To not attend family friend's wedding for this ridiculousness?

[Alookerer]

My mum, dad, sister and me have been invited to a family friend's wedding. Known her all our lives.

She says on the invite 'No Under 18s'

We did wonder why our other sister wasn't invited. She's 17 (18 a week after the wedding), and has a DC of her own.

My mum did mention in passing if DSister2 was invited if she could arrange childcare and the family friend's response was "Sorry, but I'm sticking with No under 18s".

I think family friend is being unreasonable. It isn't down to venue restrictions, either. It's a very basic wedding with a little buffet and stuff afterwards. I had my wedding at the same location.

I asked my DH, who usually sees both sides and agrees with the other person and not me, and even he agrees it is very odd!

What do you think?

AIBU to think she should be invited?

I think you have done the right thing. There was clearly more going on than your sister being under 18.

Bride had lost better friends in you than you have lost in her.

It’s obvious your so called friend has an issue with your sister that she’s not willing to open up about! Perhaps something to do with the baby’s dad who knows! As a family I think no one should go as a signboard of solidarity to your sister because you stated if this person hadn’t been a friend for so long you’d have dropped her ages ago so that makes me think there’s been issues in the past! Putting age limits on wedding invites isn’t uncommon but this one aimed at your sister is petty beyond belief! My own children have missed big family events like weddings due to age limits and not being able to get childcare for their children and also my niece who was 17 and very mature was left out of one recently for us all to travel south for a family wedding to discover once we got to the church that there were small children there and also young teenagers from the brides side which did annoy me very much as it seemed one rule for the brides side and another for the grooms! My own daughter had an age limit at her day time doo when she got married but children were included at night but there were still 2 aunts who refused to come as they wanted their children there all day but my daughter wouldn’t budge as it was all about numbers and costs and if one was invited then about 2 dozen more children had to be too! My view is DONT GO blood is thicker than water!

Oh my stars at referring to an almost 18 year old mother as a 'one kid'. I hope you have a lovely meal out!

can people not read the thread

other things have been said theyve all decided not to go

Never has the term RTFT applied so much to a thread

Op if you're still reading this you and your family sound awesome and I hope you all have a great night out

I wouldn't go. I know rules are made for a reason but really... Common sense should prevail in these situations.

Btw, I did rtt, but as my two-penneth anyway

Because of a 'no children' rule I declined my nephews wedding invite. It was because of venue cost and size and I did understand the reasoning but it hurt all the same - my children were 18 and 20. Make your own parties is what I got out of it!