Why some women think it's not there job!!

[Damnivy]

Ok so this doesn't apply to those women who can't/shouldn't be doing these things. And I'm not saying this is about all women. (I also know a man like this).

I'm so bored of listening and watching women who can't do things for them selves.
Like.. washing windows (outside), Mowing the lawn, getting in the loft, putting flat packs together, putting diesel in their car. All things iv heard that are apparently a 'man's job'.
Other things like, my SIL never being able to sort her baby out on her own, while out, always dragging DB of to the baby change, if she needs changing, although if it's my DBs turn to change the baby he goes and does it alone.
My sister apparently can't do the food shopping alone as she can't push the trolley and shop at the same time. She also refuses to do any decorating as it's a 'man's job' and even though she has never tried doing it, just knows she wouldn't be able too.
Makes me wonder how some women would ever cope alone.
I'm not saying my DH doesn't do these things, but I would never ask him to cut the grass, fill my car ext.. unless I had a good reason. We split things like most couples, if he is working more hours one week, I do most of the house/childcare stuff, if I'm working more hours then he does it.
I know I sound judgy, and I probably am, I would never say anything about this to them as I don't like to interfere, just really annoyed after watching my sister acting like she cant do anything today!
I wasn't brought up independent, I come from a family who mostly all have these views, many women in my family have never worked, as they belive they should be home with the children. Iv learnt to be independent.
Why are some women like this, and what things have you heard women say they can't do, as they cant/wouldn't be any good at/or class it as 'men's job's'.

I've put up shelves, reorganised lofts, installed new plug sockets with USB points, changed car headlight bulbs, washed windows, driven abroad, changed flat tyres, built furniture, redecorated rooms and mown lawns. I want DS to grow up seeing that women can be just as handy, practical and strong as men. I'll also be teaching him to cook, bake, sew, iron and load the washing machine and dishwasher. I'm still going to let DH handle spider evictions though

This agitates me too! My SIL moaned about my brother not changing the fucking toilet seat, saying she’d bought a new one months ago and he hadn’t change it yet! I was flabbergasted, I just think if you want something like that done, do it yourself!!

No-one needs to learn how to change a tyre. This is why runflat tyres were invented

DS refuses to learn to drive. Which is fair enough - soon no-one will be able to drive - because self-driving cars will be the norm

DD has learned to drive. She is a bit of a boy racer

I do or atleast try to do most things myself before giving in and asking for help if I need it or I pay someone to do it for me.

This year I got a window cleaner and a general gardener who also would do other bits if I asked him. I am capable of both things but I'd rather spend my time doing other things.

I'm of the vein of if you want something done then do it yourself but there are limitations.

I do agree though that nappy changing and other simple things do not require a tag team unless there is a poonami involved.

I wish I had somebody to do the heavy stuff. I used to be able to do it for myself no problem but after 2 lots of spinal surgery and awaiting a hip replacement there are some things I just darent do.

Even mowing the lawn is beyond me some days

I don't get it when people (male or female) are so pathetic they act helpless like they can't do tasks. Women deciding they can't won't fill the car up, cut the grass, put a flat pack together are like men deciding they can't won't cook or can't won't iron because but DW does it much better than me...

Sure, we all settle into routines (I do the lawn, DH does bins etc) but if the bin needs to go out, I do it. If the lawn needs cuttibf and I'm away, DH does it. I can't imagine either of us fannying around because a job is the other person's job.

I do miss being able to do flatpacks.

SIL isn't much younger than me but doesn't have hms. Unfortunately, she doesn't rtfm or even fucking think, some days , leaving DH to sort out the mess.

I don’t mow the lawn because I’m shit at it. I don’t wash the outside windows because I’d fall off the ladders.

I don't do such things because I do very complicated cerebral things involving my brain that I don't see anyone beating the doors to help me.

*their

Takes off my grammar police hat and closes the door behind me

DH mows the lawn purely because it makes my hayfever really bad. Before my hayfever got bad I was Lawnmower in Chief! I do the bins, I fill my own car with petrol, I can change a tyre (but now have dodgy thumbs and wrists which makes it hard so DH does stuff like that now), I do most of the painting, although DH does the 'cutting in' cos I'm crap at it.
He cooks some of the week.
He is in charge of the finances because he enjoys -being nitpicky and anal- keeping the money straight and I would far rather stick my fingers in my ears and go 'la la la' than balance the books. I CAN do it and did it for years but now he prefers to do it.
I am a SAHM now so tend to do a lot more housey stuff than DH which is only fair. Most jobs in this house are divided according to which person is best at the job or is happiest to do it.

