My mother has informed me I am to be disinherited

[Piecatcher]

This afternoon I phoned my parents (spoke to my mum) to ask about arrangements for Father’s Day this weekend. Before I could speak, she told me that she is going to her lawyers this afternoon to sign her will. Apparently I’ve not to expect anything but my sister and my 2 sons will be very well looked after.

I am unsure what to do with this information. I am incredibly upset at being cast aside like this but not because of the lack of money. I find it so hurtful that my parents think so little of me that they would do this and given that we have a good relationship and are in regular contact I don’t understand why. She made a similar statement a few years ago and when I asked her why she was doing this, she told me that all I care about is money and called me mean and selfish. I’ve tried speaking to my dad who tells me I’m too sensitive and my mum is only joking.

How should I proceed with this? There have been many other similar incidents over the years and I’m now considering cutting contact as I find it hard to deal with the hurt and confusion her comments cause. AIBU reasonable to do this? How should I proceed?

I don’t understand the posters that can’t understand why this wouldn’t be hurtful?

I know. It's a bewildering lack of empathy.

The week after my Mum died my Dad signed the house over to my brother. Took even more crap off him before I became NC but 3 years later I still feel it was the right thing to do. Nobody needs someone who thinks you are less worthy in their lives

My guess is that it was said to get a response/ rise out of you. Cruel and not-funny, I agree.

Your best response is to either ignore it (hard, I know) or to just tell them that you don't care about the money, but are hurt by your mother saying what she did and implying that you were 'expecting' a chunk of money. Then move on.

If you try to get an explanation, then they will have succeeded in getting a rise out of you. Don't give them that satisfaction.