Why some women think it's not there job!!

[Damnivy]

Ok so this doesn't apply to those women who can't/shouldn't be doing these things. And I'm not saying this is about all women. (I also know a man like this).

I'm so bored of listening and watching women who can't do things for them selves.
Like.. washing windows (outside), Mowing the lawn, getting in the loft, putting flat packs together, putting diesel in their car. All things iv heard that are apparently a 'man's job'.
Other things like, my SIL never being able to sort her baby out on her own, while out, always dragging DB of to the baby change, if she needs changing, although if it's my DBs turn to change the baby he goes and does it alone.
My sister apparently can't do the food shopping alone as she can't push the trolley and shop at the same time. She also refuses to do any decorating as it's a 'man's job' and even though she has never tried doing it, just knows she wouldn't be able too.
Makes me wonder how some women would ever cope alone.
I'm not saying my DH doesn't do these things, but I would never ask him to cut the grass, fill my car ext.. unless I had a good reason. We split things like most couples, if he is working more hours one week, I do most of the house/childcare stuff, if I'm working more hours then he does it.
I know I sound judgy, and I probably am, I would never say anything about this to them as I don't like to interfere, just really annoyed after watching my sister acting like she cant do anything today!
I wasn't brought up independent, I come from a family who mostly all have these views, many women in my family have never worked, as they belive they should be home with the children. Iv learnt to be independent.
Why are some women like this, and what things have you heard women say they can't do, as they cant/wouldn't be any good at/or class it as 'men's job's'.

Oh ffs of course your sister and all the other women can DO these things, they just choose not to. There is nothing wrong with spreading the load. Why the hell would you do it all? Or any of it. If we learnt to delegate better than the world would be a much better place for all females.

Women that insist on doing EVERYTHING to prove a point (a point that hardly needs to be made to be fair) are just digging themselves into an early grave. Good luck to them.

I am with your sister and co

We joke in this house about pink jobs and blue jobs but in reality we both just do what needs doing!

This weekend I was in the garden and decided to mow the lawn. When I came in I found DH cleaning the DCs bathroom.

We both bake but he does it more often as it relaxes him so baked a chocolate cake on Sunday. I usually put diesel in the car and do the stuff like checking tyres and pressure, oil, washer fluid etc.

The only thing that is 100% blue job here is cleaning the filters on the pond pump .... that is gross and cold and it’s him that wanted the pond (although I helped build it) so that is definitely one for him.

I even put together a flat pack at work today. In my high heels and pencil skirt 😊.

Agreed @HerRoyalNotness

I don't know any women like that. I lived alone for many years before I was married and still spend the entire week alone now and can do everything I need to do myself.

I don't touch electrics or plumbing issues. Not because I'm a woman but because I don't know about them but I'll try everything else. Most women I know do the same.
I've never met a woman who can't push a trolley and shop at the same time.

I know several women who are like this @TERFragetteCity OP isn’t making it up.

Why are you @ ing me? I'm in the thread!

Stop it please.

I don’t think their’s anything in the house, car, bike etc that dh can do that I can’t.

But there are plenty of things I can do that he can’t. We choose the jobs we are happy doing ie he washes the clothes and hangs them out etc and I sort most of the practical stuff etc ie I changed the sockets in the spare room.

I find most females are a bit pathetic tbh in terms of defining what they ‘can’t’ do. But horses for courses. If that’s they way their family set up works and they’re happy with this, then it’s not a problem for them.

Dh is currently making bread in the kitchen. I’m waiting to do tea, then carry on with the finishing touches to redecorating the spare room while dh mows the lawn. ‘Cos that’s what works for us.

I can be like this sometimes - tbh I'd rather OH change the tyres, remove spiders, and do the generally yucky jobs etc and then there are some things I really can't do with the tools we have e.g. the trimmer is too long for me to use (industrial type), I can't mow one of the hills as I can't move the mower, can't pull the garden bin out up the hill when it is full etc. Of course I'd find a way to do these differently if I had to but I don't have to as OH can do them instead.

But I can do lots of other things typically classed as mens work (fix things, use the chain saw, make all the flat pack, general DIY etc) and he can do loads of typically women's jobs but not all of them.
I think it is normal for a couple to share the jobs and I think we all let the other do the jobs we don't want to do.

When I last went to the dump, there was a couple next to me... he had a broken arm in a cast and was trying to do everything one handed whilst his partner followed him around but she didn’t lift a finger to help!!! Outrageous!!!

