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Why some women think it's not there job!!

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Damnivy · 07/06/2018 18:19

Ok so this doesn't apply to those women who can't/shouldn't be doing these things. And I'm not saying this is about all women. (I also know a man like this).

I'm so bored of listening and watching women who can't do things for them selves.
Like.. washing windows (outside), Mowing the lawn, getting in the loft, putting flat packs together, putting diesel in their car. All things iv heard that are apparently a 'man's job'.
Other things like, my SIL never being able to sort her baby out on her own, while out, always dragging DB of to the baby change, if she needs changing, although if it's my DBs turn to change the baby he goes and does it alone.
My sister apparently can't do the food shopping alone as she can't push the trolley and shop at the same time. She also refuses to do any decorating as it's a 'man's job' and even though she has never tried doing it, just knows she wouldn't be able too.
Makes me wonder how some women would ever cope alone.
I'm not saying my DH doesn't do these things, but I would never ask him to cut the grass, fill my car ext.. unless I had a good reason. We split things like most couples, if he is working more hours one week, I do most of the house/childcare stuff, if I'm working more hours then he does it.
I know I sound judgy, and I probably am, I would never say anything about this to them as I don't like to interfere, just really annoyed after watching my sister acting like she cant do anything today!
I wasn't brought up independent, I come from a family who mostly all have these views, many women in my family have never worked, as they belive they should be home with the children. Iv learnt to be independent.
Why are some women like this, and what things have you heard women say they can't do, as they cant/wouldn't be any good at/or class it as 'men's job's'.

OP posts:
Rosebel · 27/11/2020 08:37

I expect some woman are like this for the same reason that some men can't cook/clean /look after the children.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 27/11/2020 08:55

@SquareSausage17

Imagine resurrecting a two year old thread just to flog a jobs website which actually has nothing to do with the original post? What is the point...?
Quite

Especially as there is another thread on here having a pop at women the OP feels don’t pull their weight

I don’t know why zombie threads aren’t locked, its bloody irritating

(She says...as she adds to the post count of a zombie thread)

Pinkyandthebrainz · 27/11/2020 08:58

Agreed it comes across as pathetic. I live alone and do all of those things - because I have to and because actually it's not that bloody hard. If I lived with a man I'm sure I'd continue except we'd share the load. I couldn't be with a man who thought certain roles were mine or his or who equally couldn't do simply DIY tasks which it seems is a skill that's dying out amongst young men.

Dee1975 · 27/11/2020 09:07

I think there is a difference between ‘that’s a mans job’ and ‘I couldn’t possibly do the shopping on my own’ (wtf?!).
I don’t ‘like’ doing certain things. I.e the bins. So yes DH does them every week. And I say in jest ‘yeah you do them as it’s the mans job’. And he happy to do so. But I do other stuff. Things are pretty split equally.
But saying ‘I can’t do x y and z’ on my own is pathetic and attention seeking.
I CAN do the bins. I can do all the jobs DH does (although I prob wouldn’t cut the grass as well because he does a great job!). And he can do the ones I do. But we just split.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 27/11/2020 09:31

Ive lived alone for the past 7 years so do it all....putting bins out...cleaning gutters...mowing lawn...cutting back hedges etc....i cant say i enjoy it but it has to be done.

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