable to have loud, late night parties at home? I mean, this is literally what late night licensed pubs and bars are for, right? Why, why, why have it in your own garden, when you must know you are disturbing a whole neighbourhood?

But I keep, it's not about knowing people who can do it, it's about understanding the wider community,

I grew up in a council flat, I was still aware that people had gardens and homes big enough to host parties of more than five or six people and did not feel they were not "normal".

Why are you in bed so early on a Saturday night?
Do young people really snuggle down at 11.00 pm.

My children obviously are in bed.

I might be in bed at 11.00pm if I am working the next morning.

Someone mentioned ear plugs. They are obviously thinking about parties that aren't too loud. The parties the students have will not be drown out by wearing earplugs. It sounds like I am next door to a festival at times! They also appear to have some bloody massively loud karaoke machine.

A party where you can hear a little music and normal voices might be easier to sleep through than a party which sounds like you have your own stereo turned up full blast.

I wonder if you leave near me. My new neighbours have started doing this. Friday night was some kind of record breaking attempt. Until 3am.

LIVE near me^

People should be quiet in a residental area after 11pm.

A skanky couple moved in here, have a large shed in the garden playing music loudly and often carry's on until 2am. In the summer it's every few weeks. Playing music in the garden is far woorse!

It's antisocial but if you do have them, turn down the music late at night and have them inside.

Ear plugs don't work when it is so loud that your house is vibrating, and you are not even joined to the house with the party

Was it by any chance and eid party ? In which case pub isn’t an option and venues aren’t cheaply available and not in that hour and happens only twice a year

But I think u have a right to be upset and bring it up so they can be mike considerate

You don’t get out of a taxi at your house because of engine noise?!?

That is extreme behaviour.

There are loads of reasons to have a house party vs venue party:
Kids/no babysitter
Teen party
Cost of drink
Cost of food
Transport cost
Safety
Privacy
Own toilet!
Comfy chairs
Can smoke indoors
Drugs
Can get changed
No lights getting turned on suddenly and getting herded out by rude staff
Own music
People from far away can stay over

I much prefer house parties to venue parties.

You are missing out.

Sitting in the garden, hollering along at the top of your voice to S Club Seven at 2.45am, however, IS cheap and it IS skanky

Am I the only one who would, by this stage, given up on sleep, grabbed a bottle and gone to join in? Love a bit of S Club

I can honestly say that we live in a quiet residential street, and I can't remember ever being kept awake beyond midnight (ok maybe 12:30). There are regularly parties being held in neighbours' homes but none of them have involved very loud music and shrieking until 3am. It just doesn't happen.

Purplelass I am with you!

Volder I think you are taking this way too personally, I don't think for one minute that you should cancel your bbq it sounds lovely and if all your neighbours are there then obviously it has their blessing.

I love a good party and we have had a couple of big, loud ones over the years. I did laugh at the thought of them being 'cheap and skanky' as they have cost a bloody fortune and been quite classy imo, sorry but I think paying a fiver for the upstairs room for some grotty pub is far cheaper and skankier. We have had a maximum of 4 parties in 20 years, invited or told immediate neighbours and they seem ok with it. I have had to endure similar and yes it is a pain listening to pissed people at 3am talking utter gibberish but it has been literally once every 2 years so will take that on the chin.

purplelass

Just cos

Do you live near me critique ???
Not only did my previous neighbour stick a bloody great new build in his garden blocking our all my sun in the back garden he then sold it to a flaming 24 year old party animal who thinks nothing of playing music in the garden with a gaggle of screaming girls until 3am!!!! AND the noisy CF had the audacity to come round to demand I chop my tree back and suggested he gets the council involved to cut the whole thing down as it blocks the light in his garden.... I told him it's not even growing over his boundary fence and the tree has been there over 50 years unlike his ruddy house!!!!
Anyway thanks for letting me rant Victor meldrew style on your thread and I agree it's totally unreasonable

Can anyone recommend any particular earplugs? My neighbours are noisy all the time, don't work, so are up until god knows when in the night.

Noise control levels come into play at 11pm and u can report to noise nuisance team and ask them to check if too loud

They were inconsiderate to make a lot of noise in the garden into the early hours but house parties aren’t skanky or cheap!

BoneyBackJefferson

A cheap and skanky thing to do?? Wow, that's a bit strong.... better add me to the list of cheap and skanky then, I throw one or two parties at home a year, cannot afford to hire anyplace and then on top have to pay overly inflated prices for venue drinks...I'd rather spend the little we do have set aside for entertaining friends on good food and plentiful drinkies without feeling like we're being ripped off. In our case though, we also have the guests stay over, more often than not, to save the hassle and expense of getting home in the wee small hours
Although we always invite the neighbours, who often join in!

I'd personally let it go if it's not a regular occurrence. Parties are not always planned and just sort of happen.

I don't mind being kept awake all night if it's an occasional thing, I'd hope that the neighbours would be similarly relaxed if I decided to do it.

We're all too uptight in this country!!

Whilst I don't agree with people being exceptionally loud past midnight with parties I would sooner have that occasionally then my neighbours who are noisy every night of the week with shouting/swearing/kids screaming/up half the night chatting/noisy bbqs with drinking and twattish behaviour!

YABU. Once or twice a year, ‘till the early hours would be fine with me.

We’ve had house parties at home for landmark birthdays and our neighbors do the same. It’s jusr not something I would give a second thought to.

Everyone knows that the best parties are house parties. Stop being miserable OP

At least you have 'really good double glazing and external insulation'. We have crappy old sash windows and live in tiny back to back terraces, someone 3 doors down could fart in their garden and i'd her it inside with all the windows shut!

Because of this I hate summer with a passion, people outside doing barbeques, generally just sitting out till late can keep us and the kids up but if its not happening all the time then you just have to learn to live with it!!

Report it to Environmental Health who are obliged to make sure they are not causing an avoidable nuisance.

YABU. You can't have every party in a pub. Different story if it was every week but half a dozen times a year is fine.