Well, I ask DH to cut the grass because it sets off my hayfever. I also think its good for him to have dedicated tasks else if he knew i 'could' do them he'd leave them all to me. So he is responsible for the car and keeping it filled for me. He is also responsible for spider removal. I do all the DIY, he's finally learnt to ask me first rather than my always having to fix his work.

I don't touch electrics or plumbing issues. Not because I'm a woman but because I don't know about them but I'll try everything else. Most women I know do the same.

I fitted our elec shower, and have fitted every car stereo I ever bought. A basic knowledge of electrics is really useful.

It's their BTW OP when talking about a characteristic or item that belongs to someone.
I can do these things, but don't. If I did I'd actively be doing EVERYTHING. It is a little pathetic to not be able to change baby alone but that's often a characteristic of PND to avoid being alone with the baby.

@applesandpears That’s us! DH doesn’t drive, I do, although we don’t actually have a car so it’s only occasionally. His sister does the majority of driving in her relationship though, even though her DP can drive.

We split all our household tasks according to who hates them least. I never hoover, DH never cleans the bathroom. Plus he does most of the ironing (the man is a keeper). I do the DIY within my capabilities and we pay people to do the rest. He hates DIY, although I rope him in for things needing height. But I’m capable of doing all of it if he’s not around and vice versa because we’re adults who lived alone before we got together.

I know men and women like this and it drives me insane.

Men who don't cook, wash up, clean or hoover because 'it's women's work' and seem proud that they can't work the washing machine.

Women who like to behave like it's the 1950's and act all delicate and can't possibly get their hands dirty.

I am fiercely independent and although my body isn't as willing as my brain I can still do most things. Before I moved here I had to redecorate my flat to put on the market - it's a tenement so really high ceilings. I'm a shorty so even on a ladder I couldn't reach the ceilings. I hired a scaffold and then painted each room, dismantled it, moved it to the next room, rebuilt it and ditto. On my own. I've replaced the internal workings of a toilet cistern (with the aid of youtube), can change a tyre, mow the lawn, put the bins out (unless really heavy but only because my back is now buggered).

Likewise DP can operate a kitchen all by himself.

But it annoys me. I'm bringing my girls up to be strong and independent and not subscribe to blue/pink jobs. Because I never want them to have to rely on another person for them to survive.

I was asked for help by an elderly woman at the petrol station who didn’t know how to fill up. Her husband had always done it but had died a few days earlier.
I’m single so have to do pretty much everything myself. I’d never changed a lightbulb nor cut a lawn when I moved out of my parents’ house but you learn.
Having said that I have an odd job man who decorates for me as he does a much better job. And anything else like putting doors back.

I'll be honest I do get my partner to fill the car with diesel if he's with me. But that's only because usually other dipsticks somehow manage to pour diesel over the handle, making my hands stink if there are no gloves at the garage and the smell of diesel makes my head sore in the car then as its all I can smell. I'll fill it if hes not there obviously, but otherwise he does it as he doesn't mind the smell.

Your sister can't push a shopping trolley and shop at the same time...why not?

My sister apparently can't do the food shopping alone as she can't push the trolley and shop at the same time.

This is genius! Sounds like she has found a perfect way to make sure her husband shares the misery of the supermarket shop

I don't touch electrics or plumbing issues. Not because I'm a woman but because I don't know about them but I'll try everything else. Most women I know do the same.

Basic electrics is actually quite easy and I helped rewire our house when we bought it (that was allowed back then). Water plumbing is very simple especially with push fit joints but neither of us touch anything gas...we probably could...but it’s just not advisable..

I cannot believe he falls for it though!

There's a lot of shit that I can definitely do(except driving) and loads more that I'm sure I could try. I just don't wanna do it. So..shock..horror I don't. What I do is more than enough.

I don't get women who generalise about other women based on their own anecdotal evidence.

I have never met a woman like that in my life, and I am 53. Maybe it's just them?

Damnivy I'd be tired of seeing and hearing this too.
Give yourself some congratulations from me.
I've always been a 'roll up my sleeves and get it done' person.

We aren't all the same, tho and couple dynamics are different.

Why have a dog and bark yourself

I do DIY, flat packs, go in loft, change fuses, do phones and camera stuff, but I am not much for gardening and I can't drive. I am more handy DH is more sensitive.