To think you don't have a party at home beyond 11pm?

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Neighbours in the next street (!) had a party on Saturday night in their garden. The noise started out at reasonable levels at 7pm. Predictably, as they drank into the night, voices got louder, and then the turned up the music to compensate.

We have really, really good double glazing and external insulation. We had all the windows shut, and we were still kept awake until they finally decided to pack up at 3am.

AIBU to think that's it's unacceptable to have loud, late night parties at home? I mean, this is literally what late night licensed pubs and bars are for, right? Why, why, why have it in your own garden, when you must know you are disturbing a whole neighbourhood?

But I am "cheap and skanky" because I'm not hiring a non-existent venue?

not the words I would use, but you are if you are actually planning to have people will be dropping in all evening and into the late evening/night.

Why should everybody else have to put up with the disruption? If you can afford to host that glamourous "party" of yours, you could have had a smaller option, shared a rental hall with several other parents, or just organise something at legal time, finishing at 11pm.

Some of us manage to host various things without making a nuisance of ourselves, we just have different priorities, you clearly feel you are entitled to be antisocial for a night. Great example for your kids.

I can see from the responses on this thread why we had so much trouble with neighbours noise at our last house. We had several houses round us in our small close - surrounded by countryside - who each liked to have a couple of parties in the summer.

With at least four of them having at least 2 parties each that pretty much cancelled out the summer weekends between them.

Always the same format. 11am all the guests arrive and park inconsiderately all over the place, blocking drives etc so as not to have to walk too far. Everyone out in the garden and music on. After about 13 hours of it you are lying in bed listening to them all out in the garden, screeching, trying to sing, laughing hysterically, while you have all the windows tightly shut so you are sweating buckets as well. At about 3am if you are lucky you get to listen to car doors slamming, people shouting bye!!, cars revving. All that in the knowledge that next week it will be one of the others.

We had a few years of peace when we moved here but now we have a student house over the back. Their party day of choice is Tuesday. They start their party indoors but come outside as it gets later and they are all drunk, laughing and shouting with their music louder and louder. The council's noise team doesn't work after hours, so the only option is the police.

New year must be great fun in your house !

However, as a one off I don’t think I could find it such a big deal as you do.

I love a house party. But then I love life in general. You sound incredibly aggressive and unnecessarily angry. I'm guessing not that many people want you at their party...

the house party near us wasn't cheap and skanky, you could tell by the sophisticated chap or chapess that decided that should be played every five minutes.

BTW, the party lasted three hours before someone rang the police.

But at least they now know what to expect when they are anti social.

Well I shall be a terrible example to my children and have one party in years at home after 11pm.

you do realise that you don't accumulate points over the years giving you right to be antisocial? I have never robbed a shop or did drunk-driving, it doesn't mean I am allowed to do it once IN YEARS!

I do love how far people will go to try to justify their attitude. You don't care about being a nuisance, just admit it. Of course you will disrupt your neighbours, you know it, at least they will be able to throw a party of their own to celebrate your departure

that decided that this should be played every five minutes.

I know someone who retaliated against a loud party by playing overly loud opera from dawn, non-stop. That seemed to have done the trick with the CF

When ds was a baby I lived next door to a group of students who would sit in the garden some wkds being noisy. Several times I would go round in my pjs and tell them to pack it in. It's so inconsiderate.

As long as your cul-de-sac doesn't back onto other people's houses and you are genuinely not disturbing anyone, good for you. The whole point of the thread is not about having parties, no one cares, it's about disturbing people past 11pm, or at all.

If your neighbours pop in early and leave 1 hour later, that should be your hint to keep things quiet.

Haven't read full thread but when you hire pubs or restaurants for parties they usually kick you out at closing time (just after 11ish) don't they? So how are they an alternative to house parties if people want to party beyond 11? I'd assume that hiring a nightclub is too expensive for most people and also nightclubs are mostly naff. I'd feel embarrassed inviting my friends in their late 40s to a nightclub.

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You pay for a late licence and a closed private party.

What does a barbecue have to do with it?

Who barbecues at 11pm or later anyway?

@fatcow where do you get your thunderstorm tracks from ?

more candidates for my proposed fuckwit isle here. all those who think it is reasonable to have noise carrying outside their houses get free one way ferry tickets.

fuckwit isle also has no school ( as no one listened there so it is a waste of time), no medical services as big pharma are evi and no rubbish collectio n as the residents just drop litter. smoking is allowed everywhere and so are incontinent barking dogs.

User I'm guessing you don't actually get invited to many parties, because saying you want the music off at 11 and the talking and laughing kept down to a bit of a min is a bit of a giveaway, where you think that's a reasonable request.

You were actually serious with that post weren't you?

It is reasonable to expect neighbours to move noisy parties inside after 11pm and keep the noise down. I have been invited to many garden parties so I am pretty sure my opinions (which are the same as users) aren't because I have never been to one.

People who have loud parties past 11pm are not being considerate to neighbours and their need of sleep. We can all be inconsiderate at times. Just own it and stop pretending that the people who want some consideration are unreasonable.

I do love how far people will go to try to justify their attitude. You don't care about being a nuisance, just admit it.

Yep. It really isn't hard to admit.

If you are having a loud party late at night, into the morning, you simply don't care about keeping others awake. No excuses, you just don't care.

Exactly U2. Trying to pretend that anyone who expects a bit of consideration vis a vis parties is obviously never invited to one is such a childish response - and speaks of a poster who is determined to do what she wants and to hit out babyishly at anyone who points out her selfishness to her.

Just own it and stop pretending that the people who want some consideration are unreasonable

The point you're deliberately missing is they wish the consideration to be all their way, and all the time. The fact their neighbours might want to have an occassional party that goes on past 11 pm you feel should be irrelevant, it's all about the person who wishes not to be disturbed past 11 pm, 100 percent of the time.

For me consideration works both ways, hence why my view is it's fine occasionally as long as they don't make a habit of it and are considerate to me the rest of the time.

Your view is they should be considerate of you 100 percent of the time, and they can fuck off if they think you'll show them any. They need to fuck off am hire a venue apparantly. Or switch the music off and ask their guests not to talk or laugh too loudly in case they disturb you.

It's as inconsiderate and lacking in compromise as it gets.

Why don't you own that?

You just don't get it Bluntness.

People have a right to peace and consideration in their homes. in fact it's a need. No one has a need of, or right to, a party. Yes it's a pleasant thing to have and no one begrudges their neighbour the odd party. But the compromise is that you accept that it can't disrupt the neighbours throughout the night or prevent them from getting a decent night's sleep.

So, party outside until 11 or 12, having let the neighbours know in advance it is only until then.
Then move the party inside and bring the noise levels down.

It is possible to enjoy yourself without screaming your head off and playing music at top volume. But you seem to just want everything exactly the way that suits you.

The objection that many are making is to the post where the OP said
Can I make one thing crystal clear I have never been to a party that has finished at 11pm. Therefore, given the late hours that are customary for such things, DON'T FUCKING HAVE THEM AT HOME!!

It's just a cheap, skanky thing to do. If you want to have a party, hire a proper venue.

This is basically saying that ALL parties at home are "cheap, skanky" things. For all parties people should hire a venue. Doesn't say loud, inconsiderate parties are cheap & skanky, but that any party at home is. THAT is what I (and apparently many others) are objecting to.

We choose house parties because I have social anxiety so fuck you op with your stuck up your own arse ridiculous views.