To think you don't have a party at home beyond 11pm?

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Neighbours in the next street (!) had a party on Saturday night in their garden. The noise started out at reasonable levels at 7pm. Predictably, as they drank into the night, voices got louder, and then the turned up the music to compensate.

We have really, really good double glazing and external insulation. We had all the windows shut, and we were still kept awake until they finally decided to pack up at 3am.

AIBU to think that's it's unacceptable to have loud, late night parties at home? I mean, this is literally what late night licensed pubs and bars are for, right? Why, why, why have it in your own garden, when you must know you are disturbing a whole neighbourhood?

Not unreasonable as a one off on a Saturday night.

Plenty of people have to go to work early Sunday morning.

YABVVU at an adult party ending at 11pm, that is way too early, try about 2pm. However, does this happen a lot? If it does, you could ask them to turn the music down politely. If that does not work, than environmental health, noise abatement department, of the Council.

Just because your idea of a party is hiring a “post industrial” venue, DJ, brewery etc doesn’t mean it’s the same for everyone else.

How often do your neighbours have these parties?

Any time that we have had a house party, and the same goes for most of my friends, they have been pretty unplanned and spur of the moment. It doesn’t happen often, and I will never begrudge anyone else for having the odd party at home.

You come across quite snobby OP.

YABVVU at an adult party ending at 11pm, that is way too early, try about 2pm.

But 2am is way too late for me to go to sleep and be able to drive safely at 7.30am. Why does the party override any rights and needs of the neighbours? The fact is, no one cares if it's your daughter's 21st or you've just finished your finals or if you're just celebrating for the sake of it. Just shut up so people can sleep.

I know that Cantuse it is very inconsiderate of the neighbours to to this, op should go round and tell them to turn their music down and be quieter, but stopping a party at 11pm is early.

YABVVU at an adult party ending at 11pm, that is way too early, try about 2pm.

the law restrict the permitted levels of noise between 11pm and 7am in the UK.

"Any time that we have had a house party, and the same goes for most of my friends, they have been pretty unplanned and spur of the moment. It doesn’t happen often, and I will never begrudge anyone else for having the odd party at home."

Neither does anyone else. What we do begrudge is being expected to give up most of a night's sleep so that someone else can have fun with no consideration for any one else. Why can't your impromptu parties include a bit of respect for the neighbours and some reasonable limits i.e. everyone inside after 11.30 - midnight. Music switched off or kept to a low volume after that. People going outside for a fag reminded that neighbours will be sleeping, you have to face them the next day, so please keep the talking and laughing down.

We are pretty considerate and the party’s stay inside and music is kept down low in a room that isn’t joined onto a neighbouring property.

Our neighbours smoke weed morning, noon and night which makes my house stink so a small party once in a blue moon is fair game I say.

It is simple isn't it user? Consideration is all that is needed

Have your party. You do not need to be outside after 11.pm singing and shouting with music blaring out and windows all open.

I really don't understand why it's hard to grasp that your neighbours deserve some consideration. It's all very well saying you invite the neighbours, but some people genuinely need their sleep. You don't have to break up the party, just go inside so you're not disturbing anyone else.

User I'm guessing you don't actually get invited to many parties, because saying you want the music off at 11 and the talking and laughing kept down to a bit of a min is a bit of a giveaway, where you think that's a reasonable request.

I think the issue is if you personally don't have parties and you don't get invited to any either, you will think like user, even when you know it's a one off. If however you have rhe occassional party and get invited to them, you're not going to take issue with others doing the same now again.

It's just different lives really.

I think the issue is if you personally don't have parties and you don't get invited to any either

hahaha can you get any more patronising?

We hold parties, we are invited to regular parties, some of us do have a life. We just seem to mix in the right circle where people know how to behave and have manners, and organise small gathering very differently to the way they organise proper parties.

You must have a really nice mansion if you can host a proper party in your home in the first place, there are not that many people who have the space, even if they were ignoring common manners and their neighbours.

Ah, I’d just be glad it’s a one off and at the weekend. We had to move house because of idiots (adults with children btw) who had parties throughout the week until 4 in the morning throughout spring and summer. With 2 under 2 and a full time job we had no option but to leave.
I’d just suggest to say something if it happens again. Only so that they know you have an issue and don’t think your cool with it being a regular occurrence

who said you can't have a reasonable small afternoon early evening gathering voldermorticia? What a strange post even if you are trying to be funny.

Next door have their music on at nightclub levels til gone 3am some days indoors, even on wednesdays! They ignore when you knock on the door too.

Does no one invite the neighbours and vice Versa to these parties? We do, they do. It's all good.

Believe it or not Bluntness many of us who get invited to parties are also capable of being considerate and polite.

Your posts are getting dafter by the minute.

Would you like some cheese with that whine Volder?

That is not what the OP or anyone else said.

I am moving, so it's also serving as my leaving party

So you don't care about pissing off the neighbours, charming. Having manners and be considerate doesn't mean being snob you know, you are insulting all the deprived families who are respectful of their neighbours.

You don't come across as a pleasant individual, and that has nothing to do with your bank account, it's all about that dreadful and selfish attitude of yours.

You’re hilarious. One long brag fest... might as well just tell us your salary & be done with it 🤣

No Voldermoticia. You would be behaving in a way that is cheap and skanky if you kept your neighbours awake all night by playing loud music out in your garden until the small hours and letting your guests stay out there getting drunker and drunker and louder and louder while everyone else in the vicinity was trying to sleep.

But as all your neighbours will be at the party that's fine.

Sorry to piss on your pity party.