is it cruel to send the DC for 6 weeks in the Summer hols to the holidays club

[whatwouldbe]

I am unable to get any annual leave over the summer which means DC will have to spend the entire summer school hols (6 weeks) in a holiday club. 8:30 - 17:30.

it wasn't planned like that, I was hoping to get 1 weeks off in between but could not.

Several friends and my mum told me that this is cruel. That the DC need a break and downtime. I have no friends who could have the DC for a few days and no family to help (my mum is ill and cannot physically do it).

DC dad cannot have them either (long backstory).

working from home is not an option in my line of work.

It is not a choice for me. I really wanted to spend a few days with them at home. It's not only shit for them, it's alse shit for me. all friends have nice holidays planned and we cannot even have some chilled days at home. but there is nothing I can do.

please tell me you have done it too and that it is ok. I feel really awful after DM and some friends made these remarks.

Wow some people are getting so nasty on here with nothing to support them, that they have to resort to personal attacks on other posters.

Haven’t read all the posts but they’ll be fine, of course they will. If you’re worried then talk to the staff at the holiday club and ask them to keep an extra eye out - if they’re anything like those at my daughter’s school holiday club they’ll understand and will be happy to do that. Might give you a bit of reassurance?

And hadenough despite my clear lack of understanding you STILL haven’t said how you can avoid being in the op’s position. I dont think my question was that hard to understand.

That comment about being a police officer is so fucking rude. When things go wrong I bet you would dial 999.

@TheFreshPrincess0fBelair , I don't think she'd let herself be in that position!

Eh? I don't understand half the posters here. Now I don't work during the weekdays I am off for school holidays and far more days than I would like to admit are spent squabbling around the house. Holiday clubs generally give the children plenty of space and time to relax/play games/computers/read, along with lots of fun activities and excursions. Why would that be a bad thing? Don't beat yourself. I can promise you we don't all sit bonding over making lemonade and having glorious water fights and fun all summer thanks to the 'choices' we've made, like a lot of people commenting here would have you believe

Aero, I can read your posts clearly, they make perfect sense too

I’m finding her comments funny! It’s a chat forum, not higher English and I’m perfectly capable of reading, writing and understanding. I’m nightshift though, so maybe a bit slower than normal!

@Clubcuts yeah she’d never be in a position where she needs paid childcare . . . or the police . . . She’d never be that silly

So what's this great job Had where you can afford to cover all the bills yourself but still walk out at a minutes notice if you don't get thea AL you want and still afford to cover all those billswho?

Od course it isnt cruel. They are cared for ans looked after. Chill at weekends.

Later in the future you will be in a position to take time off.

Thanks Lnd, I was referring to personal attacks at NickNacky

@Nicknacky night shift!?!? @hadenough would never be in a position she had to do night shift!

There are countries such as the US and SA where annual leave is minimal. They wouldn’t have enough to take a casual week or two off because of the school holidays. You are putting your DC into a holiday club which I imagine is quite fun actually, lots of friends to play with and activities to do. It’s hardly like you are ditching them with a boring relative who is going to keep them in the house all day every day, that would be pretty cruel!

You’re doing the best you can OP. If these people aren’t willing to help you then frankly, they have no right to pass comment.

@hadenough thinks the OP should be looking for another job given her specific set of circumstances. She hasn't answered my question about that though.

hardenough no carry on and tell me, I'm all ears. I'm not sure we were discussing why the police aren't respected?

clubcuts When you are a thicko like me you have to take any work you can get.

I loved holiday clubs so much. Please don't feel bad about this..... and don't tell the kid that this is a bad move, it will never know.

I used to work on a summer holiday club and we used to have lots of opportunities for the kids to have quiet time and down time. I would expect any clubs to be mindful of the need for some children to have a bit of time and space. We always had a quiet corner for reading/drawing/Lego etc. They will be absolutely fine! I also suspect that if they’re there consistently for the whole time they will become favourites with the staff who will get to know them well.
(I’ve reported the personal attack.)

@Nicknacky I'm not like you, in all honesty my job in comparison to yours is insignificant.

Perhaps now @hadenough has popped back she'll explain why the OP should look for a new job.
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Oh Op, I was in your position 16 years ago. Ex would not have the children, had to work FT, family unable to help.

Mine went to holiday care, I got a few odd days off here and there. They were fine, did loads of days out, kept entertained and their food was fab.

Don't feel guilty- you're trying your best and showing them how to juggle for when they are older. 😘

Hey everyone, don't worry about what she said. I'm all honesty I would rather the stayed up so people can see what she is like x

Gah, I need to spellcheck, In, not I'm.

@ilovesooty

As I have explained on multiple occasions, I am merely saying what I would do. It's up to the OP to decide what she wants to do.

I would be looking for a new job because I wouldn't allow myself to be in a position where my employer denied me the opportunity to have at least a week to spend with DC during the summer.