To think you don't have a party at home beyond 11pm?

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Neighbours in the next street (!) had a party on Saturday night in their garden. The noise started out at reasonable levels at 7pm. Predictably, as they drank into the night, voices got louder, and then the turned up the music to compensate.

We have really, really good double glazing and external insulation. We had all the windows shut, and we were still kept awake until they finally decided to pack up at 3am.

AIBU to think that's it's unacceptable to have loud, late night parties at home? I mean, this is literally what late night licensed pubs and bars are for, right? Why, why, why have it in your own garden, when you must know you are disturbing a whole neighbourhood?

YABVVU. Obviously every weekend is not okay. Once or twice a year is absolutely fine.

And NYE is definitely an exception - I wouldn't expect quite then!

*quiet not quite!

It's definitely not tacky to have a house party, sometimes groups of friends arrange a gathering to catch up. It would be silly to hire a venue for that! I go to house parties a few times a year and maybe host two a year tops! I agree after 12 people should keep it down or move inside however if it's not regular then live and let live! I wouldn't agree with music being played though after 11 and I've never heard any late parties with music where I live.

Try hosting one yourself, start at tea time and see how easy it is to lose track of time and noise awareness when you are drinking and enjoying yourself.

A neighbour used to have a loud party including in the garden once a year. And I worked on a Sunday. No big deal.

Ah nice to see some stuck up folk on here! House parties are cheap & skanky? Righto!

If this was an every weekend thing then fine, altho i'd have expected someone of your fine calibre to have dealt with it correctly rather than moan about it online.
As a one off however who the hell made you god?

My point is: if you want a loud, late night do... go elsewhere

Guess that's not up to you though is it. If it was parties every night you'd probably have grounds for complaint. For the occasional party you don't really.

"Obviously every weekend is not okay. Once or twice a year is absolutely fine."

OK, so let's do the maths.

This person lives in the next street to me. There are 50 houses in my street, 50 houses in theirs, 50 in the next street over, so 150 households impacted by the noise. Each has a loud party to 3 or 4am twice a year - that's 300 parties to 3-4am a year. Basically, that's most days of an entire year where the noise would be loud enough to keep people away until the wee small hours. I don't know anyone who would really think that was a reasonable level.

I think YABU, especially if it's a rare occurrence. If it really was too loud, you could have gone round and made a polite request to keep the noise down/go inside. As PPs have said, they won't know that you were upset about it. (Although yes, they ought to have had enough common sense to realise that they should go inside once it reached midnight.)

But to suggest that people shouldn't have house parties is ridiculous, it's their home and they can do what they like. The only thing you're not being unreasonable about is the level of noise so late into the night.

Are you jealous because you've never had a house party OP? I'm guessing you are always SUPER considerate of everyone around you, never do anything at all that might piss your neighbours off...

"Try hosting one yourself, start at tea time and see how easy it is to lose track of time and noise awareness when you are drinking and enjoying yourself."

You're absolutely right. Only I don't need to try hosting one myself to know this - because I regularly go out and do it in a place that is supposed to be actually for drinking and having fun.

I'd have been pissed off, but if it's a one off and on a weekend I'd have put up and shut up.
I've been on the receiving end of really horrible neighbours - a young lad that played really loud music from 6pm through to around 1:30am (and sometimes it was even still going when I was leaving for work!) EVERY DAY. It was horrific as there was absolutely nowhere in my house at all where I could go to escape. I complained several times and got Environmental Health involved etc, which then led to a "punishment hour" from 10pm to 11pm. Eventually he moved out, think he was getting aggro from other neighbours about his parking as well.
So a one off party would be bliss in comparison!

So you don't drink or have fun in your own home? How sad

You do realise pubs and restaurants also have people who live near them too don't you?

Except most people don't have house parties.

"'m guessing you are always SUPER considerate of everyone around you, never do anything at all that might piss your neighbours off"

I really do try to be.

As I said, I am childless and regularly out very late at bars and clubs. I get a cab home and get out of the taxi in an alleyway near my house so that neighbours aren't disturbed by the noise of the engine.

It annoys me that I make this effort and other people are happy to splurge their noise all over the neighbourhood at 3am!

YABVU

People have house parties. It doesn't make them cheap and skanky. You sound ridiculous and entitled. The world does not revolve around you.

Do the pubs & clubs you frequent have music? Rowdy punters (we know they do)? If so then you are contributing to the noise for residents in the surrounding area. Every. Time. You. Go. Out

My neighbours have parties until 9am (had one on a Tuesday once!) - 3am is annoying but not the end of the world at the weekend if it's a one off. Buy some earplugs in case it happens again as I find listening for it finishing, and getting wound up about how inconsiderate they are is the most stressful part of it all.

"So you don't drink or have fun in your own home? How sad"

I do drink at home - would open a bottle of wine with DH, or have friends over for dinner (quiet, indoors).

If I want to throw a big, loud party, I hire a venue and put a few hundred quid behind the bar. My best friend is a professional DJ with a bottomless music collection.

I have parties at home, it doesn’t make me skanky. I used to live in Central London where people leaving clubs and restaurants would make an incredible noise; slamming taxi doors and shouting goodbye to each other etc. Can you honestly say, hand on heart, that you have never made a peep on your journey home? Now I live further out of centre, I sometimes get woken by people arriving home at night in taxis. I sometimes like a doze in the garden in the afternoon, and get woken by kids playing in the street, or on trampolines, shrieking their heads off. It’s not worth getting uptight about. Unless they do this every weekend then just let it go. Calling people cheap, mean or skanky for having a party makes you look the fool.

I think 11 is a bit early but after 12 they should at least be moving the party indoors. And no more than a couple of parties per year max!

mustbemad - The venue I usually use for my own parties is in a retail/bar/post-industrial area. There aren't many local residents to disturb! But I do take your point that plenty of the other places I go to have people living nearby. I always try to leave quietly, as I can only imagine how tired those people get of the racket.

If I want to throw a big, loud party, I hire a venue and put a few hundred quid behind the bar.

This is a bit shitty. You're basically suggesting only rich people can have parties.

that is supposed to be actually for drinking and having fun.

It's clear that the OPs house is where fun goes to die