I guess some women act helpless, so their hubby will do it or maybe they had no parents who did this things. I cannot believe I had to show a friend how to do basics like painting a wall and sewing when she divorced

Hmmm I wonder. I know I’ve been tempted to seperate off jobs I can definitely do, so as to get SOMETHING onto DH’s list. I sometimes feel I do all the ‘men’ and ‘women’ jobs of yesteryear, plus a few more that modern life has invented.

DH has a bit of household job blindness, so giving him the weekly or monthly jobs (mowing, rubbish, fitting globes) is simpler than giving him the bitsy daily ones. It increases his self-esteem, increases my respect for him, gets things done.

When he’s not around, I do them —far better—

This is me, except I don't think they are mens jobs, just dh's. They are jobs I don't want to do, and I couldn't really give a shiny shit what you thought.
I don't push supermarket trolley as I'm lethal. I could always handle the kids on my own though.
It's great, all these jobs magically get done, all the one's I can't do, for one reason or an other.
it's pitiful watching me mow the lawn or clean the windows.
Aren't families and relationships about teamwork?

A question for you though OP
What makes you think that women who don't work aren't independant?
I'm sure they feel immense independence at not having to work and being able to be with their children.

My husband tends to do the mowing, all the DIY etc and is very good at it as he's an engineer. I can do this stuff but not to the engineers standard, so he tends to like to do it. But I am able, at least. When I bought my previous house and realised from the house insurance policy that I needed a different type of lock I fitted it myself, and decorated the whole house myself. When he had an operation on his foot a year or so ago I cut the grass with the big cylinder mower and did lots of other stuff. Some women can be a bit wet about this stuff. Funniest thing though is when I light a bonfire. He's out of the house like a rocket, assessing whether I have built it correctly (I have) and whether it has good air flow (it has) and whether I am burning down the neighbours' houses (I am not). He can't help it. He's lovely otherwise and does all the ironing and LOADS of stuff, including with the kids so I don't grumble :-)

Outside windows: no brainer, get a window cleaner, they can do it in a fraction of the time!

I don't get how some people get through life. I think it's pretty pathetic when an adult can't cook (usually men) or can't put fuel in their own car (I've known a number of women who have never done this)

If you don't have parents/ family and are a single parent you have to grow up and learn to do everything yourself. Because otherwise it doesn't get done.

I can't bear feigned inability to do tasks. Preferring not to do them is fine - I prefer to leave certain heavy work to my bf. But if he wasn't around I can and would manage on my own.

Someone I know has never done any task in her own home outside of laundry and cooking. She has a cleaner for housework, an ironing lady, and her DH did everything else from mow the lawn to decorating to fuelling the car. They got divorced and she now has to keep him onside so he can keep on doing it all, as she cannot manage on her own. Thankfully he lives just down the road so is still happy to pop round and do the decorating, change a bulb, garden etc. Personally I can't imagine anything worse than being reliant on an ex partner because of some learned helplessness.

It's just the same as men who can't cook or use a washing machine or claim not to notice dust/ be able to do housework.

I built a flat pack double wardrobe and drawers 7 months pregnant while DH slaved in the kitchen. I love building and hate cooking, he loves it. I guess you just do what you're good at, he cooks better than me so why would we swap? Last time I cooked I had to go buy us a Big Mac and I drove there crying because the curry I made was so vile!

MiL is one of these.
Give women a bad name imo.

Gosh if only men got as annoyed by this.

I'd be happy for someone else to do literally everything for me. Unfortunately, I'm a single mother so do it all myself. I don't think it's anything to be proud of particularly.

I cannot physically push the lawnmower because its too heavy so DH does it. He can't make pastry, so I do it.

Your SIL etc do sound a bit bizarre.

For every woman who whines and moans about mowing the lawn or taking out the bins, saying those are men’s jobs, there are men who whine and refuse to change a nappy or do the laundry. There are lazy people of both genders!

I think in my case I genuinely have a bit of difficulty with more physical tasks. If I were to try and put up the picture hooks or lift the new mattresses into the bed or replace the battery in my car somehow, someway I would manage to totally mess it up. Case in point - I once tried to mow our lawn and somehow ended up mowing the cable to the mower. I also fused all the lights in the house. Then I tried with a petrol mower and ended up setting fire to a small patch of grass. I put it out, but the fact is I still did it.
I just am useless with that kind of physical thing. However, I have an excellent memory, so I go shopping without a list, I really like cleaning bathrooms and kitchens and I have a thing about really clean kitchen sides. Because I’m really good at those things - they are my tasks. I like doing them, my husband enjoys diy. So for us we just naturally fall into that pattern - because i am really useless at some tasks.

I don’t do DIY as I’m hopeless. I tried to build flat pack from Ikea and it was a disaster. I fill up my car but I can’t change a tyre and I’m not even going to learn. I don’t care what people think of this and also the bins are my husbands job but I do them when he is away.